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7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

You might have heard the old adage – “Take your work seriously, but don’t take yourself seriously.”

Easy to understand. Difficult to remember. And even more difficult to make a part of your life.

But, there are a few people who have chosen not to take life seriously and these people are experiencing serious happiness. You may be one of them.

Here are 7 reasons why you may be happier than the rest of the crowd

1. You know that happiness is YOUR choice

You are not looking for happiness from external sources.

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You enjoy material things. You may love parties, movies and music as well. But, you aren’t attached to them. You know that  the source of true happiness is deep within you, and you make everyone around you feel good, too.

2. You fall often, but get back on your feet fast

Just like the rest of the world, you fall often. Where you stand apart is what you do after you fall. Most people stay there playing the victim, finding people to blame and manufacturing excuses so that they can postpone any meaningful action. You, though, take very little time to get back on your feet and start running again.

You know that there is nothing you can do about the past. The more time you spend in the past is time you lose being in the present.

3. You attract like-minded people

Birds of a feather flock together. You attract people who have the same approach of not taking life seriously. Since the conversations in your tribe are mostly uplifting, they help you enjoy life a lot more.

In the same vein, if you stick to your approach, you will notice that people who don’t share that approach start walking out of your life – reducing the noise element.

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4. You utilize selective memory to your advantage

Everyone has selective memory; in other words, nobody remembers everything that has happened.

But you use selective memory to your advantage. You choose to remember the bright things in the past and try your best to ignore things that are not worth remembering.

Note: This is not to say that you ignore your failures and mistakes. You do notice and learn from them. You simply choose to not to play the broken record again and again.

5. You don’t take things personally

Things happen. Mistakes are made. You also get the short end of the stick. That’s part of life.

But you are careful not to take things personally and get your ego involved, and this makes all the difference.

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6. You firmly believe that most people have good intentions at heart

There are two ways to treat people:

a) Test them until they are proven to have good intentions.

b) Believe that people have good intentions until they are proven wrong.

You choose to go with the latter option, and find life is better that way.

There is a clear downside to this approach – you might get taken advantage of in the short-term. There is always a small subset of people who are looking for shortcuts.

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Howevever, the upside is huge. When good people feel trusted, they go out of their way to reciprocate.

7. You know that it’s not what happens to you, but how you react that matters

Most people let what happens to them control their feelings and emotions. But you are different.

You know that how you react to those events matters more than anything else. You don’t have full control of what happens to you; but, you have full control on how you react to them.

You are a gift to the world. Not only are you joyful – you bring joy to those around you!

Featured photo credit: Farrukh via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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