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Top 6 Definitions Of Love That Everyone Should Know

Top 6 Definitions Of Love That Everyone Should Know

People say love is pure, painful, sweet, and dreadful — all at once. The truth is, love is a basic necessity in everyone’s life. Everyone needs to be loved to live a proper and healthy life. Love has various definitions. Ask someone and they will give you their own definition of love. Love is a variety of feelings, emotions, and attitude. For some love is more than just being interested physically in someone, it’s an emotional attachment.

Love is more of a feeling that a person feels for another person. People often confuse love and lust. Love means to be deeply committed and connected to someone or something. The basic meaning of love is to feel more than liking towards someone. It is a bond that two people share.

There are a few things you need to avoid when building a new relationship like being too demanding. You need to understand that your partner had a life before you entered. You cannot ask them to give it up, the moment you entered. They have their priorities. Your partner cannot give you attention 24/7. Understand it, respect it. Don’t expect them to change their schedule completely for you.

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1. Love is never rushing into relationships 

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    Give time to yourself and your partner. Take things slow. Know their likes and dislikes. Analyze that would you be willing to share a common bond in the following years. Every person has some habits that would be annoying to you. Think — would you be still sharing the same bond when you see the dark side of a person?

    2. Love is not being jealous 

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      There is no room for jealousy and possessiveness in cases where true love is really there. Being protective is a part of a relationship, but there should be a healthy understanding. Being too much involved can make the other person suffocated in the relationship. They may be having an ex with whom they share an understanding as a friend, but it didn’t work out when they were dating. That is the reason they moved on and now are with you.

      3. Love is giving yourself a chance

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        Just because you both had a conflict in opinion about something doesn’t mean things won’t work out. Give yourself a chance. Your perception and your partner’s perception may differ. Sometimes, that is what makes life exciting!

        4. Love is to stop expecting

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          Stop expecting doesn’t mean to give up on you. But do not expect your partner to do things exactly what you thought they would be doing. It is not right. Your expectations in your relationship may be different from what your partner’s expectation of you is. Respect the fact that they are a little different from you. The more you try to change a person and try to make them act according to you, the less attached they will be with you.

          5. Love is maintaining privacy

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            With social media readily available to share all your problems and people ready to jump to your rescue, we tend to discuss issues over the internet more than we do in person. Never do that. Maintain privacy in your relationship. Talk out the issues with your partner. Don’t use the platform of social media to complain about something that is wrong between you two. A little privacy to your relationship is required.

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            6. Love is avoiding misunderstandings

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              It is easy to have a misunderstanding when you have a conflict of opinion. Try to avoid it. Give a chance to let your partner put forward their point of view. If they are wrong, try talking to them about why you do think are they wrong. Don’t jump to conclusions and create a drama. This is very unhealthy to your relationship.

              Ultimately, love is accepting the other person for who they are.  Encouraging your partner to achieve their dream and respecting each other is true love. True love is a divine feeling that gives a feeling of being complete. It is worth fighting and taking efforts for each other. Love is being there for each other through the thick and thin.  Love cannot be defined in words but can be expressed through actions. Love is being someone’s strength and love can be found in small gestures.

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              Published on May 4, 2021

              How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

              How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

              They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

              In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

              How to Spot Fake People?

              When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

              Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

              1. Full of Themselves

              Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

              Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

              2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

              Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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              It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

              3. Zero Self-Reflection

              To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

              Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

              4. Unrealistic Perceptions

              Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

              A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

              5. Love Attention

              As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

              6. People Pleaser

              Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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              Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

              7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

              Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

              8. Crappy friend

              Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

              It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

              The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

              How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

              It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

              There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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              1. Boundaries

              Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

              2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

              Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

              3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

              If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

              4. Ask for Advice

              If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

              Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

              5. Dig Deeper

              Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

              Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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              6. Practice Self-Care!

              Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

              Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

              Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

              Final Thoughts

              Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

              We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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