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7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

You might have heard the old adage – “Take your work seriously, but don’t take yourself seriously.”

Easy to understand. Difficult to remember. And even more difficult to make a part of your life.

But, there are a few people who have chosen not to take life seriously and these people are experiencing serious happiness. You may be one of them.

Here are 7 reasons why you may be happier than the rest of the crowd

1. You know that happiness is YOUR choice

You are not looking for happiness from external sources.

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You enjoy material things. You may love parties, movies and music as well. But, you aren’t attached to them. You know that  the source of true happiness is deep within you, and you make everyone around you feel good, too.

2. You fall often, but get back on your feet fast

Just like the rest of the world, you fall often. Where you stand apart is what you do after you fall. Most people stay there playing the victim, finding people to blame and manufacturing excuses so that they can postpone any meaningful action. You, though, take very little time to get back on your feet and start running again.

You know that there is nothing you can do about the past. The more time you spend in the past is time you lose being in the present.

3. You attract like-minded people

Birds of a feather flock together. You attract people who have the same approach of not taking life seriously. Since the conversations in your tribe are mostly uplifting, they help you enjoy life a lot more.

In the same vein, if you stick to your approach, you will notice that people who don’t share that approach start walking out of your life – reducing the noise element.

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4. You utilize selective memory to your advantage

Everyone has selective memory; in other words, nobody remembers everything that has happened.

But you use selective memory to your advantage. You choose to remember the bright things in the past and try your best to ignore things that are not worth remembering.

Note: This is not to say that you ignore your failures and mistakes. You do notice and learn from them. You simply choose to not to play the broken record again and again.

5. You don’t take things personally

Things happen. Mistakes are made. You also get the short end of the stick. That’s part of life.

But you are careful not to take things personally and get your ego involved, and this makes all the difference.

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6. You firmly believe that most people have good intentions at heart

There are two ways to treat people:

a) Test them until they are proven to have good intentions.

b) Believe that people have good intentions until they are proven wrong.

You choose to go with the latter option, and find life is better that way.

There is a clear downside to this approach – you might get taken advantage of in the short-term. There is always a small subset of people who are looking for shortcuts.

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Howevever, the upside is huge. When good people feel trusted, they go out of their way to reciprocate.

7. You know that it’s not what happens to you, but how you react that matters

Most people let what happens to them control their feelings and emotions. But you are different.

You know that how you react to those events matters more than anything else. You don’t have full control of what happens to you; but, you have full control on how you react to them.

You are a gift to the world. Not only are you joyful – you bring joy to those around you!

Featured photo credit: Farrukh via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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