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8 Talking Habits Of Exceptionally Likeable People

8 Talking Habits Of  Exceptionally Likeable People

For many of us, conversations can be hard work. The way that we talk and the words that we use will play a big part in making our conversations relevant and exciting for others – but is there any kind of winning formula that you can follow? Unfortunately not, but you will find that using these various habits of people who are well-liked within communities and businesses from around the world over will be extremely helpful:

1. Be Professional

The first thing you will notice in the talking habits of likeable people is that they are truly professional. They will make you feel at ease whilst always maintaining a professional style, ensuring that you can get the treatment you need without getting too out of touch with the original conversation. This makes a big difference in general, as you might be working with someone who isn’t very professional in their tone, which can lead to the room getting slightly derailed.

2. Don’t Lie

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The main thing, though, is knowing that you are being told the truth. If you talk to someone and they start referring to things that never even sounded remotely possible, it can kill the conversation. A likeable person is truthful at all times, making it so much easier for you to just relax and enjoy the overall atmosphere of the interaction.

3. Make Chatting Relaxing

Talking to someone and feeling a bit uncomfortable at the way the chat is going? They need to work on their style, then! A likeable person will make a conversation easy to follow and really enjoyable for everyone to be a part of. This makes an incredibly big difference in terms of how the chat is going to go. They will make sure there is no tension or fear within the conversation, giving everyone the capacity to just relax and properly contribute to the conversation.

4. Be Respectful

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A likeable person has a knack for being able to stop talking when you are trying to make your point, which is a much undervalued method of keeping conversation effective and easy. The best way to notice this in someone is when they are actually able to stop themselves from interjecting when someone else is talking – it’s a simple thing, but it’s incredibly effective and makes a massive difference to how you will be perceived.

5. Be Humble

Delusions of grandeur are common in modern life and for those who want to try and get themselves into the best positions in life, this comes from being able to realise they aren’t actually someone special. When you talk to a likeable person the first thing you will likely notice is the humility and the lack of ego that stands out so much in others. Did you find someone like this? Then cherish the time you have together as those without an overly rampant ego will be very useful!

6. Take Interest

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When having a conversation, the idea is that you both talk about the same things. A likeable person will be referring to what you say, expanding on it with you, and making it a whole lot easier for you to just relax and enjoy the conversation instead of feel riled up or in an uncomfortable position at all. This makes a big difference in general and will make it a lot easier for you to get involved in a conversation with one another.

7. Be Relevant

When talking to someone who is very likeable, it’s because they often have something relevant to say. This is a big trait that might not seem to be overly important but when you can find someone who will give you the time of day, it really does make a massive difference to the way that you look at the world around you in general.

8. Be Genuine

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The best part about a likeable person in conversation, though, is the fact that they are genuine. They forget that there was a main goal to the conversation, instead just enjoying your company and making you feel nice and secure within that chat. This is a big difference as those with a clear agenda will be happy to manipulate the conversation – and you – for their own needs.


 

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

4. They Know How To Inspire

Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

5. They Set Clear Goals

The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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Take a look at these tips to help you set clearer goals: What Are SMART Goals (And How to Use Them to Become Successful)

6. They Are Organized

It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

Here’s How to Organize Your Life: 10 Habits of Really Organized People

7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

But be aware that having a strong fear of failure can wrek havoc your productivity. So the best thing to do? Learn to conquer the fear: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It)

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8. They Love Awards

Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

While loving awares isn’t bad, it’s even better if you’re driven by internal motivation instead of external ones which could be quite uncontrolable or unstable: Why Is Internal Motivation So Powerful (And How to Find It).

9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

The downside of this is an imbalnced life, which may need to problems in other aspects of life including health and relationships. A better way is to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance.

10. They Rest

Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

You too can learn How to Create a Habit of Continuous Learning for a Better You.

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