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8 Reasons Why Travelers Make Better Lovers

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8 Reasons Why Travelers Make Better Lovers

While traveling is renowned as a fun and educational experience that enables us to grow as individuals, it can also be arduous at times. From unexpected delays and climate changes to the significant challenges posed by alternative cultures, regular traveling demands a number of attributes and personal characteristics.

These personal traits enable fortunate individuals to travel the world and soak up a wealth of experience. This, in turn, helps them to develop as people, as they learn how to become better communicators, achieve a better understanding of those around them and establish a keen sense of independence.

These traits are also pivotal in any relationship, and tend to distinguish individuals as superior lovers. With this in mind, let’s look at exactly why travelers are more likely to maintain romantic affiliations.

1. They are self-assured and have discovered their purpose

Travel can often be described as a journey of self-discovery, especially for younger individuals who take to the road to develop a greater understanding of their future purpose in life.

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This breeds an innate sense of self-confidence and assurance, meaning that travelers have a greater appreciation of their self-worth and are less likely to develop feelings of insecurity during a relationship. As a result of their experiences and constant learning, travellers are also likely to be on a path of continual self-improvement as they grow older.

2. They are more grateful and appreciative

As travelers have enjoyed such unique and diverse experiences, they tend to be grateful for the life that they have lived and the people that they have encountered.

Those who have ventured to developing countries will also have seen the true nature of hardship, meaning that they have a greater sense of perspective and appreciation, thanks to the opportunities that they have been afforded.

Such an outlook tends to make travelers contented and more appreciative of their partners, which in turn creates a more stable and ultimately prosperous relationship.

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3. They are more willing to settle down

The course of true love hardly ever runs smooth, although relationships can be complicated by conflicting needs and long-term aspirations. While one partner may be ready to settle down and commit to a serious adult relationship, for example, the other may be reluctant due to a lack of life experience or a sense of unfulfilled adolescence.

Due to the intense and incredible experiences offered by life on the road, however, travelers are much more likely to feel fulfilled and therefore more open to a committed, settled relationship. This instantly makes them better and more reliable romantic partners.

4. They are flexible and open to change

Relationships are evolutionary and liable to change, both in terms of the status of individual partners and long-term goals. This requires a certain amount of flexibility and receptiveness to change, as this enables you to ‘go with the flow’ and place a positive slant on even difficult circumstances.

Travelers have these attributes in abundance, as while they may plan extensively when traveling abroad or visiting remote corners of the world, they retain a sense of adaptability and are equipped to cope with unexpected events.

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5. They are more optimistic

This willingness to be flexible also lends itself to a more optimistic outlook, as it enables individuals to embrace hardship and seek out an unexpected positive.

Given the challenging nature of relationships and the negative feeling that can be triggered by arguments, insensitivity and even infidelity, the ability to remain positive and look towards a brighter future is absolutely critical to any long-term relationship.

In this respect, travelers make the ideal partnership, as they will always focus on positive aspects of the relationship and use these as building blocks for the future.

6. They make for better listeners

Even though experienced travellers may be multi-lingual, when they first hit the road they may well have lacked this skill. This means that they will have spent a period of time honing their linguistic skills, while also working hard to understand alternative languages and listening intently to what others are saying. This is a habit that is easily carried on into later life, meaning that travellers are likely to be superior listeners who are capable of processing information and understanding the fundamental needs of their partners. The ability to listen can prevent distressing arguments, while also enabling couples to develop a deeper understanding of one another.

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7. They are respectful of those around them

One of the great distinctions between travelers and tourists is that the former learn to be respectful of opposing cultures and values. This is a prerequisite for regular travel, as otherwise, individuals would run the risk of greatly offending locals or acting in a way that opposes their customs.

As a result of this, travelers tend to be exceptionally respectful and sensitive to the feelings of those around them, enabling them to contribute positively to any romantic liaison. The importance of this cannot be ignored, especially as a lack of mutual respect can undermine any relationship.

8. They find it easier to learn

Traveling is one of the most immersive pastimes that you can enjoy as an adult, as it plunges you into a number of far-flung locations and exposes you to unique experiences. This inspires a hunger for knowledge and learning, which travelers can only satisfy through an inquisitive and ultimately passionate nature.

Such fire and fervor makes travelers the ideal lovers, as they have no issues with committing fully to a relationship or learning continually about their partners. Relationships with those who have traveled are, therefore, more intense and fulfilling, while there may also be a greater sense of passion.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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