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9 Daily Practices Of Women Who Love Their Bodies

9 Daily Practices Of Women Who Love Their Bodies

Many women tend to criticize any imperfection on their bodies, worrying more about what others think of their looks than how they feel about themselves (inside and out). Constantly pointing out flaws leaves women feeling worse and often deflated. Women who love their bodies practice at least one of these suggestions below:

1. They are open.

Instead of avoiding pool parties, social events, or random adventures; women who love their bodies say “yes!” They do not feel the need to hide; they are open. They are confident in their skin, so they’ll find something that fits for the occasion and go for it.

One way to move forward is to think to yourself, Do I avoid events due to my body? This can help you become aware if you’re holding yourself back. You are allowed to enjoy life and have fun; your body will love you more (and in turn, you’ll love it more). Giving yourself permission to be out with friends and family increases your happiness and confidence as well, getting you out of the cycle of avoiding future awesome activities.

The next time you have the urge to say “no!” to a girl’s trip, remind yourself that your body wants to have fun, and in order to show it love you must go enjoy life!

2. They buy and wear clothes that fit.

Women often keep clothes that are too small thinking they’ll wear them again (and considering the rest of their clothes “fat” clothes until they do fit). This is truly setting yourself up to feel terrible about your body (instead of loving it up!) every time you open your closet.

One simple way to start loving your body more is to get rid of one or two of the clothing items that have not fit for a while. If you’re feeling up to it, go out and replace those clothes with something that fits you in the body you’re in right now.

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By doing this, you’re instantly relieving yourself of the stress of “having to be a certain size” and helps you get rid of thoughts that keep you trapped in thinking your current body isn’t good enough.

Get rid of some clothes that haven’t fit for a while and you will instantly feel a weight lifted from your shoulders. This shows your body that it is deserving of clothes that make you feel good right now, in this moment.

3. They give other women genuine compliments.

Women often find themselves giving compliments that are either:

  1. Leading the receiver of the compliment into returning it. For example, you see a friend at the mall and say, “Oh my goodness I love that shirt! I could never pull it off.” Then that friend says, “Oh my gosh, yes you could! You’d look amazing in it – better than I do!”
  2. Filled with jealousy. For example, “You would be able to pull that dress off!”

Women who love their bodies give ones that they mean and aren’t expecting anything in return.

One way to work on this is to think about how you want to feel when people talk to you (Appreciated? Respected? Loved? Cared for?), and then try giving a compliment that will result in one of those feelings for the receiver. The amazing thing about practicing that is you will instantly feel as if you’ve received a compliment. It’s a reciprocal process.

4. They ask themselves how they want to feel.

Most women have the urge to tell themselves they should do this, eat that, finish that, or buy that. Women who love their bodies naturally ask how certain things are going to make them feel (without using the word should). They might ask:

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  • Will it be worth doing if they end up feeling terrible?
  • Will I feel great after this workout?
  • Does this sound good to me right now?
  • What am I craving?
  • What do I need right now?

If you hear yourself saying the word “should,” try to ask yourself how you want to feel. This helps you to honor your body by giving it what it needs, and showing it love and respect.

5. They redirect body bashing.

Being with a group of women, it is almost expected to hear someone say, “I’m feeling so fat! Look at me you guys!” Often times, others will join in echoing the same feeling.

What women who love their bodies do differently is listen to the comment, and then redirect it with a positive. They know it’s not necessary to continue that course of conversation because it only leads to people feeling worse about themselves.

Next time you’re with a group of women and you hear a body bashing comment resist the urge to join in. Redirect the conversation by asking a random question, or (if that seems uncomfortable for you) simply disengage with that portion of the conversation by sitting back. Doing that is better than egging it on.

During this moment you will ultimately feel incredible. You’re starting to set a positive example, respecting your body, and letting your friends know where you stand on this topic.

Even though it’s easy to join right in with others who are talking poorly about themselves, by getting rid of that negativity your body will thank you.

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6. They fuel their body with healthy food while allowing themselves to eat treats without guilt.

Magazines, TV, and social media make it seem like in order to love your body, you must be on an extreme diet. Limiting yourself from chocolate chip cookies and pizza stresses your body out, can often leave you with food issues, or lead you to overeat on those foods. Women who honor their bodies know, and practice, the importance of moderation. They eat by listening to their bodies, enjoying healthy foods, and indulging so they never feel deprived.

If you are struggling with an extreme diet, check in with yourself by asking the following questions:

  • Is this diet realistic and maintainable?
  • Do I stress about foods?
  • Can I enjoy treats I love in moderation?

Become aware of how your relationship to food is currently and start to incorporate some of the foods you love throughout your week (instead of restricting them). When you give yourself more freedom around food, your body thanks you. Too much deprivation and your body will want to rebel against you.

7. They express gratitude to their bodies.

Gross, fat, ugly, short, too skinny, not enough muscle, small, and large are all, sadly, terms that women use to describe their bodies. Women who love their bodies continually express gratitude for what their bodies are capable of. They thank their bodies for helping them be active, hold their kids, work, and many other reasons.

In order to change your mindset with your body (to start loving it more), give your body some love. Come up with one or two reasons you’re thankful for your body and repeat that in your head often. As always, if you show your body love; it will love you back.

8. They value sleep.

Women know the importance of sleep, but often put it on the backburner thinking other things “must get done.” Women who love their bodies value sleep because of the benefits their bodies receive from it. They consistently make sleep priority so they can wake up with energy each day.

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How do you make sleep a priority? Take baby steps by going to bed 20 minutes earlier each day! Overtime this adds up, and when you’re feeling ready go to bed even earlier.

When your body is well-rested it can function at it’s highest potential.It’s becomes easier to make healthier decisions and get important tasks completed throughout the day while being able to be alert and loving with those around you. Giving your body the sleep it needs sends a signal to your brain that your body is deserving and being honored.

9. They takes break from technology.

Have you ever found yourself scrolling through social media for 20 minutes only to feel awful about yourself? Let’s be real, it’s hard to unplug. Constantly looking at Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, and so on . . .leads to comparison. Thoughts like:

  • I’m not good enough.
  • Why isn’t my body like hers?
  • Their life looks so perfect.
  • I wish I was fit like her!

And those thoughts push us further from genuinely loving our bodies. Women who love their bodies effortlessly set their phones aside at least once a day. They do this because they cherish time to be still with themselves without feeling bogged down by other people’s lives.

Honor your body by setting your phone down for a solid 30 minutes per day. This can be hard at first, but you will reap the benefits (and may find yourself leaving your phone more and more). You’ll start to feel free, listen to your body more, and be present in the moments that matter.

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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