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7 Reasons Why People Who Love Asking Questions Are Great Leaders

7 Reasons Why People Who Love Asking Questions Are Great Leaders

Good leaders challenge, inspire, and guide others, great leaders learn from them.

From Steve Jobs to Richard Branson, some of the greatest entrepreneurs have cited the power of pointed questions as critical to their success.

To quote Carl Sagan, “There are naive questions, tedious questions, ill-phrased questions, questions put after inadequate self-criticism. But every question is a cry to understand the world. There is no such thing as a dumb question.”

Rejoice inquisitive minds, you are the world’s future great leaders.

Here are 7 reasons why people who love asking questions make awesome leaders:

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1. They Can Empathize

At its core, leadership requires emotional intelligence and empathy- you have to understand others to lead them. People who love asking questions have a thirst to better relate to those around them. This demonstrated empathy allows you to learn people’s strengths and weaknesses, which in turn allows you to put them in the best position to succeed.

2. They Aren’t Afraid to Get Help

When Steve Job was 12, he personally called Bill Hewett, co-founder of Hewlett-Packard, and asked for spare parts for a frequency counter. Hewett not only agreed to send him the parts, but gave him a summer job at HP assembling frequency counters.

“I’ve never found anybody who didn’t want to help me when I’ve asked them for help,” said Jobs.

The willingness to ask for help that gave Jobs the nerve to look up Hewett’s name in the phonebook is evident throughout his time at Apple. From Woz to Jony Ive, Jobs always knew when to rely on extremely talented people to help him execute his vision.

There’s only so much you can do – even for Steve Jobs, it never hurts to ask.

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3. They Never Stop Learning

If you’re not growing, you’re dying. Those who ask questions understand how critical it is to be a student of life. No matter how much information is accessible via our adjacent smartphones, the best way to learn anything is to just ask someone. Inquisitive minds are sponges that never stop soaking up the world around them.

Sound like an informed person that you’d want to lead you?

4. They Are Confident But Humble

To ask a question is to admit that you don’t know everything in the world that there is to know. But guess what? Nobody does.

Humble leaders that are willing to admit they aren’t all knowing deities don’t show weakness, they earn respect.

When you ask a question you actually end up displaying confidence that you are secure enough to admit there is something you don’t know.

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5. They Are Able to Frame Problems (and solutions)

Albert Einstein once remarked that if he had an hour to solve a problem and his life depended on it; he’d spend the first 55 minutes determining the question to ask, because once he had the right question it would only take him five minutes to solve the problem.

There is a tremendous power in asking why? in order to get to the heart of a problem and determine what it is you are really trying to accomplish.

Innovation is born from leaders that understand how to look at problems differently by reframing them with questions.

6. They Are Great Listeners

Great leaders understand the breadth of insight gained from asking the right questions and truly listening to your team’s answers.

The first thing on Richard Branson’s blog list of 5 tips for starting a successful business was that you should listen more than you talk.

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“Brilliant ideas can spring from the most unlikely places, so you should always keep your ears open for some shrewd advice,” writes Branson, ”This can mean following online comments as closely as board meeting notes, or asking the frontline staff for their opinions as often as the CEOs. Get out there, listen to people, draw people out and learn from them”

7. They Don’t Have Tunnel Vision

In leadership positions, it’s easy to develop tunnel vision based on your own perspective and the associated biases. Investigative questioning frees leaders from the siloed view of their own position by exposing them to other points of view.

Featured photo credit: Creative Commons via flickr.com

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7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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