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8 Surprising Signs You Might be a Natural Born Adventurer

8 Surprising Signs You Might be a Natural Born Adventurer

When you think of adventurers, you likely think of historical figures that you learned about in books, such as Christopher Columbus or Magellan. You may also think of modern travelers who sell everything so they can explore the world or live on a beach. A part of you might wish you were like them, but you might believe you don’t have what it takes. Many people with natural born adventurer qualities just don’t realize they DO have what it takes. Their inner adventurer is lying dormant, waiting to be activated. If you have any of the following eight qualities, we say you ARE an adventurer. You should begin planning your next adventure today!

1. They wonder what’s over the next hill.

Adventurers are fueled by the unknown. When you are out and about, do you find yourself curious about what’s in the next block, down the next road, or over the next hill? Then you have what it takes to be an adventurer too. Curiosity pulls adventurers toward adventure like a magnet. Discovery is one of the great joys of being an adventurer.

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2. They are the ones who think of things to do.

Whether you are spontaneous or a planner, if you find yourself getting ideas for solo or group activities, you have what it takes to be an adventurer. If you are often the one who says crazy things like, “Let’s go chase alligators at that new state park. Or we could spend Saturday making homemade airplanes. Anyone for bungee jumping?” – then you are an adventurer.

3. They’d rather fund a trip out of town than pay bills.

We all have to be responsible, but you find yourself thinking about the places you could go with the money you have to spend on bills instead. This means you have what it takes to be an adventurer! Adventurers are willing to give things up to pay for gas, hotel, camping, mega-flashlights, bear spray, and other costs of adventuring.

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4. They find adventure everywhere… even in the ordinary.

Nobody said you have to travel hundreds or thousands of miles away from home to be an adventurer. Those who have adventure in their blood find it everywhere. When you ride your bike downtown or leave the office to do errands, do you imagine you are on a great adventure? Then you have the heart of an adventurer.

5. They gather gear and gadgets. They can’t help themselves.

Adventurers are gadget and gear lovers. They adore their backpacks, multi-tools, and clever containers. If your shelves at home hold handy gadgets and gear you bought “just in case you need it,” then you are an adventurer just waiting to come alive!

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6. They are resourceful and imaginative.

Adventurers are clever people who love using whatever is at hand to solve challenges. No lighter for the campfire? Use your taser (carefully). Nothing to write down an address? Etch it into paper with a toothpick or write it on the windshield in lipstick. Your friends might start referring to your resourceful solutions using your name as a noun, like: “It’s another Sheila!”

7. They never give up. Some might say they are stubborn.

Adventure has its share of challenges, but that’s part of the fun. If you don’t give up easily and choose to be positive about even the most difficult problems in life, then you have the spirit of an adventurer. Those who give up, miss out on the most beautiful forests, highest mountains, and most majestic bears.

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8. They easily lose track of time.

An interesting thing about adventuring is that you become immersed in it. If you often become engrossed in what you are doing, and feel hungry to learn more about it, then you’re adventurous. If you love studying every angle and easily shut out everything else while you are exploring an idea, then you have the mind of an adventurer. You already have the ability to absorb your surroundings, learn as you explore, and truly enjoy your adventures. Just because you haven’t yet traveled the world or decided to live on a beach or climb a mountain doesn’t mean your aren’t an adventurer. Let the natural born inner adventurer in you out today; wherever you are, and whatever you’re doing. What’s over that next hill? Do you know someone else who might be an adventurer? Send them this list to encourage them!

Featured photo credit: Woman Standing On Red Rocks Celebrating Success/Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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