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7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

7 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Take Life Seriously Are Happier

You might have heard the old adage – “Take your work seriously, but don’t take yourself seriously.”

Easy to understand. Difficult to remember. And even more difficult to make a part of your life.

But, there are a few people who have chosen not to take life seriously and these people are experiencing serious happiness. You may be one of them.

Here are 7 reasons why you may be happier than the rest of the crowd

1. You know that happiness is YOUR choice

You are not looking for happiness from external sources.

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You enjoy material things. You may love parties, movies and music as well. But, you aren’t attached to them. You know that  the source of true happiness is deep within you, and you make everyone around you feel good, too.

2. You fall often, but get back on your feet fast

Just like the rest of the world, you fall often. Where you stand apart is what you do after you fall. Most people stay there playing the victim, finding people to blame and manufacturing excuses so that they can postpone any meaningful action. You, though, take very little time to get back on your feet and start running again.

You know that there is nothing you can do about the past. The more time you spend in the past is time you lose being in the present.

3. You attract like-minded people

Birds of a feather flock together. You attract people who have the same approach of not taking life seriously. Since the conversations in your tribe are mostly uplifting, they help you enjoy life a lot more.

In the same vein, if you stick to your approach, you will notice that people who don’t share that approach start walking out of your life – reducing the noise element.

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4. You utilize selective memory to your advantage

Everyone has selective memory; in other words, nobody remembers everything that has happened.

But you use selective memory to your advantage. You choose to remember the bright things in the past and try your best to ignore things that are not worth remembering.

Note: This is not to say that you ignore your failures and mistakes. You do notice and learn from them. You simply choose to not to play the broken record again and again.

5. You don’t take things personally

Things happen. Mistakes are made. You also get the short end of the stick. That’s part of life.

But you are careful not to take things personally and get your ego involved, and this makes all the difference.

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6. You firmly believe that most people have good intentions at heart

There are two ways to treat people:

a) Test them until they are proven to have good intentions.

b) Believe that people have good intentions until they are proven wrong.

You choose to go with the latter option, and find life is better that way.

There is a clear downside to this approach – you might get taken advantage of in the short-term. There is always a small subset of people who are looking for shortcuts.

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Howevever, the upside is huge. When good people feel trusted, they go out of their way to reciprocate.

7. You know that it’s not what happens to you, but how you react that matters

Most people let what happens to them control their feelings and emotions. But you are different.

You know that how you react to those events matters more than anything else. You don’t have full control of what happens to you; but, you have full control on how you react to them.

You are a gift to the world. Not only are you joyful – you bring joy to those around you!

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15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

Books give us the opportunity to live vicariously through the lives of people with greater wisdom than ourselves. They stimulate our brains and help us not only solve the problems we struggle with, but also motivate and inspire us with new ideas.

One of the great things about people who think positively and live happy lives is that they love to help others do the same. There are countless positive-thinking books and these 15 are a great way to help you start living a happy life.

1. Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor E. Frankl

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    This book goes through the horrific struggle of Viktor Frankl who survived holocaust concentration camps. The only thing that kept him going was his idea that everything, even the worst of human suffering, had to have meaning. If you’re struggling through anything in your life, I guarantee the words of Viktor will give you courage to press on and find happiness.

    2. Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

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      What is life’s greatest lesson? Morrie, a retired professor with a fatal disease, opts to use his predicament to share that message as opposed to just giving up and dying. Following the last few months of Morrie’s life will help you realize what is truly important in life.

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      3. The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

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        Similar to Tuesdays with Morrie, Randy is a college professor who finds he has a fatal disease with only a few months to live. It is customary for professors at his university (Carnegie Mellon) to give a final lecture with the basis of ‘what wisdom would you impart to a large group of people if it was your last chance?’ Randy stays incredibly positive throughout and even keeps the lecture humorous and entertaining. Amidst it all, his wisdom is a powerful reminder about how to live a happy, full life.

        4. Earning Freedom by Michael Santos

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          Michael Santos was sentenced to 45 years is prison for selling drugs. During his term he fought hard to earn a masters degree and half of a doctorate (halted by the warden) while writing numerous books educating students about the criminal justice system. This book provides a fascinating window into his entire sentence (released in 2012) and how a positive attitude and strong work ethic got him through it. If he found happiness in prison through positive thinking, we can do it anywhere.

          If you don’t have the attention span to finish a long book, the following quick reads are shorter but just as powerful.

          5. The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper

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            This book has shaped childrens’ minds for years. It illustrates the undeniable fact that when you think positively and believe in yourself, you can accomplish extraordinary things.

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            6. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

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              Happiness is found in giving. What does it mean to love someone? What would you sacrifice for someone you love? This children’s book teaches a valuable lesson about unconditional love and what it truly means to be happy.

              7. The Dash by Linda Ellis and Mac Anderson

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                “When your life is over, everything you did will be represented by a single dash between two dates—what will that dash mean for the people you have known and loved?” (Linda Ellis) We don’t choose a lot of things about our life – parents, birthplace, etc. – but we can choose what that dash between those two dates means. This short book will give you a great perspective on making your life worthwhile.

                8. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

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                  “The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state… Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” (James Allen) This book might be short, but it is jam-packed with statements that will make you stop and think. We truly become what we think we are. Negative thoughts affect us more than we know. Positive thinking = happy life.

                  9. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald  Miller

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                    You are the author of your story. No matter how boring or dull your life has been, you can always turn it around. Donald was in a rut in his life. He had no desire to get out of bed and found himself questioning the meaning of life. Eventually he realized he wasn’t a slave to a pre-written script. He used that mindset to turn around his thoughts, actions, and life. When the closing credits roll on the story of your life, what will people say? Never forget that you have the power to push your limits and live an interesting, happy life.

                    10. The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews

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                      The Traveler’s Gift is a fictional story about a man who is overwhelmed with life and finds himself thrown into numerous true events from history – including Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address. He interacts and learns important life lessons from seven different experiences. The book is full of ways to think more positively and find more success in life.

                      11. David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell

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                        Malcolm Gladwell motivates you to challenge your preconceptions of underdogs and misfits in this thought-provoking book. When you break down the facts in the story of David and Goliath from the Bible, you find that David really wasn’t an underdog at all – he was the one with the advantage. This book outlines story after story after story of people who were at a disadvantage and learned to find the strength in their weakness.

                        12. How Will You Measure Your Life by Clayton M. Christensen

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                          How would you feel if you got to the end of your life only to realize you had been measuring success wrong? Clayton provides a mass amount of wisdom and advice on how to live a life you won’t regret.

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                          13. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

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                            The small things we worry about every day may not seem like a big deal, but they wear us down slowly and stop us from living up to our full potential. Learn how to get rid of those worries and negative thoughts and live a happier life.

                            14. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

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                              C.S. Lewis, who used to be an Atheist, explains how he came to find meaning in life through Christianity. He breaks down all the reasons we doubt and falter in life and how living the principles of Christianity fixes our weaknesses. Lewis is famous for his deep, thought-provoking quotes and this book is no exception.

                              15. Bushido: The Way of the Samurai by Tsunetomo Yamamoto

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                                Bushido is based on the Hagakure, a document that served as the basis for samurai warrior behavior. The document’s purpose was to shape the mind and the spirit of the samurai warrior.

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