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11 Signs You Are An Exceptionally Likeable Person (Even If You Don’t Feel You Are)

11 Signs You Are An Exceptionally Likeable Person (Even If You Don’t Feel You Are)

Being a likeable person brings you many benefits. People who are likeable often get more privileges in life. People enjoy being around you if you are likeable, and as a result, you are often being treated kindly. You gain more opportunities when you are likeable, because let’s face it, people enjoy giving opportunities to people they like. We can all learn to be likeable, if we are willing to make ourselves a better person.

Check out these 11 signs of an exceptionally likeable person:

1. They are genuine

Likeable people say what they mean, and they mean what they say. They are always honest to themselves and to others. They never try to be someone they are not.  People who appreciate honesty feel comfortable asking for their opinion, because they know that they will always tell them the truth.

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2. They are curious about others

Likeable people is very interested in what others have to share with them. They enjoy learning about others and value what they can learn from everyone. People love to share their stories and experiences with them because they know that they will be thrilled to hear their stories.

3. They are good listeners

Likeable people are always attentive to what people are telling them. They are not distracted or too eager to speak out when someone is sharing their stories or telling them something. People enjoy talking to them because they are always respectful to the person they are interacting with during conversations.

4. They are humble

To them, humility is the ability or the willingness to learn from others. They never hesitate to share the credit for the accomplishment they achieved. People like having them as their friend, because of their humbleness.

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5. They are always punctual

They are always on time for their meetings or appointments, because they respect the time of others. They organize their time effectively. People are pleased with their punctuality and are rest assured that they will always be on time for any occasion.

6. They are not judgemental

They understand that every individual is different, so they don’t criticize the choices other people make, even if those choices are very different from their personal preferences. People feel comfortable sharing their situation with them because they know that they will always respect their choices, and that they will never judge them or the decisions they make.

7. They are caring and helpful

They always lend a hand to the people who needed help if they are able. They care about others’ feelings and need. People come to them when they really needed help, because they know that they will try to help them as long as they are able to.

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8. They love to smile and are a positive thinker

They never fail to put on a smile when they come across someone. They lighten up the mood of others. They look at the good side instead of the bitter side of things. People feel happy or lighten up when they are interacting with them, because they possess a friendly and upbeat nature.

9. They are empathetic

They understand others’ suffering and are compassionate toward them. They always stand in others’ shoes and are able to feel others’ pain. People will put down their defenses and replace it with positive energy when dealing with them, because they are able to show them deep compassion.

10. They have an open heart

They are always willing to let others in. They know that only an open heart will allow them to be equal with others. People are willing to be more open to them because they have shown them that it is okay to be vulnerable.

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11. They are not attention seekers

They do not appreciate narcissism, therefore they don’t focus their time and efforts on seeking for attention from others. They rather use their time for productive activities, to gain more knowledge and learn new things. People like to hang with them because they know that they don’t have to be the audience of a narcissistic person.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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