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8 Talking Habits Of Exceptionally Likeable People

8 Talking Habits Of  Exceptionally Likeable People

For many of us, conversations can be hard work. The way that we talk and the words that we use will play a big part in making our conversations relevant and exciting for others – but is there any kind of winning formula that you can follow? Unfortunately not, but you will find that using these various habits of people who are well-liked within communities and businesses from around the world over will be extremely helpful:

1. Be Professional

The first thing you will notice in the talking habits of likeable people is that they are truly professional. They will make you feel at ease whilst always maintaining a professional style, ensuring that you can get the treatment you need without getting too out of touch with the original conversation. This makes a big difference in general, as you might be working with someone who isn’t very professional in their tone, which can lead to the room getting slightly derailed.

2. Don’t Lie

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The main thing, though, is knowing that you are being told the truth. If you talk to someone and they start referring to things that never even sounded remotely possible, it can kill the conversation. A likeable person is truthful at all times, making it so much easier for you to just relax and enjoy the overall atmosphere of the interaction.

3. Make Chatting Relaxing

Talking to someone and feeling a bit uncomfortable at the way the chat is going? They need to work on their style, then! A likeable person will make a conversation easy to follow and really enjoyable for everyone to be a part of. This makes an incredibly big difference in terms of how the chat is going to go. They will make sure there is no tension or fear within the conversation, giving everyone the capacity to just relax and properly contribute to the conversation.

4. Be Respectful

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A likeable person has a knack for being able to stop talking when you are trying to make your point, which is a much undervalued method of keeping conversation effective and easy. The best way to notice this in someone is when they are actually able to stop themselves from interjecting when someone else is talking – it’s a simple thing, but it’s incredibly effective and makes a massive difference to how you will be perceived.

5. Be Humble

Delusions of grandeur are common in modern life and for those who want to try and get themselves into the best positions in life, this comes from being able to realise they aren’t actually someone special. When you talk to a likeable person the first thing you will likely notice is the humility and the lack of ego that stands out so much in others. Did you find someone like this? Then cherish the time you have together as those without an overly rampant ego will be very useful!

6. Take Interest

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When having a conversation, the idea is that you both talk about the same things. A likeable person will be referring to what you say, expanding on it with you, and making it a whole lot easier for you to just relax and enjoy the conversation instead of feel riled up or in an uncomfortable position at all. This makes a big difference in general and will make it a lot easier for you to get involved in a conversation with one another.

7. Be Relevant

When talking to someone who is very likeable, it’s because they often have something relevant to say. This is a big trait that might not seem to be overly important but when you can find someone who will give you the time of day, it really does make a massive difference to the way that you look at the world around you in general.

8. Be Genuine

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The best part about a likeable person in conversation, though, is the fact that they are genuine. They forget that there was a main goal to the conversation, instead just enjoying your company and making you feel nice and secure within that chat. This is a big difference as those with a clear agenda will be happy to manipulate the conversation – and you – for their own needs.


 

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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