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Stop Blaming Yourself For External Factors- Invest In Yourself

Stop Blaming Yourself For External Factors- Invest In Yourself

It is easy to blame others for our failures.

We could target our resentment at a bad government, callous parents, an awful spouse, or not enough formal education. Many drain themselves with such negative energy and assume they are ill-equipped for success. But according to motivational speaker and author Brian Tracy, eighty percent of our failures are caused by factors that stem from within ourselves.

We can learn from the story of CEO Jan Koum who sold his company, WhatsApp, for a staggering 19 billion dollars to Facebook. Jan Koum emigrated to the U.S from Ukraine two decades ago. He and his family lived on food stamps. Yet, today he’s worth over 6 billion dollars. Success is never determined by the external, but rather what happens when you start looking inwards to develop yourself to meet the demands of the external world.

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“Eighty percent of success is showing up.” – Woody Allen

So, there’s no need to whine and complain. Start investing in yourself in these simple ways:

Read

“Watch, listen, and learn. You can’t know it all yourself. Anyone who thinks they do is destined for mediocrity.” – Donald Trump.

They say every leader is a reader. It is not just about consuming junk material. Rather find topics that will influence you positively towards reaching your goals. Whether your reading material is found in the form of eBooks, hard back, paper back, or audiobooks, there are more than enough reasons for you to pick up a book today.

Safeguard your time

“How you climb a mountain is more important than reaching the top.” – Yvon Chouinard, founder Patagonia

You may not have wealth, but when you are at rock bottom, time is synonymous with wealth. How you use it will determine how far you go. Investing in yourself means that you use your time to gain connections, knowledge, and engage in activities that will propel you towards meeting your goals. You can be generous with every other thing- but not your time.

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Engage in a healthy lifestyle

“Fat, drunk, and stupid is no way to go through life, son.” – Dean Wormer

There is nothing as destructive as engaging in activities that take a toll on your physical and mental health. Your body is the vehicle that you will use to reach success. How you use it will determine how far you will go. Exercise, sleep, eat well, relax, socialize, and ponder deeply. Even if you have to meditate or do something spiritual, remember to always engage in the basic activities that will stimulate your body and mind.

Take calculated risks

“If you’re not a risk taker, you should get the hell out of business.” – Ray Kroc, founder of McDonald’s.

Learning is not just about getting everything correct all the time. The way we are taught in formal institutions is that we have to be accurate in everything we do. However learning should involve gaining experience, making mistakes, and learning from them. Successful people take risks- although they are calculated ones- and try to follow an unorthodox approach to reaching their goals. Finding new ground and gaining interesting experiences can only be achieved through taking actions that some might consider risky. Without risks there can be no rewards.

Understand your strengths

“Experience taught me a few things. One is to listen to your gut, no matter how good something sounds on paper. The second is that you’re generally better off sticking with what you know. And the third is that sometimes your best investments are the ones you don’t make.” – Donald Trump

There is no point in chasing too many goals all at once. We all have limitations. That is why successful people invest in their strengths, rather than in their weaknesses. Successful people discover the things that they are very good at, and they build their careers around those strengths.

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Investing in yourself is the best way to attain success. Not only does your approach to achieving goals become consistent when you go through this process, it also allows you to deal well with success when you achieve it.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2020

7 Reasons Why Quitting Facebook Now Is Good for Your Future

7 Reasons Why Quitting Facebook Now Is Good for Your Future

For the past 100 years or so, there have been huge improvements in communication. From letters to phone calls to text messages to video calls to social networks. Following all these improvements, one of the biggest inventions of the 21st century was founded in 2004[1], and it started to spread like wildfire, first in the US and then around the world. Now, quitting Facebook has become nearly unheard of.

There are more than 1 billion monthly active Facebook users. Although initially it aimed to bring all people together for the sake of connecting, the effects of Facebook on masses became a huge debate after it gained so much popularity, with some even suggesting you deactivate your account.

The advantages of social media and its ability to connect us to people around the world are well known. Now, it’s time to dive into the ways Facebook affects your productivity and why you should ultimately consider quitting Facebook.

1. Facebook Allows You to Waste Time

While being on Facebook and scrolling through the news feed, many active users are not aware of the time they actually spend on viewing others’ life events or messaging with Facebook messenger. It has become so addictive that many even feel obliged to like or comment on anything that is shared.

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You might think of the time spent on Facebook as your free time, though you are not aware that you can spend the same time taking care of yourself, learning something new, or doing your daily tasks.

2. It Can Decrease Motivation

By seeing someone else’s continuous posts about the parties they went to or friends they see frequently, you might feel insecure about yourself if your own posts are not as impressive as the ones in your news feed.

However, there is rarely such a thing as going out every day or having amazing vacations every year. Unfortunately, though, we internalize the posts we see and create a picture in our minds of how others are living.

One study found that “participants who used Facebook most often had poorer trait self-esteem, and this was mediated by greater exposure to upward social comparisons on social media”[2].

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Basically, when we see posts depicting lives we consider “better” than ours, our self-esteem takes a hit. As many of us are doing this for hours at a time, you can imagine the toll it’s taking on our mental health. Therefore, if you want to raise your self-esteem, quitting Facebook may be a good idea.

3. You Use Energy on People You Don’t Care About

Look at the number of friends you have on Facebook. How many of them are really good friends? How many of the friend requests you get are real people or your actual acquaintances?

You have to admit that you have people on Facebook who are not related to you and some you barely know, but who still comments on their photos or offer a like now and again. Basically, instead of offering your time and energy to the genuinely rewarding relationships in your life, you’re spending it on people you don’t really care about.

4. Facebook Feeds You Useless Information

It is one thing to read newspapers or magazines in order to get information, but it is an entirely different thing to be faced with false news, trends, and celebrity updates through continuous posts. I bet one of the things that you will not miss after quitting Facebook is the bombardment of information that seems to have no effect on your life whatsoever.

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5. It Damages Your Communication Skills

When is the last time you actually hung out in real life with your friends, relatives, or colleagues? Because of the social media that is supposed to help us communicate, we forget about real communication, and therefore, have difficulties communicating effectively in real life. This negatively affects our relationships at home, work, or in our social circles.

6. You Get Manipulated

One of the biggest problems of Facebook is its influence on people’s creativity. Although it is assumed to be a free social media site, which let’s you to share almost anything you want, you have this tendency to want to get more likes[3].

In order to get more likes, you must work very hard on your shared posts, trying to make it funny, creative, or clever, while you could spend the same time doing something that genuinely improves your creativity. After quitting Facebook, you’ll be amazed at all the creative hobbies you have time to develop.

7. It Takes Over Your Life

The marketing strategy of Facebook is quite clear. Its creators want you to spend as much time as possible on the site. While working on their posts and choosing which pictures to share, many people actually try to be someone else. This often means they end up being isolated from the real world and their true selves.

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It is possible to put the same time and energy toward becoming a better version of yourself instead of faking it. Why not try it by quitting Facebook?

Final Thoughts

There are many reasons to try quitting Facebook. By knowing how it may be impacting your productivity and mental health, you can search for motivation to get off social media and back into your real life.

These points will guide you in seeing what your life would be like if you were to delete your account. Leaving Facebook doesn’t sound so bad after all, does it?

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Reference

[1] The Guardian: A brief history of Facebook
[2] Psychology of Popular Media Culture: Social comparison, social media, and self-esteem.
[3] Better by Today: Do Facebook ‘Likes’ Mean You’re Liked?

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