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15 Things Successful People Never Say At Work

15 Things Successful People Never Say At Work

Successful people are a class apart. Whatever they do, they set a benchmark and they do it with some style.

Mindsets are like viral infections. One of the best things you could do is surround yourself with successful people in your workplace. Their work ethic and style, the way they do things and why they do things is enviable and something one cannot feel bad about imitating. So what is it that we can copy paste in our lives?

Below are 15 things successful people never say at work. Let us all take some leaves out of their books and get going.

1. They never gossip about other people

Gossip is an exercise of the tongue. They don’t have time for such high school drama. They are focused on their work and on acing whatever they are doing. Successful people don’t gossip because they believe in spending their time and energies in much more productive work. If someone needs help, instead of gossiping, they talk to them directly. But talking behind their backs is a strict no-no for successful people! They clearly know that people who talk about other people because they cannot be heroes themselves. So they feel the need to create & identify villains around by gossiping.

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2. They never make excuses

“I got late because of this”, “I won’t be able to submit the report because of this”, “I won’t be able to…” – are words you won’t hear from successful people. Because they don’t ever make excuses. If they can’t do something, they generally don’t take it up. But mostly, they balance everything pretty well. They are on time with their arrivals and submissions. They are punctual. Successful people don’t let it reach a point where they will need to make excuses. They plan their hours in such a smart way that they are never found chasing their agendas. They look to be on top of them always.

3. They never say No

They have this fearlessness written large on their faces. Alibis are not in sync with their personalities. They take charge and see to it that things get done. They don’t say a downright no to doing things. They give it all they have and try to succeed at multiple things; while knowing what is their real forte. Successful people are good at a lot of things because they don’t say no.

4. They never complain about the system

Let’s admit, even they have problems when the work system becomes a little restrictive. But what sets successful people apart is instead of cribbing, they find a way out. They try to understand the system. And if it is there for good, they change. And if not, they try to change the system. But complaining is something you won’t hear from them for sure! Most unsuccessful people could be found cribbing about system around.

5. They never complain about how much work they have

They enjoy their work. They sign up for it. Because they like to have a lot on their plate and then achieve it all. It is a very good feeling. They over prepare themselves and then they go with the flow. That’s how they succeed. They don’t complain about the quantity of their work. They just try to set new quality standards.

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6. They never talk too much about their personal lives

Successful people believe in keeping the mystery around themselves. They also know how to communicate better in their workplaces. They know that at work, one should focus only on work related issues. That’s why, they talk the least about their personal lives. They like to keep it separate and balanced.

7. They never say mean things to their colleagues

Because they are awesome people. They are never rude to their colleagues. If they don’t like something, they make polite confrontations. They don’t believe in rumours. They don’t believe in petty word exchanges. And they are also good at letting go. They simply know ‘How to avoid controversies’.

8. They never talk about their financials

Successful people don’t brag about the money they make because they know it breeds unhealthy competition. They want everyone to compete on equal footing on the basis of their talents and outcomes and productivity; not money. Also, they don’t like showing off to others. Successful people also know – money is not a good end result of every endeavour. Hence, they keep it out of their discussions.

9. They usually avoid talking about their goals

Successful people rarely talk about their targets and what all they wish to achieve in front of their colleagues because they know it leads to added pressure. They like to take people by surprise with their achievements. They know that people have a habit of criticism. And in case their goals don’t get fulfilled for whatever reason, they can avoid a lot of heat by not sharing each and everything on their to-do list.

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10. They never talk too much about themselves

Successful people are very good communicators. They know that the best way to win people over without even trying is to show genuine interest in them. That’s why, you won’t find successful people talking much about themselves unless specifically asked for. They have genuine conversations with their colleagues about what’s happening with them and whether the colleague needs any help. They win hearts very subtly. They have realized that ‘to near people; they need to hear them’.

11. They never talk about giving up

The thought never crosses their minds. If something isn’t working a particular way, they figure out some other way. They know there is always a way. And they don’t give up till they find it. This is one of the most prominent hallmarks of successful people. They never give up. They may rest for a while but you will never find them quitting.

12. They never say no to a learning opportunity

They will practically latch on to it. And they don’t feel shy even in learning something from someone who is junior to them at work. Successful people know that learning and experience can be gained from anywhere, at any point. And that one should not let go of the opportunity. One reason why they don’t say No is because it helps them learn. And they have this unquenchable thirst for learning new methods and adopting new ideas. That’s what makes them successful.

