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10 Signs You Have A Trustworthy Boyfriend

10 Signs You Have A Trustworthy Boyfriend

There are many things that you love about your boyfriend. He is sweet, thoughtful and always lets you have the last cookie. The most important thing, above all the rest, is that he is highly trustworthy. Here are some of the reasons why you know you can trust him with your life:

1. He always sticks to his word

Unlike some men that tend to say one thing, but then do something completely different, your man never waivers from his promises. If he made a commitment to hanging out with you and your friends, you know he will be there and not make up an excuse last minute when his friends invite him to watch the playoffs at a local bar.

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2. He has always been honest about his feelings

It is a commonly known that men often bottle up their feelings and would prefer not to discuss them. You know you can trust your man because he is honest about how he feels, whether it is about a certain TV show or a more serious matter like his recent fight with a close friend.

3. He talks openly about his exes

He is not afraid to discuss past relationships and share things that might make other men feel too vulnerable. As old flames inevitably come up in your conversations occasionally, he does not shy away from the hard questions and knows honesty is the best answer.

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4. He trusts you wholeheartedly

When you tell him that you are going out on a girl’s night, you do not have to worry about being bombarded with texts from him asking about your every move. He trusts your judgement and does not show any jealousy when you are not together.

5. He has close friends

One sure sign that he is trustworthy is that he has a couple of close friends that he has known for a long time and they easily trust him as well. Unlike a man who has a large group of acquaintances, but no one close to confide in, your man has friends that have his back, and vice versa.

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6. He never participates in gossip

It may be easy, especially at places like work to fall into a vicious cycle of catching up on the latest gossip or scandal. Your man prefers to avoid falling into this unhealthy behavior and refuses to participate in the rumor mill.

7. He never exaggerates

Whenever he is telling a story, you know that he is recalling it detail for detail. His ability to stick to the truth is something that is highly admirable about him- whereas many other men are often temped to exaggerate a story to show off.

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8. He is always punctual

Being on time can a good indicator that a person is reliable in other parts of their life. Being punctual means that he cares about other people’s time, especially yours, and guys who are caring are more likely to be trustworthy.

9. He takes responsibility for his actions

He understand the importance of being accountable for his actions and not shifting the blame onto others. He knows that even if he made a mistake, being honest about it is better for both of you in the long run.

10. He pays attention to the small things

He is mindful of keeping track of the small things, like how you make your coffee with two teaspoons of sugar and a drop of milk. He remembers to keep the toilet seat down after he uses the bathroom and he makes sure to clean up after he shaves. His attention to detail shows that he cares and that he is trustworthy.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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