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30 Unconventional And Wise Quotes About Hard Truths Of Life

30 Unconventional And Wise Quotes About Hard Truths Of Life

Yes! The biographies of great people who took on the daunting task of changing the world are truly inspiring, their stories of courage and sacrifice fill our veins with adrenaline and make us believe we can change the world on our own. Unfortunately, sometimes everything isn’t so wonderful; the real world is much less dramatic and even more unforgiving.

As we grow up, we realize that the world does not revolve around us and our tenacious effort to make the world better place are no better than the futile labor of Sisyphus who rolled the stone all the way atop a hill only to watch it fall on its weight till eternity.

There are myriads of feel-good quotes on internet which make you feel optimistic and give you positive vibes about life but the majority of these are utopian concepts and barely applicable in day to day life.

On the list below are 30 unorthodox but realistic quotes about the hard truths of life.

1. It is important, but hard work doesn’t always guarantee success.

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    2. Do not wait for miracles, you won’t be getting any.

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      3. You do understand the risks of trying something out of the box and trying to do extraordinary things in life, right?

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        4. No! You’re not Clint Eastwood in the Western movies.

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          5. Going through tough times does not necessarily always mean you’ll be having it easy any time soon, it might also mean tougher times are ahead.

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            6. In case you’re thinking experience will help you solve the riddles of life…

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              7. At least you’ll find solace.

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                8. Might as well give it a try.

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                  9. You might save yourself from frustrations.

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                    10. Hey! Just don’t lose hope okay!

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                      11. You can always save yourself from further embarrassments.

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                        12. Patience is not always a virtue.

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                          13. Being different does not always mean you are useful.

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                            14. Untried and untested – well you look brand new.

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                              15. Sometimes it’s better to never get out of comfort zone, doing things like forming your own company might not work as well as sticking with your job.

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                                16. Remember it could just easily have been you.

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                                  17. Strong determination won’t get you things out of your reach.

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                                    18. There is no point in crying over stupid people.

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                                      19. Respect isn’t only a virtue for friends.

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                                        20. Life is not always fair.

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                                          21. Seize the day HUH!!

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                                            22. Well, in case you think stupid people do not mount to anything.

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                                              23. Well, not because you are passionate or anything…

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                                                24. Taking risk is not always adventurous.

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                                                  25. Accept it! You cannot always give your 100%.

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                                                    26. Your success is what you make of it.

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                                                      27. Eventually people get bored of marriage.

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                                                        28. Well! Being optimistic does not magically creates a better idea.

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                                                          29. Who says lying in couch all day eating junk food is bad?

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                                                            30. Because a job well done is begging to be undone.

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                                                              Life is not so straightforward that if we just do everything right and follow a certain path, we are guaranteed to succeed. Many parameters come into life and even though we don’t want to believe, we are not in complete control of our life and destiny.

                                                              … Which is not to say that we should not do anything about our dreams and leave everything in the hand of the circumstances we have to face. The point of this post is that we should always have a realistic view into life and keep ourselves levelheaded.

                                                              Keeping many ambitions can lead us to plenty of frustrations and often, self-inflicted pain. We should understand that we can’t control everything and it’s alright even when things don’t work out as we might have planned. Letting go of things is a great virtue, indeed. Hope this article helps you in some way!

                                                              Featured photo credit: Hard Life (TetNinja) via tentninja.files.wordpress.com

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                                                              7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                                                              7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                                                              The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

                                                              Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

                                                              Posture

                                                              First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

                                                              • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
                                                              • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
                                                              • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
                                                              • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

                                                              All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

                                                              Facial Expressions

                                                              Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

                                                              • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
                                                              • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
                                                              • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

                                                              If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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                                                              1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

                                                              A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

                                                              The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

                                                              This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

                                                              2. Relax Your Face

                                                              New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

                                                              The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

                                                              To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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                                                              3. Improve Your Eye Contact

                                                              Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

                                                              The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

                                                              To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

                                                              3. Smile More

                                                              There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

                                                              Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

                                                              4. Hand Gestures

                                                              Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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                                                              It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

                                                              5. Enhance Your Handshake

                                                              In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

                                                              “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

                                                              It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

                                                              6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

                                                              As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

                                                              Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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                                                              Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

                                                              Final Takeaways

                                                              Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

                                                              If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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