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Every Woman Should Read These 6 Books Recommended By Sheryl Sandberg

Every Woman Should Read These 6 Books Recommended By Sheryl Sandberg

If you’re still looking for inspirational reads that fit in with the long book list already recommended by your BFFs, then take a look at the books Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg praised in a recent New York Times interview.

1. Bossypants by Tina Fey

Bossypants

    Topic: If the bossypants fit, wear them!

    Tina Fey takes a critical but humorous look at her career, life, media, and motherhood. The comedian discusses the important issues women in the workplace face every day.

    Best quotation: “When faced with sexism, or ageism, or lookism, or even really aggressive Buddhism, ask yourself the following question: ‘Is this person in between me and what I want to do?’ If the answer is no, ignore it and move on.”

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    2. Conscious Business by Fred Kofman

    business


      Topic: Holding on to your ethical values in business is an advantage, not disadvantage.

      The book advocates that success can emerge naturally when we hold onto and act on ethical values. Studies prove that men in the workplace act far more unethically than female employees. Therefore, the book’s stance on the role ethics play in business taps into a natural trait of character most women share.

      Best quotation: “Have you ever driven down the highway on cruise control, engaged in a conversation or daydreaming, only to realize you missed your exit?… Relevant details, such as your location and the actions needed to reach your goal, receded from the forefront of your mind. Your eyes were open, but you didn’t see. This is a poor way to drive — and an even poorer way to live.”

      3. A Short Guide to a Happy Life by Anna Quindlen

      Happy Life
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        Topic: Women, take charge of your own lives!

        Quindlen looks at how women view themselves and their roles in society by charting some vaguely linked personal observations and encouraging women to take charge of their own lives.

        Best quotation: “You are the only person alive who has sole custody of your life. Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk, or your life on the bus, or in the car, or at the computer. Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart.”

        4. Now, Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton

        Discover

          Topic: Build on your strengths, ladies!

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          The book advises readers to concentrate on their strengths, not their weaknesses, which in the case of women in the workplace means that, instead of adopting a masculine approach to management, it is far more advantageous for women to concentrate on their own unique way of managing.

          Best quotation: “From this point of view, to avoid your strengths and to focus on your weaknesses isn’t a sign of diligent humility. It is almost irresponsible. By contrast, the most responsible, the most challenging, and, in the sense of being true to yourself, the most honorable thing to do is face up to the strength potential inherent in your talents and then find ways to realize it.”

          5. Home Game by Michael Lewis

          Michael Lewis

            Topic: Men struggle just as much while juggling parenthood and job.

            Lewis’s book takes a warts-and-all, humorous look at fatherhood from the male point of view. Women readers will recognize themselves in the struggling parent and be pleasantly surprised that men find it just as hard to juggle parenthood with workplace commitments.

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            Best quotation: “If you remembered what new parenthood was actually like you wouldn’t go around lying to people about how wonderful it is, and you certainly wouldn’t ever do it twice.”

            6. The Lean Startup by Eric Ries

            The lean startup

              Topic: Startups don’t fit into conventional concepts of management methods.

              Ries’s book serves as a guide for starting up a business on a tiny budget. His advice will particularly resonate with female readers, who often yearn for, but don’t realize their dream of starting up a business.

              Best quotation: “The first problem is the allure of a good plan, a solid strategy, and thorough market research… The overwhelming temptation is to apply them to startups too, but this doesn’t work, because startups operate with too much uncertainty. Startups do not yet know who their customer is or what their product should be… The old management methods are not up to the task.”

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              Last Updated on October 14, 2020

              Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

              Had a Bad Day? 7 Ways to Rebound From It and Feel Good Again

              Today didn’t turn out as you planned, but it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means that you’re human, and you’re not bad just because you had a bad day.

              “Not everyday is a good day but there is something good in every day.” -Alice Morse Earle

              It’s not the end of the world when you find yourself thinking “I had a bad day,” but it can feel like it. You may have had plans that fell apart, experiences that set you back, and interactions that only did harm.

              You may have started the day thinking you could take on it all, only to find you could hardly get out of bed. When you have a bad day, you can forget to look at the good.

              Sometimes, self-care helps us to remember why we are worth it. It helps us to recharge and reset our mindset. It helps us to know that there are still options and that the day isn’t over yet.

              Love yourself today, no matter how hard it’s been. That’s the way to find yourself amidst the hardships you have. That’s how you center yourself and regain focus and live a more meaningful life. Give yourself some credit and compassion.

              Here are 7 ways to rebound from a bad day using self-compassion as a tool. If you had a bad day, these are for you!

              1. Make a Gratitude List

              In a study on gratitude, psychologists Dr. Robert A Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough conducted an experiment where one group of people wrote out gratitude lists for ten weeks while another group wrote about irritations. The study found that the group that wrote about gratitude reported more optimistic mindsets in their lives[1].

              Overall, having a gratitude list improved well-being and made one truly grateful by counting the blessings in their lives.

              Write a list of what you are grateful for if you had a bad day. Make it as long as you like, but also remember to note why you’re grateful for each thing you write.

              What has given you the most joy? What has set you up for better days? Keep a tally of triumphs in mind, especially when you do have the bad days.

