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8 Reasons Why Travelers Make Better Lovers

8 Reasons Why Travelers Make Better Lovers

While traveling is renowned as a fun and educational experience that enables us to grow as individuals, it can also be arduous at times. From unexpected delays and climate changes to the significant challenges posed by alternative cultures, regular traveling demands a number of attributes and personal characteristics.

These personal traits enable fortunate individuals to travel the world and soak up a wealth of experience. This, in turn, helps them to develop as people, as they learn how to become better communicators, achieve a better understanding of those around them and establish a keen sense of independence.

These traits are also pivotal in any relationship, and tend to distinguish individuals as superior lovers. With this in mind, let’s look at exactly why travelers are more likely to maintain romantic affiliations.

1. They are self-assured and have discovered their purpose

Travel can often be described as a journey of self-discovery, especially for younger individuals who take to the road to develop a greater understanding of their future purpose in life.

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This breeds an innate sense of self-confidence and assurance, meaning that travelers have a greater appreciation of their self-worth and are less likely to develop feelings of insecurity during a relationship. As a result of their experiences and constant learning, travellers are also likely to be on a path of continual self-improvement as they grow older.

2. They are more grateful and appreciative

As travelers have enjoyed such unique and diverse experiences, they tend to be grateful for the life that they have lived and the people that they have encountered.

Those who have ventured to developing countries will also have seen the true nature of hardship, meaning that they have a greater sense of perspective and appreciation, thanks to the opportunities that they have been afforded.

Such an outlook tends to make travelers contented and more appreciative of their partners, which in turn creates a more stable and ultimately prosperous relationship.

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3. They are more willing to settle down

The course of true love hardly ever runs smooth, although relationships can be complicated by conflicting needs and long-term aspirations. While one partner may be ready to settle down and commit to a serious adult relationship, for example, the other may be reluctant due to a lack of life experience or a sense of unfulfilled adolescence.

Due to the intense and incredible experiences offered by life on the road, however, travelers are much more likely to feel fulfilled and therefore more open to a committed, settled relationship. This instantly makes them better and more reliable romantic partners.

4. They are flexible and open to change

Relationships are evolutionary and liable to change, both in terms of the status of individual partners and long-term goals. This requires a certain amount of flexibility and receptiveness to change, as this enables you to ‘go with the flow’ and place a positive slant on even difficult circumstances.

Travelers have these attributes in abundance, as while they may plan extensively when traveling abroad or visiting remote corners of the world, they retain a sense of adaptability and are equipped to cope with unexpected events.

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5. They are more optimistic

This willingness to be flexible also lends itself to a more optimistic outlook, as it enables individuals to embrace hardship and seek out an unexpected positive.

Given the challenging nature of relationships and the negative feeling that can be triggered by arguments, insensitivity and even infidelity, the ability to remain positive and look towards a brighter future is absolutely critical to any long-term relationship.

In this respect, travelers make the ideal partnership, as they will always focus on positive aspects of the relationship and use these as building blocks for the future.

6. They make for better listeners

Even though experienced travellers may be multi-lingual, when they first hit the road they may well have lacked this skill. This means that they will have spent a period of time honing their linguistic skills, while also working hard to understand alternative languages and listening intently to what others are saying. This is a habit that is easily carried on into later life, meaning that travellers are likely to be superior listeners who are capable of processing information and understanding the fundamental needs of their partners. The ability to listen can prevent distressing arguments, while also enabling couples to develop a deeper understanding of one another.

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7. They are respectful of those around them

One of the great distinctions between travelers and tourists is that the former learn to be respectful of opposing cultures and values. This is a prerequisite for regular travel, as otherwise, individuals would run the risk of greatly offending locals or acting in a way that opposes their customs.

As a result of this, travelers tend to be exceptionally respectful and sensitive to the feelings of those around them, enabling them to contribute positively to any romantic liaison. The importance of this cannot be ignored, especially as a lack of mutual respect can undermine any relationship.

8. They find it easier to learn

Traveling is one of the most immersive pastimes that you can enjoy as an adult, as it plunges you into a number of far-flung locations and exposes you to unique experiences. This inspires a hunger for knowledge and learning, which travelers can only satisfy through an inquisitive and ultimately passionate nature.

Such fire and fervor makes travelers the ideal lovers, as they have no issues with committing fully to a relationship or learning continually about their partners. Relationships with those who have traveled are, therefore, more intense and fulfilling, while there may also be a greater sense of passion.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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