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12 Important Things You Learn From A Younger Sister

12 Important Things You Learn From A Younger Sister

Having a younger sister means that you always have someone to look up to you. It also means that you are always protective of your younger sister and you make sure that you are there for her when she needs you most.

Here are some of the most important things that you can learn from your younger sis.

1. They teach you how to be compassionate

Having a younger sister has taught you about a whole new level of love. She has taught you about how important it is to show her that you care- whether she’s recovering from a skinned knee or a broken heart.

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2. They teach you how to be a leader

Being an older sister means that you have learned from an early stage to take a leadership role in your relationship with your younger sister. You are careful to make sure that your actions impact positively on her and that she sees you making good decisions in everything from your career to romantic relationships.

3. They teach you the power of forgiveness

No one is perfect and no matter how hard you try there will always be times when you slip up in front of your little sister. One of the most important lessons she had taught you is that no one is perfect and that she still looks up to you, even when you falter.

4. They teach you the importance of being patient

Having a younger sister is one of the best ways to practice the art of being patient. From teaching her how to tie her shoes to teaching her to drive a car, you are not only her older sister, but also her teacher.

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5. They teach you that imitation is the best form of flattery

When you were younger, you would often get annoyed when your little sister would copy everything that you did. Now that you are older you realize that this was the highest compliment you could have received from her.

6. They teach you about your maternal instincts

Sometimes when you were younger you would babysit your little sister and these experiences helped you to realize that you do have a soft, maternal side. Whether you were helping her to brush her teeth or read her favorite book before she went to sleep, your maternal instincts helped to make sure she was cared for and felt safe.

7. They teach you how to stand up for them

Whether you protected her against the mean girls at school or helped your parents to see her side in a disagreement, you have learned to be her biggest advocate. She knows that you will always have her back and help her through any difficult situations that she encounters in life.

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8. They teach you the importance of selflessness

From the moment that your baby sister was born, you began to learn the importance of sharing. From sharing toys to sharing clothes, it hasn’t always been easy. But through these experiences you realized the importance of being selfless and it strengthened your bond.

9. They teach you to live in the moment

In a blink of an eye, your younger sister went from being a child to a grown woman. Through your relationship with her you’ve realized how quickly time flies and that it’s important to live in the moment. Life is to short not to spend your time with her in this way.

10. They teach you the importance of good communication

Having a younger sister means learning to work out your differences and learning to compromise on many different issues. You many not always see eye-to-eye, but you’ve learned to be respectful of her opinions.

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11. They teach you that you matter

Whether you’re having a bad day or going through a rough period in your life, your little sister will be right by your side to lift your spirits. You were there for her when she was younger and now she’s happy to take on the role of your biggest cheerleader.

12. They teach you that being a bully is not cool

You might have picked on your little sister when you were younger, but as you grew older you realized how much harm bullying can do to a person. You realized that it’s important to be on the same team and that there are enough difficult people in her life for her to deal with, without you being one of them.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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