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4 Reasons Why There’s A Point To Everything We Do

4 Reasons Why There’s A Point To Everything We Do

You like to knit, read, hike, swim, and/or motorbike. You spend the majority of your days working hard, working out, and/or working in your garden. You play video games for hours, watch Netflix for days, and/or vacation for weeks.

I often used to find myself pondering about life, and the meaning of it. Daily, I would question the point of anything I needed to do, or should be doing. I was sinking deeper into depression; I just didn’t know it at the time. Why was I so unhappy? Why did I see no point to anything?

Because of depression, I’ve come to a conclusion: there are four reasons why there’s a point to everything we do. These four reasons make up our hobbies, our interests, and the activities in which we enjoy, each and every day. If we lose these four reasons, we lose our identity. No amount of money, no amount of attention or affection, and no amount of security, can help us see a point without them. Without them, we feel as if we were only born to eat, sleep, pay bills, and repeat the process.

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Once we begin to welcome these simple yet effective reasons into our lives, we will always be able to see a point in everything we do!

Reason #1: Purpose

Without purpose it’s hard to find a point to anything. Purpose drives us. It pushes us. It challenges us to be as true to ourselves as humanly possible. Purpose is personal. For some, purpose means building a family. To others, it means building an entrepreneurial empire.

To find purpose, is to find yourself. Who are you? What are you about? Once you can answer these questions and understand your personal purpose, your life mission will be mapped out right in front of you. Just remember to enjoy the journey along the way!

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Reason #2: Achievement

Achievements release our fear of failure. They also help build our will to challenge ourselves. To live without the will to achieve, is to live in fear.

What’s holding you back from an achievement? Achievements are what make you proud to be who you are, and where you are going. So whether you win a board game with friends, wake up on time, fall in love with your partner more each day, or even just sweep the floor, you can always find achievements in your everyday life. If you struggle to find your daily achievements, make a list of goals that you wish to achieve and go out and achieve them today, tomorrow, and for the rest of your life!

Reason #3: Perspective

Perspective can set the mood to any situation. Look at how some people will complain about the rain, while others will go out and dance in it.

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What would you rather do, dance or complain? Perspective depends on attitude. Do you have a positive attitude, or a negative attitude? Negative perspective draws negative attention, so if you tend to think the worse of everything, you might be attracting the worse in everything you do. If you’re up for the challenge, today is your day to make a change in your perspective!

Reason #4: Happiness

If you look around the world, happiness is relatively flexible. Some people can be happy with very little, while others feel depleted when they can’t have it all. But why? They say happiness is a choice, but to me, happiness is not a choice. Instead, happiness comes naturally once you begin living life for yourself.

Are you happy today? If not… what are you going to do to change that? What does happiness mean to you?

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Conclusion

If you feel as if you are struggling to find your identity, based on what the world or society thinks is right for you, I challenge you to challenge yourself by exploring these four avenues. You never know what’s on the other side of fear. There’s always a point to everything you do. Remember your purpose, achievement, perspective, and happiness, and you’ll get there!

Featured photo credit: Do I look Pretty? / Ryan McGuire via imcreator.com

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Last Updated on July 23, 2019

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

In the journey of growth, there are times when we grow and excel. We are endlessly driven and hyped up, motivated to get our goals.

Then there are times when we stagnate. We feel uninspired and unmotivated. We keep procrastinating on our plans. More often than not, we get out of a rut, only to get back into another one.

How do you know if you are stagnating? Here are some tell-tale signs:

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  • If you have been experiencing chronic procrastination on your goals
  • If you don’t ever feel like doing anything
  • If you keep turning to sleep, eating, games, mindless activities and entertainment for comfort
  • If you know you should be doing something, but yet you keep avoiding it
  • If you have not achieved anything new or significant now relative to 1 month, 2 months or 3 months ago
  • If you have a deep sense of feeling that you are living under your potential

When we face stagnation in life, it’s a sign of deeper issues. Stagnation, just like procrastination, is a symptom of a problem. It’s easy to beat ourselves over it, but this approach is not going to help. Here, I will share 5 steps to help you move out of this stagnation. They won’t magically transform your life in 1 night (such changes are never permanent because the foundations are not built), but they will help you get the momentum going and help you get back on track.

