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You’re A Great Parent Though You Don’t Even Know It

You’re A Great Parent Though You Don’t Even Know It

It’s 2 in the morning. Your newborn baby is crying, and you can’t seem to console your child in any way. You are tired, exhausted, and are about to hit your breaking point. All of these negative thoughts are running through your head. “You are a terrible parent”, “Something is wrong with the baby”, and, of course,”You aren’t doing any of this right”.

Every parent has been in this situation, especially new parents. Parenthood introduces all sorts of challenges that you would never think you would have to face. With all of these challenges, it can be hard to see that you are doing anything right, especially when you are dealing with a screaming kid.

Being a parent is no doubt one of the hardest things that most people will do in their lives, but it is so rewarding. And you are doing a great job at it, even though you may not always think so, and heres a few things that you may do, or feel that show you that you are a good parent.

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You are stressed about everything.

And that is because you care a whole helluva lot. If you didn’t care, you probably wouldn’t stress.

You take charge.

This doesn’t make you overly bossy, or too strict, it makes you a good, responsible parent. Kids need to have limits, and if you don’t take the reigns then you are doing them an injustice.

You give your kids responsibility.

Kids need to have some sort of responsibility, especially when they are younger. They need to learn that they can’t always rely on some one for everything.

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You let them take charge in activities.

Giving kids an opportunity to pick the game, and to make the rules every once in a while. It makes kids feel good to be able to be a leader, and that sticks with them.

You set a good example.

Kids absorb things like they are sponges. Everything you do, or say around them, they take that in. Being respectful towards people is a key example. If your kids see you showing disrespect to someone that may have ticked you off in traffic will say that its okay for them to act like that as well.

You don’t belittle your partner’s parental decisions.

You two are a team, and if you go behind their back on decisions they make regarding your kids, it just tells them that certain rules don’t apply, and that they may not have to listen to them.

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You know how to admit when you are wrong to your kids.

If you tell your kids that they need to do something “because you said so”, and you later realize that that wasn’t such a good thing to do at the time, it doesn’t make you a bad parent. Everybody makes mistakes, and by admitting that you were wrong to your kids teaches them just that.

You let your kids cry themselves to sleep as a baby.

This does not make you a bad person at all. It actually helps your kids learn to calm themselves down and to get themselves to fall asleep, without having to depend on you to do it. It will also help them sleep longer, especially when they are babies who have trouble sleeping through the night.

You like to have some alone time.

This is perfectly normal for a parent. Kids can be super overwhelming, especially when they are young. Let them spend some time at grandmas house, or leave them with your partner, and go out by yourself, or with friends every so often. You need that break to make yourself feel better and to be the best parent you can be.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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