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What People Who Appear To Be Indifferent Want To Tell You

What People Who Appear To Be Indifferent Want To Tell You

We live in our own worlds and do not want to be consumed in the external. We are content with who we are want we have. We may not have personal convictions, strong beliefs, principles, or any kind of soul. We just want to be distant and unengaged. Perhaps this is the best for us after all.

1. We don’t really care

Yes we don’t care. We can numb our feelings and will make dumb conversationalists. Perhaps we are so caught up in our world that what is going on the outside simply doesn’t bother us.

2. We don’t focus on the world

There are so many distractions. We just can’t stand a lot of this especially when we are pushed to buy into what everyone is trying to sell to us. We will rather focus on ourselves instead.

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3. We suck at relationships

Yes you want us to show some emotions and tell us how we feel, but we won’t. Because we know that you as our partner do not determine our emotions should be. We evidently suck at relationships because it is possible we are not giving you our all.

4. We want to be mysterious

We really don’t want you to figure us out. We practically keep most of our opinions and plans to ourselves. We make it a practice not to be expressive. And people may consider us to be a labyrinth of many unknown paths.

5. We have got the world figured out

At least in our own way, we have got the world figured out. We understand that not everyone will like us and will give us what we ask. We know we can’t fix the world and we are not ready to give it a try.

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6. We are responsible for ourselves

We accept full responsibility for whom we are; our thoughts, opinions and expressions. The truth is that we cannot be responsible for other people, whether their misfortunes or insecurities.

7. We know that only people who matter will stick around

Since we own we are and do not mind what others think about us we know that only the great friends who appreciate who we are will stay. It is not as if we are fake or nasty, we are simply indifferent.

8. We don’t want arguments

Getting embroiled in arguments and disputes can be emotionally draining to us. We want to avoid difficult situations the best we can.

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9. We really are not focused on the consequences

This means sometimes we are shortsighted and do not see how far our indifference can cause irreparable damages. We protect ourselves with our indifference since we are indifferent to do outcomes of events.

10. We are not developmental

We are not progressive or trying to make things better. Our environment can be static and unresponsive and we really do not care much about making an input into making a change or improving the lives of those people around us.

11. We are static too

Because we are not focused on making a difference in the lives of others we also affect ourselves because we don’t really improve much. We are static and could be doing the same thing for many years.

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12. We cannot be classified

Since we are indifferent, we really don’t care about our social status or what group we belong in. What this means is that people will find it hard to classify us whether we are in or out of a group or a situation.

13. We won’t seize opportunities

Yes opportunities will come. But since we emotionally detached and do not want to get too involved, we will be indifferent to opportunities and let events pan out without us making a contribution or effect. It is best for us this way because we may not be crushed and emotionally invested in anything that will take us away from ourselves.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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