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10 Struggles Only Over-Thinkers Would Understand

10 Struggles Only Over-Thinkers Would Understand

It is always hard to comprehend the ways of an over-thinker. Some have labeled us to be insecure and uncertain. While others suggest we are simply frightful. The truth is that there are only certain scenarios we can paint in our minds. These struggles only belong to us and only we can understand them.

1. We know relationships can be challenging

It is tough to deal with others. Because most times they will never meet our expectations and really we do take their actions too seriously. Even if it was a simply innocent remark we put added meaning to it and we form more than a million explanations around it.

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2. We worry a lot

We worry about almost anything. We think, juxtapose and imagine what the worst case scenario could be. We worry about the worst scenarios coming to life rather than the best. Such anxiety takes a toll on us as we try to search for possible solutions out of the mess our imaginative mind could put us in.

3. We plan more than we undertake

Our lives are centered on planning and paying attention to details. We want to fix it even if before it happens. We plan for the best. We plan for the worst. And at the end of the day we become disheartened if our plans are not acted out. Because really nothing happens the way we always thought it would.

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4. We are sometimes labeled to as insecure

Since we are always thinking and worrying and planning, people start having issues with our lack of stability. It would have simply been better if we thought it out and accomplished what we planned out, but we are always thinking more than doing.

5. We are victims of our mind

At the end of the day our mind plays tricks on us and we are simply victims of an ever active brain. Our minds go through sad thoughts, philosophical thoughts, theoretical thoughts and sometimes scary thoughts.

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6. We have it tough sustaining a relationship

This is for our boyfriends and girlfriends. It’s so difficult to date us because we are always over-analyzing everything that you have ever told us. Yes we love you or we have a crush on you, it is just so hard not to put depth in your every statement at us.

7. We just can’t forget

We hold on to every memory of the past as if it was some diamond necklace. We simply can’t let go and forget the past. Somehow we feel that it is the only mirror in making our present decisions.

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8. We have to apologize for everything

Since we are always thinking and taking our self so seriously, it is hard not to apologize and let you know how bad we feel about an issue or a situation. Even when it is not our fault or we are not to blame, we just feel we have not reached a bar, and we have to tell others how sorry we are for this.

9. We ask ourselves a lot of questions

If something goes right or wrong we ask ourselves a lot of questions. For example if someone unfollows us on Twitter or unfriends us on Facebook we wonder what might have gone wrong. Such puzzles could keep us awake all night as one question could give birth to a thousand more questions.

10. We are always comparing ourselves to others

We want to always know why we are not first in the pack or doing a lot better than other people. It is hard to fathom our present circumstances as we always feel we should be right ahead. However if we are not meeting such incredible standards we are setting for ourselves we tend to look at the future and start anticipating for it in incredulous ways.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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