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9 Things Only People Who Live Far Away From Their Family Would Understand

9 Things Only People Who Live Far Away From Their Family Would Understand

There are many things in life that could separate you from your family. Sometimes it’s a career, school, or the mere desire to travel. When you’re far away from home, your perspective on the world changes drastically. You will certainly feel some loneliness, and there will be times when you will need to re-examine the true meaning of the term “family”. Yet wherever you go, take comfort in the knowledge that a part your family’s spirit will always be inside of you. Such comforts help you truly understand certain things about your family, even when you live far away from them.

1. You start thinking independently

A family is like a pillar: They provide the emotional and spiritual support that you need to become a better person. But when you take away that support network, you start seeing things from an independent perspective and begin tending to your affairs by yourself.

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2. You become left out of family affairs

Whether it was your sibling getting married or your parents’ anniversary, you lose track of important events within your family. Perhaps you can catch up with your mother on her sixtieth birthday on Facebook or Twitter. However, you still miss the joy of being with your family when they attend a major event.

3. You use your vacation time to go visit them

While others consider a vacation as spending time away from their family, you treat vacation as spending time with your family. And yet, your vacations always feel a little incomplete, because there never seems to be enough time to spend with your family and enjoy it for yourself as well.

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4. You can typically adapt even when your family is not close by

You start adapting and making yourself comfortable in new environments. You see yourself as citizen of the world and feel you can survive anywhere without your family. You are independent, bold, and strong wherever you are.

5. You sometimes get homesick

Everyone has their own definition of what homesickness means. However, where your family lives could still be where you consider home. You miss the food, the laughter, and the ambiance, and you really want to be with your loved ones again. Sometimes you really have to make the sacrifice of restraining that feeling for a while.

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6. You understand and appreciate the meaning of the term “family”

You understand what family means. You miss the support and affection that comforted you when you were with them. You treasure the memories and pleasant moments that you experienced with them. When you meet people that reflect the personalities of your family, you appreciate those people more.

7. You doubt your choices sometimes

You analyze your life and wonder if you actually made the right decision to move so far away from your family. You start to see this as a new phase of your life, and realize you need become adjusted to being on your own and taking on challenges without your family around.

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8. You start understanding the difference between people and places

You realize that family is about the people, not the place. You try to stay in touch and communicate with them as much as you can. The truth is that the place will never matter as much as being with your family or reaching out to them every now and then.

9. You have an evolving relationship with your family

If you were with your family all of the time, your relationship with them would never grow. Somehow when you separate yourself from the other members of your family, your relationship with them evolves and take on a new shape. Sometimes your parents will treat you like a close friend or a sibling rather than the child you were.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they are feeling lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react: How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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