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9 Things To Know Before You Date A Flight Attendant

9 Things To Know Before You Date A Flight Attendant

Are you dating a flight attendant, or about to? Congratulations if you are! You are fearless, bold, and living life as we ought to. Why do I say this? Flight attendants are a rare breed. Because of the nature of our job, we are trained to deal with many extreme situations normal people don’t get to experience. Due to this, we develop attractive personalities that make us extra-interesting dates. When you date, and maybe even fall in love with a flight attendant, you will find yourself experiencing all of the great but also all of the tough parts of dating a flight attendant.

1. We are sleep deprived.

With long working hours and little time to rest, one activity you can indulge in while dating is to relax in a spa. There, we can catch some extra Zzzz’s. We’ll love you double if you are aware of this. After a restful massage and a long nap, we can be more attentive to you and our conversations. Who knows — after a nap the next conversation has the potential to lead to a blooming relationship.

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2. You’ll be hard pressed to look for a flight attendant, male or female, who is a mile high club member.

We clean aircraft loos often so we are smart enough not to expose our private parts in those areas. This area of the airplane is never sexy to us. Aside from that, we risk losing our jobs by joining the mile high club! It’s not worth the risk to most of us.

3. We look calm even if we are actually stressed.

Be extra sensitive when dating a flight attendant. We might look calm even if we’re going through stressful times. Because we are trained to be calm even in emergencies, you might not notice that we are going through tough times. Sometimes, you just have to ask and prompt us to share what’s really going on in our heads.

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4. We are hygiene freaks.

When flying, hygiene is king. We wash our hands all the time. When we’re away from a sink, we wash our hands with bottled alcohol. We freak out when disinfectants run out.

5. You can easily please us.

Flight attendants appreciate even the littlest of things in life. We have one of the world’s most dangerous jobs that we live one day at a time. And this is done in an extreme manner. To us, today is just a memory and tomorrow is but a dream. Little types of appreciation like flowers, a special date, or even our favorite foods make all of the difference to flight attendants!

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6. We breathe caring for people.

We have genuine concern for passengers. We are trained to have compassion for passengers. To us, these leads into our personal lives. Dates are opportunities to show we care.

7. We are conversation experts

Conversing has become natural to us. We have seen the world, been exposed to diverse cultures, and we deal with hundreds of personalities all the time. If you love sparkling conversations we can chat you up about anything under the sun. So when you go out with us you can relax. You can count on us to carry on tête-à-tête even till the morning hours.

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8.  We love gastronomic adventures

We’re so tired of airplane food no matter how delectable they are. So once we hit the ground, we hunt for restaurants to sample new tastes and go on dining adventures. We love to please our palates. we can introduce to food you’ve never heard before. We have tasted food served from around the globe and love finding it in our hometowns too!

9. Flight attendants are restless

You can’t let us stay put in one place for too long any more. All the travelling has made us used to moving around all the time. You can plan to have a date that involves moving around a lot. That way, you won’t bore us.

Flight attendants are good dates even once you’ve learned all of the positives and negatives. You’ll never get bored dating a flight attendant because we are caring, good at talking to all types of people, and are appreciative of even the smallest gestures!

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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