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8 Common Misconceptions About Housewives

8 Common Misconceptions About Housewives

Housewives have always made great TV. Over the years, we’ve seen them in soap operas, like Peyton Place, followed by modern shows, like Desperate Housewives. The current reality shows based on The Real Housewives continue to make news. This time, The Real Housewives of Atlanta has created a storm of controversy over its depiction of independent African American women.

Let’s look at another type of reality which is much closer to the truth. There are many misconceptions about housewives that don’t get their start on TV. Here are eight misconceptions that might resonate with you if you are a stay-at-home housewife.

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1. People think you are very traditional

There are loads of people who think that housewives always stayed at home to tend the house and the kids. The truth is that many women have had to work over the centuries. An article in the Cambridge Journals shows that in eighteenth-century London, large numbers of women were working outside the home in order to help their husbands or simply to make ends meet. In Victorian times, the majority of women worked outside the home. So, the decision to stay at home and care for the kids is not always based upon tradition.

2. People think that your husband has decided your fate

Some people might be convinced that your husband put his foot down and said you had to stay at home. They might even mention a vacancy in their workplace in order to taunt you or to find out the truth. The reality is that you have decided how to run the household with your partner and that you are both perfectly happy with this arrangement.

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3. People think you opted out of the real world

They look on you as having no ambition within the so-called “real world.” After all, why would anyone want to spend all their time with housework and raising kids? It is a pity that these people have separated the two worlds. The real world is also right inside your home, where you are playing a crucial role in the lives of your partner and children.

4. People think you have no right to be paid for all the work you do

The feminist movement in the 1970’s founded the Wages for Housework campaign which fought for housewives’ wages. This was an obvious and just cause. In spite of the great progress made in many feminist issues, modern society still does not want housewives to be paid. In Italy, Giulia Bongiorno, a famous lawyer, is advocating that housewives should be paid in recognition for the important work they do.

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“Women who choose to work at home should be rewarded, not humiliated.” – Giulia Bongiorno

5. People think you are dependent and submissive

The reality shows have a lot to answer for. We have all seen the trophy wives who are depicted as being incapable, beautiful, and rather vapid. An Oregon State University survey shows that 70 per cent of the 18 to 29 age group enjoyed these reality shows. This is alarming because they’ve probably never questioned the stereotypes about stay-at-home wives or other false prejudices that abound in our society. The reality is that running a household is not for the faint hearted — you are autonomous and in control.

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6. People still think you have no life outside the home

Have you seen those ads for cleaning products? The ones where the women are the protagonists in about 90 per cent of the cases? Some even depict women cleaning the home while the husband takes a nap. Why don’t TV commercials reflect the reality where housewives do manage to escape the chores from time to time and have a life of their own outside the home? Loads of housewives play sports, go to films, and generally have a good time pursuing their interests and hobbies. It would be great to see more ads of men struggling with vacuum cleaners for a change, although the number of men helping in the home is increasing.

7. People think you are not an expert

Advertising, again, is to blame for portraying housewives as the go-to persons for cooking and cleaning, while men are the experts at fixing things. It seems that the housewife is only happy when cleaning and will seek a male expert when things go wrong. The false assumption is that housewives are just a little helpless and only excel at certain tasks. Celebrity chefs, like Jaime Oliver, often steal the limelight in the world of cooking. The reality is that the hardworking housewives are the real chefs and their work often goes unrewarded and unnoticed. How many times have you been tempted to tell the whole family to cook for themselves while you take a few days off?

8. People think it’s easy being a housewife

Either they have forgotten what it is like or they have someone who does all the hard work for them. I firmly believe housewives should be called managers. That is what they do, they mange the household. Shopping, cooking, gardening, budgeting, fetching kids, and helping with homework are not mindless tasks. However, that is the myth that many people seem to believe.

Featured photo credit: 1957 – Frigidare prototype kitchen/ James Vaughan via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

Learning how to get in shape and set goals is important if you’re looking to live a healthier lifestyle and get closer to your goal weight. While this does require changes to your daily routine, you’ll find that you are able to look and feel better in only two weeks.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about what it takes to get in shape. Although anyone can cover the basics (eat right and exercise), there are some things that I could only learn through trial and error. Let’s cover some of the most important points for how to get in shape in two weeks.

