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10 Things To Remember If You’ve Found The One Who Always Stands By You When No One Else Does

10 Things To Remember If You’ve Found The One Who Always Stands By You When No One Else Does

There are those who will always be there for us. They don’t see us for our failings or weaknesses but for our strengths and what we can become. They want to see us rise from the ashes and overcome. Remembering their goodness is something that can help us manage success better.

When you’ve found someone (or several someones) who will always stand by you when others don’t, remember these 10 very important things.

1. They deserve your time

You cannot be busy enough. You have to understand loyalty and appreciation. People who have been there for you should always be recognized. When you are engaging in something pivotal, like a graduation or marriage ceremony, such people deserve to be invited. They want to be there to celebrate with you.

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2. They deserve a phone call

Since they have shown you so much love, once in a while try to reach out to them and make them know that you still think about them. They shouldn’t be forgotten even in a world of social media gossips and technological devices.

3. They need to be appreciated

Sometimes they don’t need your time or any gifts. What they should get may be a simple thank you. We live in a world where people don’t know how far the phrase “Thank you” can go. People who have been there for us should be appreciated and acknowledged with the right words.

4. They should be mentioned

They deserve a mention even if they are not present to hear it. Mentioning their name could mean a lot to someone who hears their name and how much they did for you. It will mean a lot to them if they hear that you have mentioned their name and told the world of their good deeds.

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5. They should be treasured

Those who stood by us, when no other person did, deserve our loyalty. They should be treasured. They should be treated special. This is because they had a choice not to do what they did. Such kindness should motivate us to find a way to always treasure them in our hearts.

6. They deserve our gifts

A gift is a physical representation of how grateful we are to them. The gift doesn’t have to be very expensive or outrageously charming. But it has to send the right message that they mean a lot to your world.

7. They need to be visited

They may be in a hospital now or going through a challenging period. People who have been there for us need to be visited. They need our warmth and support a reminder to show that we have not forgotten the good they did for us.

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8. They need to be emulated

Some people only support or help others when they think that they will get something in return. However people who give freely are a light to the world and their example should be emulated. Let their wonderful example also flow through us as we all do well to make a difference in a world that appears selfish.

9. They should be understood

Let us see this person not as weak, but as a strong person who has done something out of the ordinary for us. They should be understood, respected and valued. What they must have done may have meant some level of discomfort for them but they helped us anyway. Such people should be understood for their goodness and never be mocked for it.

10. They should be in our prayers

Yes at the end of the day, whatever beliefs we have, there is a universal law that rewards goodness. We should put such wonderful people in our prayers even if we cannot be there for them to show our appreciation and love. They may be far away right now or you don’t even know where they are, but you could still reach out to them through your prayers and sincere good wishes for them.

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Featured photo credit: Warten/Sascha Kohlmann via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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