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8 Traps Materialistic People Easily Fall Into – Without Knowing It

8 Traps Materialistic People Easily Fall Into – Without Knowing It

What happened?

In a world where we’re defined by the clothes we wear, the cars we drive, and the size of our homes; material items speak louder than ever.

Materialism has been rapidly expanding and shows no signs of slowing down.  With the majority of Western Civilization falling victim to a materialistic lifestyle, it’s become the norm to care more about what you own rather than who you are as a person.

We all know materialistic people in our lives. You might even be one of them.  Material goods blind us from life, making it impossible to experience true happiness.

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By seeing the different traps materialists experience, you can avoid them yourself and steer clear of transforming into yet another individual defined by their possessions.

1.  They Always Need More

In a material world, more is never enough.  There’s always a newer, bigger, faster, more high-tech version of what you already have.  When it comes to material goods, there’s always a reason to need more.  Satisfaction doesn’t exist.

2.  The Rely On Instant Gratification

The beauty of material items is that you can easily fix a bad mood with a trip to the mall.  The tragedy is this becomes an addictive cycle and the emotional lift never lasts.

Materialistic people are programmed to want everything now.  This takes away the pridefulness in working hard to earn something that takes time to achieve, like mastering a craft or getting into peak shape.

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3.  They Crave Approval From Others

Materialists yearn for a sense of belonging.  People want to fit in. So when everyone is getting a new iPhone or buying bigger TV’s it makes sense that you would want to do it too.  However, materialistic people focus so much on the approval and acceptance of others that they never look for approval from themselves.

4.  They Try To Buy Happiness

Materialistic people believe happiness has a price tag and can be bought in a store.  Perhaps not literally (though I wouldn’t be surprised), but there’s always the feeling: “if I only had ____ then I’d be happy”.  In reality, one more thing won’t make or break your happiness.  If you aren’t happy now then buying a new pair of sneakers isn’t going to change that.

5.  They Define Who They Are By What They Own

Every year, people all over the U.S. meet up in various locations to hangout with others who have nothing in common with them except that they all drive Harley Davidson Motorcycles.  It’s a modern day cult where if you don’t own one, then you don’t belong.  From a materialistic view, who you are underneath doesn’t matter anymore.  It’s your possessions that show who you really are.

6.  They Become Slaves To Their Material Items

After buying happiness and earning approval from others, rather than owning their possessions, materialistic people become prisoners to the very items they purchased.  Always looking for new ways to signify their status, materialists become so lost in their possessions that they lose focus of the things that matter most.

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7.  They Treat People Like Material Possessions

Between beach bodies, calorie cutting diets, and idolizing super models, materialistic people treat others as products to be consumed.  Both women and men become objectified into desirable goods sought after by all.  Celebrities and “beautiful” people are considered super-human. Those of us who don’t have the proper appearance become like “the untouchables” from the Indian caste system.

8.  They Get Trapped In The Noise

In the end, materialistic people become lost.  There’s so much to be consumed that no one will ever have it all. Chances are, whatever you own, someone else has it too.  This endless consumption creates clutter; both in their physical life, as well as in their minds. Since there’s so much to keep track of they can’t even remember everything they own.

What is the ultimate goal of a materialistic lifestyle?  You could spend your entire life chasing physical possessions and you’ll die coming nowhere close to owning it all.  The reality is that when you die, nothing is going with you.  It’s all getting left behind.

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By turning your focus inward rather than on what you own, and by accumulating experiences that last a lifetime rather than material items, you can avoid the chaos of the material world and live a life that means something to you. Because, when all is said and done, that’s what really matters.

Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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