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10 Struggles Only Over-Thinkers Would Understand

10 Struggles Only Over-Thinkers Would Understand

It is always hard to comprehend the ways of an over-thinker. Some have labeled us to be insecure and uncertain. While others suggest we are simply frightful. The truth is that there are only certain scenarios we can paint in our minds. These struggles only belong to us and only we can understand them.

1. We know relationships can be challenging

It is tough to deal with others. Because most times they will never meet our expectations and really we do take their actions too seriously. Even if it was a simply innocent remark we put added meaning to it and we form more than a million explanations around it.

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2. We worry a lot

We worry about almost anything. We think, juxtapose and imagine what the worst case scenario could be. We worry about the worst scenarios coming to life rather than the best. Such anxiety takes a toll on us as we try to search for possible solutions out of the mess our imaginative mind could put us in.

3. We plan more than we undertake

Our lives are centered on planning and paying attention to details. We want to fix it even if before it happens. We plan for the best. We plan for the worst. And at the end of the day we become disheartened if our plans are not acted out. Because really nothing happens the way we always thought it would.

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4. We are sometimes labeled to as insecure

Since we are always thinking and worrying and planning, people start having issues with our lack of stability. It would have simply been better if we thought it out and accomplished what we planned out, but we are always thinking more than doing.

5. We are victims of our mind

At the end of the day our mind plays tricks on us and we are simply victims of an ever active brain. Our minds go through sad thoughts, philosophical thoughts, theoretical thoughts and sometimes scary thoughts.

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6. We have it tough sustaining a relationship

This is for our boyfriends and girlfriends. It’s so difficult to date us because we are always over-analyzing everything that you have ever told us. Yes we love you or we have a crush on you, it is just so hard not to put depth in your every statement at us.

7. We just can’t forget

We hold on to every memory of the past as if it was some diamond necklace. We simply can’t let go and forget the past. Somehow we feel that it is the only mirror in making our present decisions.

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8. We have to apologize for everything

Since we are always thinking and taking our self so seriously, it is hard not to apologize and let you know how bad we feel about an issue or a situation. Even when it is not our fault or we are not to blame, we just feel we have not reached a bar, and we have to tell others how sorry we are for this.

9. We ask ourselves a lot of questions

If something goes right or wrong we ask ourselves a lot of questions. For example if someone unfollows us on Twitter or unfriends us on Facebook we wonder what might have gone wrong. Such puzzles could keep us awake all night as one question could give birth to a thousand more questions.

10. We are always comparing ourselves to others

We want to always know why we are not first in the pack or doing a lot better than other people. It is hard to fathom our present circumstances as we always feel we should be right ahead. However if we are not meeting such incredible standards we are setting for ourselves we tend to look at the future and start anticipating for it in incredulous ways.

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Casey Imafidon

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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