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11 Signs You Are An Exceptionally Likeable Person (Even If You Don’t Feel You Are)

11 Signs You Are An Exceptionally Likeable Person (Even If You Don’t Feel You Are)

Being a likeable person brings you many benefits. People who are likeable often get more privileges in life. People enjoy being around you if you are likeable, and as a result, you are often being treated kindly. You gain more opportunities when you are likeable, because let’s face it, people enjoy giving opportunities to people they like. We can all learn to be likeable, if we are willing to make ourselves a better person.

Check out these 11 signs of an exceptionally likeable person:

1. They are genuine

Likeable people say what they mean, and they mean what they say. They are always honest to themselves and to others. They never try to be someone they are not.  People who appreciate honesty feel comfortable asking for their opinion, because they know that they will always tell them the truth.

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2. They are curious about others

Likeable people is very interested in what others have to share with them. They enjoy learning about others and value what they can learn from everyone. People love to share their stories and experiences with them because they know that they will be thrilled to hear their stories.

3. They are good listeners

Likeable people are always attentive to what people are telling them. They are not distracted or too eager to speak out when someone is sharing their stories or telling them something. People enjoy talking to them because they are always respectful to the person they are interacting with during conversations.

4. They are humble

To them, humility is the ability or the willingness to learn from others. They never hesitate to share the credit for the accomplishment they achieved. People like having them as their friend, because of their humbleness.

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5. They are always punctual

They are always on time for their meetings or appointments, because they respect the time of others. They organize their time effectively. People are pleased with their punctuality and are rest assured that they will always be on time for any occasion.

6. They are not judgemental

They understand that every individual is different, so they don’t criticize the choices other people make, even if those choices are very different from their personal preferences. People feel comfortable sharing their situation with them because they know that they will always respect their choices, and that they will never judge them or the decisions they make.

7. They are caring and helpful

They always lend a hand to the people who needed help if they are able. They care about others’ feelings and need. People come to them when they really needed help, because they know that they will try to help them as long as they are able to.

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8. They love to smile and are a positive thinker

They never fail to put on a smile when they come across someone. They lighten up the mood of others. They look at the good side instead of the bitter side of things. People feel happy or lighten up when they are interacting with them, because they possess a friendly and upbeat nature.

9. They are empathetic

They understand others’ suffering and are compassionate toward them. They always stand in others’ shoes and are able to feel others’ pain. People will put down their defenses and replace it with positive energy when dealing with them, because they are able to show them deep compassion.

10. They have an open heart

They are always willing to let others in. They know that only an open heart will allow them to be equal with others. People are willing to be more open to them because they have shown them that it is okay to be vulnerable.

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11. They are not attention seekers

They do not appreciate narcissism, therefore they don’t focus their time and efforts on seeking for attention from others. They rather use their time for productive activities, to gain more knowledge and learn new things. People like to hang with them because they know that they don’t have to be the audience of a narcissistic person.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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