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What People Who Appear To Be Indifferent Want To Tell You

What People Who Appear To Be Indifferent Want To Tell You

We live in our own worlds and do not want to be consumed in the external. We are content with who we are want we have. We may not have personal convictions, strong beliefs, principles, or any kind of soul. We just want to be distant and unengaged. Perhaps this is the best for us after all.

1. We don’t really care

Yes we don’t care. We can numb our feelings and will make dumb conversationalists. Perhaps we are so caught up in our world that what is going on the outside simply doesn’t bother us.

2. We don’t focus on the world

There are so many distractions. We just can’t stand a lot of this especially when we are pushed to buy into what everyone is trying to sell to us. We will rather focus on ourselves instead.

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3. We suck at relationships

Yes you want us to show some emotions and tell us how we feel, but we won’t. Because we know that you as our partner do not determine our emotions should be. We evidently suck at relationships because it is possible we are not giving you our all.

4. We want to be mysterious

We really don’t want you to figure us out. We practically keep most of our opinions and plans to ourselves. We make it a practice not to be expressive. And people may consider us to be a labyrinth of many unknown paths.

5. We have got the world figured out

At least in our own way, we have got the world figured out. We understand that not everyone will like us and will give us what we ask. We know we can’t fix the world and we are not ready to give it a try.

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6. We are responsible for ourselves

We accept full responsibility for whom we are; our thoughts, opinions and expressions. The truth is that we cannot be responsible for other people, whether their misfortunes or insecurities.

7. We know that only people who matter will stick around

Since we own we are and do not mind what others think about us we know that only the great friends who appreciate who we are will stay. It is not as if we are fake or nasty, we are simply indifferent.

8. We don’t want arguments

Getting embroiled in arguments and disputes can be emotionally draining to us. We want to avoid difficult situations the best we can.

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9. We really are not focused on the consequences

This means sometimes we are shortsighted and do not see how far our indifference can cause irreparable damages. We protect ourselves with our indifference since we are indifferent to do outcomes of events.

10. We are not developmental

We are not progressive or trying to make things better. Our environment can be static and unresponsive and we really do not care much about making an input into making a change or improving the lives of those people around us.

11. We are static too

Because we are not focused on making a difference in the lives of others we also affect ourselves because we don’t really improve much. We are static and could be doing the same thing for many years.

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12. We cannot be classified

Since we are indifferent, we really don’t care about our social status or what group we belong in. What this means is that people will find it hard to classify us whether we are in or out of a group or a situation.

13. We won’t seize opportunities

Yes opportunities will come. But since we emotionally detached and do not want to get too involved, we will be indifferent to opportunities and let events pan out without us making a contribution or effect. It is best for us this way because we may not be crushed and emotionally invested in anything that will take us away from ourselves.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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