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              The day doesn’t define you, and you still have things of value that surround you. These could be material things, spiritual connections and experiences, relationships, basic needs, emotional and mental well-being, physical health, progress towards hopes and dreams, or simply being alive.

              Here are some other simple ways to practice gratitude.

              2. Write in a Journal

              Journaling affects your overall mental health, which also affects physical health and aids in the management of stress, depression, anxiety, and more[2].

              All you need is a pen and paper, or you could do an online, password-protected journal such as Penzu. The key is to get started and not pressure yourself on how polished or perfect it is. You don’t need to have prior experience to start journal writing. Just start.

              Write out everything that is bothering you for 15 minutes. This helps with rumination, processing problems, and can even aid with brainstorming solutions.

              However you approach it, you can find patterns of thinking that no longer serve you and start to transform your overall mental state. This will impact all areas of your life and is a great coping skill.

              3. Meditate

              Meditation can help you overcome negative thought patterns, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, or struggling to overcome a bad day[3]. It shifts your mentality and helps you focus on the present or any one thing you truly want to focus on.

              Here is an example of a meditation you can do:

              Get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Rest your body, release tension, and unclench your jaw. Tighten and release each muscle group in a body scan for progressive muscle relaxation.

              Focus on your breath, taking a few deep breaths. Let your belly expand when you breathe in for diaphragmatic breathing. Empty yourself completely of air, then return to normal breathing.

              Next, focus on the idea of self-love and let it erase negative thoughts. Think about the ways you’ve been judging yourself, with the narratives coming up that your mind may create.

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              Give yourself unconditional love and release judgment. Take your time meditating on this because you matter. This is particularly important if you had a bad day.

              Check out this article for more on how to get started with a meditation practice.

              4. Do Child’s Pose

              Yoga Outlet says:

              “Child’s Pose is a simple way to calm your mind, slow your breath, and restore a feeling of peace and safety. Practicing the pose before bedtime can help to release the worries of the day. Practicing in the morning can you help transition from sleeping to waking.”[4]

              When you do Child’s Pose, it can be between difficult positions in yoga, or it can be anytime you feel you need a rest. It helps you recover from difficulties and relax the mind.

              It also has the physical health benefits of elongating your back, opening your hips, and helping with digestion[5].

              To do Child’s Pose, rest your buttocks back on your feet, knees on the floor. Elongate your body over your knees with both arms extended or tucked back, with head and neck resting on the floor[6].

              Had a bad day? Try Child's Pose.

                 

                Do this pose as a gift to yourself. You are allowing yourself to heal, rest, get time for yourself, recover, and recharge. When you’ve had a bad day, it’s there waiting for you.

                5. Try Positive Self-Talk

                Engage in positive self-talk. This is essentially choosing your thoughts.

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                When you have a negative thought, such as “I can’t do this,” replace it consciously with the thought “I can do this.” Give yourself positive affirmations to help with this.

                Negative self-talk fits into four general categories: personalizing or blaming yourself, magnifying or only focusing on the negative, catastrophizing or expecting the worst to happen, and polarizing or only seeing back and white[7].

                When you stop blaming yourself for everything and start focusing on the positive, expecting things to work out, and seeing the areas of grey in life, you reverse these negative mindsets and engage in positive self-talk.

                When you speak words of kindness to yourself, your brain responds with a more positive attitude. That attitude will affect everything you do. It’s how you take care of yourself if you had a bad day.

                Check in with yourself to know when you are having negative self-talk. Are you seeing patterns? When did they start to become a problem? Are you able to turn these thoughts around?

                6. Use Coping Skills and Take a Break

                Use your coping skills. This means not letting your thoughts take control of yourself.

                You can distract yourself and escape a bit. Do things you love. You can exercise, listen to music, dance, volunteer or help someone, be in nature, or read a book.

                It isn’t about repression. It’s about redirection. You can’t stay in thoughts that are no longer working for you.

                Sometimes, it’s okay to get out of your own way. Give yourself a break from the things going on in your head. You can always come back to a problem later. This may even help you figure out the best course of action as sometimes stepping away is the only way to see the solution.

                If you had a bad day, you may not feel like addressing what went wrong. You may need a break, so take one.

                7. If a Bad Day Turns Into Bad Days

                “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” –Jim Carrey

                If you’ve been feeling out of control, depressed, or unstable for more than a few weeks, it’s time to call a mental health professional. This is not because you have failed in any way. It’s because you are human, and you simply need help.

                You may not be able to quickly rebound from a bad day, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but don’t let it consume you.

                When you talk to a professional, share the techniques that you have already tried here and whether they were helpful. They may tell you additional ideas or gain insights from your struggles of not being able to rebound from a series of bad days.

                If you’re having more than just a bad day, they will want to know. If you don’t have the answers, that’s okay, too. You just need to try these tools and figure out how you’re feeling. That’s all that’s required of you.

                Keep taking care of yourself. Any progress is progress, no matter how small. Give yourself a chance to get better by reaching out.

                Final Thoughts

                If you had a bad day, don’t let it stop you.

                Know this: It’s okay not to be okay. You have a right to feel what you feel. But there is something you can do about it.

                You can invest in yourself via self-care.

                You are not alone in this. Everyone has bad days from time to time. You just need to know that you are the positive things you tell yourself.

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