1. Exercise Daily

It is far easier to make exercise a habit if it is a daily one. If you aren’t exercising at all, I recommend starting by exercising a half hour every day. When you only exercise a couple times per week, it is much easier to turn one day off into three days off, a week off, or a month off.

If you are already used to exercising, switching to three or four times a week to fit your schedule may be preferable, but it is a lot harder to maintain a workout program you don’t do every day.

Be careful to not repeat the same exercise routine each day. If you do an intense ab workout one day, try switching it up to general cardio the next. You can also squeeze in a day of light walking to break up the intensity.

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2. Duration Doesn’t Substitute for Intensity

Once you get into the habit of regular exercise, where do you go if you still aren’t reaching your goals? Most people will solve the problem by exercising for longer periods of time, turning forty-minute workouts into two hour stretches. Not only does this drain your time, but it doesn’t work particularly well.

One study shows that “exercising for a whole hour instead of a half does not provide any additional loss in either body weight or fat”[1].

This is great news for both your schedule and your levels of motivation. You’ll likely find it much easier to exercise for 30 minutes a day instead of an hour. In those 30 minutes, do your best to up the intensity to your appropriate edge to get the most out of the time.

3. Acknowledge Your Limits

Many people get frustrated when they plateau in their weight loss or muscle gaining goals as they’re learning how to get in shape. Everyone has an equilibrium and genetic set point where their body wants to remain. This doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve your fitness goals, but don’t be too hard on yourself if you are struggling to lose weight or put on muscle.

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Acknowledging a set point doesn’t mean giving up, but it does mean realizing the obstacles you face.

Expect to hit a plateau in your own fitness results[2]. When you expect a plateau, you can manage around it so you can continue your progress at a more realistic rate. When expectations meet reality, you can avoid dietary crashes.

4. Eat Healthy, Not Just Food That Looks Healthy

Know what you eat. Don’t fuss over minutia like whether you’re getting enough Omega 3’s or tryptophan, but be aware of the big things. Look at the foods you eat regularly and figure out whether they are healthy or not. Don’t get fooled by the deceptively healthy snacks just pretending to be good for you.

The basic nutritional advice includes:

  • Eat unprocessed foods
  • Eat more veggies
  • Use meat as a side dish, not a main course
  • Eat whole grains, not refined grains[3]

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Eat whole grains when you want to learn how to get in shape.

    5. Watch Out for Travel

    Don’t let a four-day holiday interfere with your attempts when you’re learning how to get in shape. I don’t mean that you need to follow your diet and exercise plan without any excursion, but when you are in the first few weeks, still forming habits, be careful that a week long break doesn’t terminate your progress.

    This is also true of schedule changes that leave you suddenly busy or make it difficult to exercise. Have a backup plan so you can be consistent, at least for the first month when you are forming habits.

    If travel is on your schedule and can’t be avoided, make an exercise plan before you go[4], and make sure to pack exercise clothes and an exercise mat as motivation to keep you on track.

    6. Start Slow

    Ever start an exercise plan by running ten miles and then puking your guts out? Maybe you aren’t that extreme, but burnout is common early on when learning how to get in shape. You have a lifetime to be healthy, so don’t try to go from couch potato to athletic superstar in a week.

    If you are starting a running regime, for example, run less than you can to start. Starting strength training? Work with less weight than you could theoretically lift. Increasing intensity and pushing yourself can come later when your body becomes comfortable with regular exercise.

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    7. Be Careful When Choosing a Workout Partner

    Should you have a workout partner? That depends. Workout partners can help you stay motivated and make exercising more fun. But they can also stop you from reaching your goals.

    My suggestion would be to have a workout partner, but when you start to plateau (either in physical ability, weight loss/gain, or overall health) and you haven’t reached your goals, consider mixing things up a bit.

    If you plateau, you may need to make changes to continue improving. In this case it’s important to talk to your workout partner about the changes you want to make, and if they don’t seem motivated to continue, offer a thirty day break where you both try different activities.

    I notice that guys working out together tend to match strength after a brief adjustment phase. Even if both are trying to improve, something seems to stall improvement once they reach a certain point. I found that I was able to lift as much as 30-50% more after taking a short break from my regular workout partner.

    Final Thoughts

    Learning how to get in shape in as little as two weeks sounds daunting, but if you’re motivated and have the time and energy to devote to it, it’s certainly possible.

    Find an exercise routine that works for you, eat healthy, drink lots of water, and watch as the transformation begins.

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