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8 Leadership Lessons You Can Learn From Your Terrible Bosses

8 Leadership Lessons You Can Learn From Your Terrible Bosses

Terrible experiences can make for great lessons. Working for a terrible boss is stressful and unpleasant. Yet, you can grow a great deal from the experience if you reflect on your work. With the proper mindset, we can learn leadership lessons from saints and sinners. Here are some lessons you can learn from your terrible bosses.

1. Always lead by example

Terrible bosses lead by the example, whether they want to or not. If a manager yells at people in order to solve problems, that approach will become popular with the staff. In contrast, an effective leader will lead by example by staying up to date in their industry and showing courtesy to everyone.

2. Don’t keep people waiting for decisions

The speed and quality of decision-making is one of the traits that separates good bosses from terrible bosses. An ineffective boss makes decisions very slowly and appears to act in a random way. The best approach is to explain your decision-making process to your team — things like clearly stating that certain requests must be submitted in writing — and then make decisions using a consistent framework.

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Resource: Improve your decision-making by reading Decisive: How to Make Better Choices in Life and Work By Chip and Dan Heath.

3. Don’t tolerate bad meetings

Meetings are an essential tool in the professional world. Without meetings, it would be incredibly difficult to assemble the facts, persuade people, and move an organization forward. Poorly trained bosses run meetings in a disorganized way that frustrates everyone involved. In contrast, an effective manager begins and ends the meeting on time and uses a written agenda.

Tip: Use 7 Habits of Highly Effective Meetings to improve your performance in meetings.

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4. Understand the importance of communication

Communication and persuasion are vital skills for managers and professionals to use in their work. A terrible boss speaks in corporate slang and makes no effort to connect with their team. Even worse, there are some managers who do all of their communication by email. A better approach to communication starts with recognizing the importance of communication skills. The next step is to develop active listening skills. True masters of communication take the time to studying public speaking methods and learn how to persuade.

Resource: 10 Powerful Public Speaking Tips from Some of the Best Speakers in the World.

5. Don’t micromanage

Micromanaging a person frustrates the individual and wastes the manager’s time. The bad manager will list each and every step and then dogmatically enforce the steps. In contrast, effective managers learn effective delegation skills: a clear scope and a deadline. A good manager would ask for specifics — “Please send me a one-page proposal explaining which business conferences you want to attend and why. The deadline for this proposal to me is this Thursday at noon.”

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Resource: Discover advice from 14 management experts on how to develop delegation skills.

6. Don’t insult your staff

There are many stressful situations at work – customer complaints, late deliveries, budget cuts, and more. Terrible bosses are ineffective at working through these challenges – they take their frustration out on their staff. Insulting and abusing your staff will damage the relationship and cause the best people in the department to start looking for new jobs. Rather than yelling at your staff, learn stress management techniques to address your feelings.

7. Don’t neglect vision and inspiration

Without an inspiring vision, people gradually lose interest in their work. Bad bosses ignore this problem and focus on day-to-day problems. The better approach is to develop a vision for the department and deliver it with enthusiasm. Learning how to inspire your people to achieve greater results takes practice, but there are great resources out there to help you.

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Resource: To develop your vision skills, watch this classic TED Talk: How great leaders inspire action by Simon Sinek. You will learn that “making money” will not cut it as a vision – the public and customers expect something more.

8. Don’t forget promises

Keeping promises is an excellent way to maintain your credibility. Terrible bosses rarely think through their commitments and make promises too quickly. A bad boss may promise a $10,000 raise immediately when you demand it, rather than taking a day or two to review the budget first. To avoid problems with communication, take a few extra moments to clarify commitments. For example, if you receive a request from an executive, clarify what you will provide — “I will provide a marketing plan regarding the expansion to China by August 31.”

Vague commitments and promises tend to lead to disappointment for everybody.

Featured photo credit: Angry Man/ashishacoway via pixabay.com

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Bruce Harpham

Bruce Harpham is a Project Management Professional and Founder and CEO of Project Management Hacks.

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Last Updated on September 23, 2020

Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

Are you waking up each day looking for that perfect thing, activity, or job that will make your life work? Or, maybe you are looking for that perfect relationship. Once you “get” this new thing that will allow you to do what you love, you are sure that you will be happy forever.

In reality, life doesn’t work like that, and we would probably get bored if it did. There is likely no one thing, experience, or activity that will keep you feeling passionate and engaged all the time. What’s important is staying connected to what you love and continuing to grow in the process.

