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7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

You might have heard the old adage – “Take your work seriously, but don’t take yourself seriously.”

Easy to understand. Difficult to remember. And even more difficult to make a part of your life.

But, there are a few people who have chosen not to take life seriously and these people are experiencing serious happiness. You may be one of them.

Here are 7 reasons why you may be happier than the rest of the crowd

1. You know that happiness is YOUR choice

You are not looking for happiness from external sources.

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You enjoy material things. You may love parties, movies and music as well. But, you aren’t attached to them. You know that  the source of true happiness is deep within you, and you make everyone around you feel good, too.

2. You fall often, but get back on your feet fast

Just like the rest of the world, you fall often. Where you stand apart is what you do after you fall. Most people stay there playing the victim, finding people to blame and manufacturing excuses so that they can postpone any meaningful action. You, though, take very little time to get back on your feet and start running again.

You know that there is nothing you can do about the past. The more time you spend in the past is time you lose being in the present.

3. You attract like-minded people

Birds of a feather flock together. You attract people who have the same approach of not taking life seriously. Since the conversations in your tribe are mostly uplifting, they help you enjoy life a lot more.

In the same vein, if you stick to your approach, you will notice that people who don’t share that approach start walking out of your life – reducing the noise element.

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4. You utilize selective memory to your advantage

Everyone has selective memory; in other words, nobody remembers everything that has happened.

But you use selective memory to your advantage. You choose to remember the bright things in the past and try your best to ignore things that are not worth remembering.

Note: This is not to say that you ignore your failures and mistakes. You do notice and learn from them. You simply choose to not to play the broken record again and again.

5. You don’t take things personally

Things happen. Mistakes are made. You also get the short end of the stick. That’s part of life.

But you are careful not to take things personally and get your ego involved, and this makes all the difference.

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6. You firmly believe that most people have good intentions at heart

There are two ways to treat people:

a) Test them until they are proven to have good intentions.

b) Believe that people have good intentions until they are proven wrong.

You choose to go with the latter option, and find life is better that way.

There is a clear downside to this approach – you might get taken advantage of in the short-term. There is always a small subset of people who are looking for shortcuts.

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Howevever, the upside is huge. When good people feel trusted, they go out of their way to reciprocate.

7. You know that it’s not what happens to you, but how you react that matters

Most people let what happens to them control their feelings and emotions. But you are different.

You know that how you react to those events matters more than anything else. You don’t have full control of what happens to you; but, you have full control on how you react to them.

You are a gift to the world. Not only are you joyful – you bring joy to those around you!

Featured photo credit: Farrukh via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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