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12 Reasons Why Your Bro Is the Most Important Man in Your Life

12 Reasons Why Your Bro Is the Most Important Man in Your Life

Are you close to your brother? Many people see their dad as the most important man in their lives, but your brother is also probably one of the most important men in your life. From always being there for you to keeping your secrets, check out 12 reasons why your brother is very important to you.

1. Your conversations could go on forever.

Whether you’re talking through your problems, reminiscing or just having a laugh together, you can stay up talking until 3 a.m.—and the later it gets, the more fun the conversations become.

2. He loves you no matter what.

Your parents love you a lot, but if they knew everything you’d been up to, they might give you a pretty harsh telling off. Your brother knows everything you’ve done, and he will always love you no matter what.

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3. He always has your back.

Sometimes your brother feels like your bodyguard, because he is always ready to help you with a moment’s notice. After getting rid of bullies, mean friends, and bad boyfriends for you, you’re pretty sure he is your real knight in shining armor.

4. Your happiest memories involve your brother.

Your favorite childhood and teenage memories always involve your brother in some way—probably because he was hilarious from the moment he could start talking.

5. Even if you haven’t spoken for months, you can pick right back up.

It isn’t a problem if you two haven’t spoken for months, because you can always just pick up where you left off. He understands that life is complicated and busy, and he knows eventually you’ll ring him for a catch up—and you’ll both fully update each other on everything you both missed out on.

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6. He is happy to share everything with you.

The last slice of pizza, his favorite DVD, his old T-shirt; if you want it, he will give it to you—although you might have to haggle with him for it.

7. He always knows how to make you laugh.

As you grew up together, your brother influenced your sense of humor without you even realizing. He can crack you up with just one sentence or facial expression, even if other people have no idea why you’re both laughing.

8. He keeps all of your secrets.

Your brother knows most of your shameful, embarrassing secrets, but it’s fine; you know he would never betray you—and if someone else did, he would immediately defend you.

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9. Your advice is important to him.

Even though he loves to rile you up, your brother loves you and respects your advice. Even though he has watched you make some seriously questionable decisions, he looks up to you and always going to you first for dating, career or life advice.

10. He was one of your favorite roommates.

You thought you hated sharing a bedroom with him when you were a child, but now you look back and miss the funny times you had, from secretly staying up super late to always having someone to chat to.

11. You two have a secret way of communicating.

You and your brother can have an entire conversation from start to finish in facial expressions and unintelligible sounds, and no one else can figure out what you’re saying—not even your parents or significant others.

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12. He will always make an effort with you.

If you feel down and you tell your brother, he always asks what he can do to make you smile. From driving over to visit you to staying on the phone with you until he knows you are alright, he will do anything he can to make sure you’re happy.

What did you think of this list? Share it with your brother and see what he thinks!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to master the Gentle Art of Saying No:

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1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no,” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning.

But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

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“Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

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“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.

10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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