Here, we’ll talk about how to get started doing what you love and achieving more in life through the motivation it brings. Doing this doesn’t have to take a long time; it just takes determination and energy.

Most People Already Know Their Passion

So many people walk around in life “looking for” their passion. They look for it as if true passion is some mysterious thing that is difficult to find and runs away once you find it. However, the problem is rarely lack of passion.

Most of us already know what we love to do. We know what excites us, even if we haven’t done it for years. Instead, we focus on what we think we “must” do.

For example, maybe you love building model cars or painting pet portraits. Yet, each day you work a completely unrelated job and make no time for the activity you already know you love. The truth is you probably don’t need to find your passion; you just need to start doing what you already know you’re passionate about[1].

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No Activity Is Exciting All the Time

Even people who are living their dream lifestyle or working their dream job don’t love it all the time. Every job or lifestyle has parts of it that we won’t like.

Let’s say your dream is to become an actress, and you succeed. You may not enjoy the process of auditioning and facing rejection. You may experience moments of boredom when you practice your lines over and over again. But the overall experience is totally worth it.

Most of life is like that. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by demanding that life be perfect all the time. If things were perfect and easy, you would ultimately stop learning and growing, and life would begin to lack even more meaning in that case.

Be grateful for both the good and bad moments as they are both entirely necessary if you genuinely want to do what you love and love what you do.

Doing What You Love May Not Be Easy

Living a life you love is unlikely to be easy. If it was, you would not grow very much as a person. And, if you think about a great book or movie, the growth of the main character is what matters most.

What if the challenges you meet along your path to living a life you love were designed to make you grow as a person? You may actually start looking forward to challenges instead of dreading them. An easy life hardly ever makes a compelling story.

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If you struggle to overcome challenges, try writing them down each time you encounter one. Then, write down three ways you could tackle it. Try one, and if it doesn’t work, try another. This way, you’ll learn what does and doesn’t work for you.

How to Do What You Love

There are many small steps you can take to ensure you are making time to do the things you love. Start with these, and you’ll likely find that you’re already on the right track.

1. Choose Your Priorities Wisely

Many people claim they want to do something, yet they don’t do it. The truth is they might not really want to do it in the first place[2].

We all end up following through on what matters most to us. We make decisions moment by moment about what we need to focus on. What we choose to do is what we deem most important in our lives.

If there is something you claim you want to do but you don’t do it, try asking yourself how much you really want it or where it’s currently placed on priority list. Are there other things you want more?

Be honest with yourself: what you currently do each day is a reflection of your priorities. Recognize that you can change your priorities at any time.

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Make a list of your priorities. Really take the time to think this through. Then, ask yourself if what you are doing each day reflects them. For example, if you believe your top priority is spending more time with your family, but you consistently take on extra hours at work, you’re not really prioritizing things in the way you think you are.

If this is happening, it’s time to make a change.

2. Do One Small Thing Each Day

As stated above, doing what you love doesn’t have to mean finding that perfect job that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. If you want to do what you love, start with one small thing each day.

Maybe you love reading a good book. Take ten minutes before bed to read.

Maybe you love swimming. Get a membership at the local YMCA, and go there for thirty minutes after work each day.

Dedicating even a short amount of time to something that brings you joy each day will improve your life overall. You may find that, over time, a career path related to what you love to do pops up. After doing the thing you love each day, you’ll be more than prepared to take it on when the opportunity arises.

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If you need help making time for your passions, check out this article to get started.

3. Prepare to Make Sacrifices

If you are an exceptionally busy person (aren’t we all?), you may have to make sacrifices in order to make space for the things you are passionate about. Maybe you take on less extra hours at the office or take thirty minutes away from another hobby in order to develop another that you enjoy.

Looking at your priority list will help you decide what can get put on the back burner and what can’t. Remember, do this thinking about what will help you feel good about how you’re spending your time. 

For example, if you love writing but rarely make time for it, consider getting up 30 minutes earlier than normal. Or instead of browsing your phone for 30 minutes before bed, you can write instead. There is always a way to find time for what you love.

Final Thoughts

If you love what you do, each day becomes a joyful adventure. If you don’t love what you are doing, life feels like a chore. The best way to achieve success is to design a life you love and live it every day.

Remember, doing something you love doesn’t have to include big gestures or time-consuming projects. Start small and grow from there.

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