1. Realize You’re Not Alone

Everyone stagnates at some point or another. You are not alone in this and more importantly, it’s normal. In fact, it’s amazing how many of my clients actually face the same predicament, even though all of them come from different walks of life, are of different ages, and have never crossed paths. Realizing you are not alone in this will make it much easier to deal with this period. By trying to “fight it”, you’re only fighting yourself. Accept this situation, acknowledge it, and tell yourself it’s okay. That way, you can then focus on the constructive steps that will really help you.

2. Find What Inspires You

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Stagnation comes because there isn’t anything that excites you enough to take action. If you don’t have a habit of setting goals, and instead just leave yourself to daily mundanes, it’s not surprising you are experiencing stagnation. What do you want to do if there are no limitations? If you can have whatever you want, what will it be? The answers to these questions will provide the fuel that will drive you forward.

On the other hand, even if you are an experienced goal setter, there are times when the goals you set in the past lose their appeal now. It’s normal and it happens to me too. Sometimes we lose touch with our goals, since we are in a different emotional state compared to when we first set them. Sometimes our priorities change and we no longer want to work on those goals anymore. However, we don’t consciously realize this, and what happens is we procrastinate on our goals until it compounds into a serious problem. If that’s the case for you, it’s time to relook into your goals. There’s no point in pursuing goals that no longer inspire you. Trash away your old goals (or just put them aside) and ask yourself what you really want now. Then go for them.

3. Give Yourself a Break

When’s the last time you took a real break for yourself? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year? Never? Perhaps it’s time to take a time-out. Prolonged working can cause someone to become disillusioned as they lose sight of who they are and what they want.

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Go take some extended leave from work. A few days at bare minimum; a few weeks or months will be great. Some of my ex-colleagues have quit their jobs and took months out to do some self-reflection. Of course, some of us might not have that luxury, so we can stick to a few weeks of leave. Go on a trip elsewhere and get away from your work and your life. Use this chance to get a renewed perspective of life. Think about your life purpose, what you want and what you want to create for your life in the future. These are big questions that require deep thinking over them. It’s not about finding the answers at one go, but about taking the first step to finding the answers.

4. Shake up Your Routines

Being in the same environment, doing the same things over and over again and meeting the same people can make us stagnant. This is especially if the people you spend the most time with are stagnant themselves.

Change things around. Start with simple things, like taking a different route to work and eating something different for breakfast. Have your lunch with different colleagues, colleagues you never talked much with. Work in a different cubicle if your work has free and easy seating. Do something different than your usual for weekday evenings and weekends. Cultivate different habits, like exercising every day, listening to a new series of podcasts every morning to work, reading a book, etc (here’s 6 Proven Ways To Make New Habits Stick). The different contexts will give you different stimulus, which will trigger off different thoughts and actions in you.

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When I’m in a state of stagnancy, I’ll get a sense of what’s making me stagnate. Sometimes it’s the environment I’m in, sometimes it’s the people I’ve been hanging out with, sometimes it’s my lifestyle. Most of the times it’s a combination of all these. Changing them up helps to stir myself out of the stagnant mode.

5. Start with a Small Step

Stagnation also comes from being frozen in fear. Maybe you do want this certain goal, but you aren’t taking action. Are you overwhelmed by the amount of work needed? Are you afraid you will make mistakes? Is the perfectionist in you taking over and paralyzing you?

Let go of the belief that it has to be perfect. Such a belief is a bane, not a boon. It’s precisely from being open to mistakes and errors that you move forward. Break down what’s before you into very very small steps, then take those small steps, a little step at a time. I had a client who had been stagnating for a long period because he was afraid of failing. He didn’t want to make another move where he would make a mistake. However, not wanting to make a mistake has led him to do absolutely nothing for 2-3 years. On the other hand, by doing just something, you would already be making progress, whether it’s a mistake or not. Even if you make a supposed “mistake”,  you get feedback to do things differently in the next step. That’s something you would never have known if you never made a move.

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