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10 Signs Of People Who Aren’t Ready For A Real Relationship

10 Signs Of People Who Aren’t Ready For A Real Relationship

Let’s face it, we all want something from a relationship. Yet some just want something casual and less committed than what may be the general expectation. It is important to identify certain signs that could mean the other person doesn’t want more out of a relationship than what is casual. Such clarity will help us avoid disappointment at the end.

1. They are not progressive about the relationship

A relationship is like a plant. It has to be nurtured to grow. Such evolution is what will lead it to solidity and certainty. However if an individual doesn’t see a relationship as progressive or developmental and is not willing to put energy into propelling a relationship into maturity then it is obvious the person is not ready for something real.

2. They prefer to take rather than to give

They are always after something, and these could be what they could benefit or take from the relationship rather than offer to it. They really do not want to make any sacrifices that could consume or make them more involved. Giving something to a relationship sucks to them while taking makes them feel they are in control.

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3. They have not built great relationships in the past

Let them stare at the mirror and tell you what they see. Chances are that they will tell you that they have been through so many casual relationships that they really can’t define or tell you what a real relationship means. Whether what they have engaged in the past was casual or broken, they have not put in so much energy in the past to make a relationship a success.

4. They are elusive

Whether in discussions or actions that are made to signal they are willing to be a part of a real relationship they will be elusive. They will appear vague about what they really want from a relationship. Truthfully they do not have a clarity about what they want and being elusive about it keeps such commitment at bay.

5. They have been hurt so many times

This is a red flag. Being hurt makes he/she go easy on being committed and providing anything assuring because really they find it difficult to go through that pain of investing emotions and losing it at the end of the day. They would prefer to play it safe and stay away from something real.

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6. They avoid your family and friends

They see your family or friends as elements that represent commitment and responsibility, something that they are not really ready for. They would avoid meeting people that are really close and intimate with you.

7. They make unnecessary demands

You could say they are perfectionist or they just keep nagging to distract you from what good moments that could be born from your relationship. They really would want and expect everything to be perfect in you and in circumstances surrounding the relationship.

8. They dwell on the negatives of being in a relationship

They don’t see the positives of a real relationship. They talk against it to their friends, family and loved ones. They can’t seem to understand the depth and meaning of a real relationship and would rather prefer to talk negatively about it.

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9. They have issues with trusting others

They can’t seem to trust other people, especially with their emotions and feelings. They feel the other person in the relationship may be out to betray and hurt them so they try to play it safe and hide behind the cloak of mistrust and disbelief.

10. They want to be free

They want to be free. They cherish freedom and wouldn’t want that freedom or independence to be upset by anyone. They see a real relationship as a hindrance to being free and doing those things they like.

At the end of the day it is left for you to understand these signs and be willing to offer such persons the space they need.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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