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What People Who Appear To Be Indifferent Want To Tell You

What People Who Appear To Be Indifferent Want To Tell You

We live in our own worlds and do not want to be consumed in the external. We are content with who we are want we have. We may not have personal convictions, strong beliefs, principles, or any kind of soul. We just want to be distant and unengaged. Perhaps this is the best for us after all.

1. We don’t really care

Yes we don’t care. We can numb our feelings and will make dumb conversationalists. Perhaps we are so caught up in our world that what is going on the outside simply doesn’t bother us.

2. We don’t focus on the world

There are so many distractions. We just can’t stand a lot of this especially when we are pushed to buy into what everyone is trying to sell to us. We will rather focus on ourselves instead.

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3. We suck at relationships

Yes you want us to show some emotions and tell us how we feel, but we won’t. Because we know that you as our partner do not determine our emotions should be. We evidently suck at relationships because it is possible we are not giving you our all.

4. We want to be mysterious

We really don’t want you to figure us out. We practically keep most of our opinions and plans to ourselves. We make it a practice not to be expressive. And people may consider us to be a labyrinth of many unknown paths.

5. We have got the world figured out

At least in our own way, we have got the world figured out. We understand that not everyone will like us and will give us what we ask. We know we can’t fix the world and we are not ready to give it a try.

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6. We are responsible for ourselves

We accept full responsibility for whom we are; our thoughts, opinions and expressions. The truth is that we cannot be responsible for other people, whether their misfortunes or insecurities.

7. We know that only people who matter will stick around

Since we own we are and do not mind what others think about us we know that only the great friends who appreciate who we are will stay. It is not as if we are fake or nasty, we are simply indifferent.

8. We don’t want arguments

Getting embroiled in arguments and disputes can be emotionally draining to us. We want to avoid difficult situations the best we can.

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9. We really are not focused on the consequences

This means sometimes we are shortsighted and do not see how far our indifference can cause irreparable damages. We protect ourselves with our indifference since we are indifferent to do outcomes of events.

10. We are not developmental

We are not progressive or trying to make things better. Our environment can be static and unresponsive and we really do not care much about making an input into making a change or improving the lives of those people around us.

11. We are static too

Because we are not focused on making a difference in the lives of others we also affect ourselves because we don’t really improve much. We are static and could be doing the same thing for many years.

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12. We cannot be classified

Since we are indifferent, we really don’t care about our social status or what group we belong in. What this means is that people will find it hard to classify us whether we are in or out of a group or a situation.

13. We won’t seize opportunities

Yes opportunities will come. But since we emotionally detached and do not want to get too involved, we will be indifferent to opportunities and let events pan out without us making a contribution or effect. It is best for us this way because we may not be crushed and emotionally invested in anything that will take us away from ourselves.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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