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8 Talking Habits Of Exceptionally Likeable People

8 Talking Habits Of  Exceptionally Likeable People

For many of us, conversations can be hard work. The way that we talk and the words that we use will play a big part in making our conversations relevant and exciting for others – but is there any kind of winning formula that you can follow? Unfortunately not, but you will find that using these various habits of people who are well-liked within communities and businesses from around the world over will be extremely helpful:

1. Be Professional

The first thing you will notice in the talking habits of likeable people is that they are truly professional. They will make you feel at ease whilst always maintaining a professional style, ensuring that you can get the treatment you need without getting too out of touch with the original conversation. This makes a big difference in general, as you might be working with someone who isn’t very professional in their tone, which can lead to the room getting slightly derailed.

2. Don’t Lie

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The main thing, though, is knowing that you are being told the truth. If you talk to someone and they start referring to things that never even sounded remotely possible, it can kill the conversation. A likeable person is truthful at all times, making it so much easier for you to just relax and enjoy the overall atmosphere of the interaction.

3. Make Chatting Relaxing

Talking to someone and feeling a bit uncomfortable at the way the chat is going? They need to work on their style, then! A likeable person will make a conversation easy to follow and really enjoyable for everyone to be a part of. This makes an incredibly big difference in terms of how the chat is going to go. They will make sure there is no tension or fear within the conversation, giving everyone the capacity to just relax and properly contribute to the conversation.

4. Be Respectful

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A likeable person has a knack for being able to stop talking when you are trying to make your point, which is a much undervalued method of keeping conversation effective and easy. The best way to notice this in someone is when they are actually able to stop themselves from interjecting when someone else is talking – it’s a simple thing, but it’s incredibly effective and makes a massive difference to how you will be perceived.

5. Be Humble

Delusions of grandeur are common in modern life and for those who want to try and get themselves into the best positions in life, this comes from being able to realise they aren’t actually someone special. When you talk to a likeable person the first thing you will likely notice is the humility and the lack of ego that stands out so much in others. Did you find someone like this? Then cherish the time you have together as those without an overly rampant ego will be very useful!

6. Take Interest

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When having a conversation, the idea is that you both talk about the same things. A likeable person will be referring to what you say, expanding on it with you, and making it a whole lot easier for you to just relax and enjoy the conversation instead of feel riled up or in an uncomfortable position at all. This makes a big difference in general and will make it a lot easier for you to get involved in a conversation with one another.

7. Be Relevant

When talking to someone who is very likeable, it’s because they often have something relevant to say. This is a big trait that might not seem to be overly important but when you can find someone who will give you the time of day, it really does make a massive difference to the way that you look at the world around you in general.

8. Be Genuine

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The best part about a likeable person in conversation, though, is the fact that they are genuine. They forget that there was a main goal to the conversation, instead just enjoying your company and making you feel nice and secure within that chat. This is a big difference as those with a clear agenda will be happy to manipulate the conversation – and you – for their own needs.


 

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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