“I am not anxious to be the loudest voice or the most popular. But I would like to think that at a crucial moment, I was an effective voice of the voiceless, an effective hope of the hopeless.”
― Whitney Young
We live in an age where we do not want to be labeled different. It is often easier to follow the crowd rather than state an opinion that may contradict what is popular or generally accepted. Many also do not want to appear foolish or vulnerable when they express their opinion. However expressing your opinion is the trigger that ignites all action, from ideas to plans and decisions.Advertising
“Speak up and speak clearly. I want to hear what you have to say because it matters. Let’s listen to each other and respect one another’s opinions. Although, they may be different, wisdom allows us to be responsible for our own feelings and actions.”
― Felicia Johnson, Her
You have a chip on the bargaining table
Airing your opinion offers your stand on what side you will like to take on a subject. We live in a world where people sometimes try to take advantage of others because they believe they will be too nice to say no. But airing your opinion puts you in a pole position where you are not taking advantage of but you are able to make others aware of what you want and demand of them.Advertising
You are more interesting
No one likes an indecisive or a shy person. It betrays a lack of maturity and overshadow’s ones confidence. When you are clear about your opinion you show that you are knowledgeable about what you are saying and prove to be an interesting person to engage with in a discussion.
You save yourself some stress
Words that are unsaid or can cause you a great deal of anxiety and stress. The play in your mind could be heavy and it will be so easing to make create a different situation rather than just holding up your intentions or opinions.Advertising
You will have something to learn
Whether you are wrong with your opinion or right with it you will have something to learn. Sometimes when your opinion is not grounded enough or relevant it is better to stand corrected rather than holding on to your stupidity. You only become wiser at the end of the day when you air your opinion.
You influence others to do the same
Other people may be finding it difficult to express their opinion. But by taking the step forward to air your opinion you can inspire others to do the same. People appreciate you for being bold and courageous and you are a source of influence to others.Advertising
You live with no regrets
By expressing your opinion you eliminate the feeling of “I wish I would have said…” You really have no pains or sour feelings when you look at the past. You can face the future with no regrets at missing an opportunity to let others know what you think.
You can ignite an action
Whether your opinion is taking seriously or not, by airing it you have been able to provide a reason for thinking, consideration or sometimes a reason for action. For example if you offer a possible solution to a problem, even if it is not worth pursuing it could lead to finding a way to get an alternative solution.
You have fewer risks
Most people don’t want to express their opinion because of what they feel may become a drastic consequence. The truth is that the world is for the courageous. Expressing your opinion differentiates you from the pack. There is something heroic about telling others about your opinion. Yes at the long run you are admired rather than scolded. The truth is that there is more to fear for if you do not tell others what you think.
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Last Updated on July 16, 2019
7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive
Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.
When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.
Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.
Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.
1. Become Grateful for Everything
When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.
People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.
When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.
We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.
2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself
Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.
Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?
Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.
If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.
3. Help Others
Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.
Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.
Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.
4. Change Your Thinking
We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.
The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”
Changing our self-talk is powerful.
5. Surround Yourself with Positive People
We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.
As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.
Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.
6. Get into Action
Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.
Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.
Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity
7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim
You are responsible for your thoughts.
People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.
Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.
Make positive choices in favor of yourself.
“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu
More About Positivity
- 15 Ways to Practice Positive Self-Talk for Success
- 10 Simple Ways To Make Positive Thinking Your Habit
- 10 Reasons Why You Should Avoid Negative People
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