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10 Things To Remember If You’ve Found The One Who Always Stands By You When No One Else Does

10 Things To Remember If You’ve Found The One Who Always Stands By You When No One Else Does

There are those who will always be there for us. They don’t see us for our failings or weaknesses but for our strengths and what we can become. They want to see us rise from the ashes and overcome. Remembering their goodness is something that can help us manage success better.

When you’ve found someone (or several someones) who will always stand by you when others don’t, remember these 10 very important things.

1. They deserve your time

You cannot be busy enough. You have to understand loyalty and appreciation. People who have been there for you should always be recognized. When you are engaging in something pivotal, like a graduation or marriage ceremony, such people deserve to be invited. They want to be there to celebrate with you.

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2. They deserve a phone call

Since they have shown you so much love, once in a while try to reach out to them and make them know that you still think about them. They shouldn’t be forgotten even in a world of social media gossips and technological devices.

3. They need to be appreciated

Sometimes they don’t need your time or any gifts. What they should get may be a simple thank you. We live in a world where people don’t know how far the phrase “Thank you” can go. People who have been there for us should be appreciated and acknowledged with the right words.

4. They should be mentioned

They deserve a mention even if they are not present to hear it. Mentioning their name could mean a lot to someone who hears their name and how much they did for you. It will mean a lot to them if they hear that you have mentioned their name and told the world of their good deeds.

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5. They should be treasured

Those who stood by us, when no other person did, deserve our loyalty. They should be treasured. They should be treated special. This is because they had a choice not to do what they did. Such kindness should motivate us to find a way to always treasure them in our hearts.

6. They deserve our gifts

A gift is a physical representation of how grateful we are to them. The gift doesn’t have to be very expensive or outrageously charming. But it has to send the right message that they mean a lot to your world.

7. They need to be visited

They may be in a hospital now or going through a challenging period. People who have been there for us need to be visited. They need our warmth and support a reminder to show that we have not forgotten the good they did for us.

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8. They need to be emulated

Some people only support or help others when they think that they will get something in return. However people who give freely are a light to the world and their example should be emulated. Let their wonderful example also flow through us as we all do well to make a difference in a world that appears selfish.

9. They should be understood

Let us see this person not as weak, but as a strong person who has done something out of the ordinary for us. They should be understood, respected and valued. What they must have done may have meant some level of discomfort for them but they helped us anyway. Such people should be understood for their goodness and never be mocked for it.

10. They should be in our prayers

Yes at the end of the day, whatever beliefs we have, there is a universal law that rewards goodness. We should put such wonderful people in our prayers even if we cannot be there for them to show our appreciation and love. They may be far away right now or you don’t even know where they are, but you could still reach out to them through your prayers and sincere good wishes for them.

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Featured photo credit: Warten/Sascha Kohlmann via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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