13. They never say no when someone asks for help

Because, successful people believe in growing with everyone else. If there is something they can do to help someone grow, they will selflessly do it. And the vice versa is also true. If they need help, they don’t feel ashamed to seek it. They believe in helping and taking help. That’s how successful people make such good work environments around them & that’s why people come to them. Because they give help without pretence. They know that networking is a very important career function & they fully leverage upon it.

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14. They never say things to please others.

Frankly, successful people don’t know how to. The only way they know of growing in life is doing excellent work. They don’t know of shortcuts like pleasing the boss to climb up the ladder / running around others. They know how to do their work with excellence and they know how to get ahead in life on the basis of that merit. They won’t sugar coat their words either. They call a spade a spade. They win hearts genuinely.

15. They never make offensive comments even in jest

Successful people think before they speak. They don’t make offensive jokes / rude comments on colleague under the influence of intoxicating bad habits. They are always in charge of their reputation. They are in control of their emotions. They don’t react to people. They speak only the right words that fit the work environment. That’s what makes them successful people.

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The Key to Finding Job Satisfaction and Having a Successful Career

The Key to Finding Job Satisfaction and Having a Successful Career

Regardless of whether you hold an entry-level administration role or regularly travel to the ends of the Earth as a hot-shot senior executive, you can still find yourself harboring an emptiness… a feeling that something is missing. A popular assumption that experiencing job satisfaction and a successful career should be underpinned by a well-rounded suite of tangible benefits, no longer holds true for many of us.

We’d never deny health care benefits, appropriate and fair remuneration, bonuses and travel perks in a job package. However, even if served to us on a silver platter, those features can only satiate us to a certain point.

You might wonder what governs entrepreneurs and start-up business owners to quit their lucrative jobs, essentially look the gift horse in the mouth and kiss such benefits goodbye! There can be an irresistible pull to mastermind a business with products and/or services that serve the greater good of community wider than that constituting their daily existence.

Even with research showing entrepreneurship to pose greater threats to their mental and physical health, this unique breed of individuals choose to go against the grain in chasing their dreams of being their own boss. Why? Why would anyone risk this type of career suicide?

Whether you’re an employee, have recently taken the leap to being a business owner or been in business for a while, the commonality is a congenital condition we all share as human beings; to feel a sense of purpose, value and contribution to our community. Despite it being harder to find this for ourselves in today’s world, these approaches will help you achieve ultimate satisfaction through the twists, turns and joyrides that are essential features of shaping a successful career.

1. Search for Opportunities That Feed Your Passion, Not Temporary Excitement

Even though well-intended, the ‘feel good now’ compass that career coaches and consultants often recommend you use to create career satisfaction can actually do you more harm than good. Excitement is transient. It doesn’t last. Passion is the compass you need.

Passion and excitement are two different things. The resounding career legacy that still draws you to turn up on the job regardless of the sunshine or storm that awaits you…that’s passion. It’s like a mental and/or emotional itch you can’t shrug off. Staying attuned to that calling will breed success for you sooner or later. Patience is key.

You’re also likely to have more than one key passion. Beware of getting caught in the notion you have to find your one true purpose. In fact, run immediately from any coach who tells you there is only one. There isn’t.

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Your passion is a journey that can take multiple forms so forget thinking there is the single dream job out there that will give you satisfaction in every way you can imagine. It simply doesn’t exist.

Consider embracing different roles and projects to help you fuel your passion or fuel your pursuits in finding it. Job satisfaction and your career success will be all the more sweeter from a wider range of enriching experiences.

2. Don’t Position Job and Career Satisfaction Assessments as Pivotal Guides to Your Success

Despite their popular use for vocational guidance, assessment tools such as Gallup’s Clifton Strengths and the Myers Briggs Type Indicator have come under fire[1] as being limited to the amount of true value and direction they can offer partakers.[2] These and many other guidance assessment tools (e.g. VIA Character Strengths , DISC ) are self-report questionnaires that don’t have normative population data against which to compare your results.

Simply remember these tools help you develop a stronger sense of what you identify as strengths and weaknesses within yourself, not in comparison with other people. They will still add insight around what sorts of career opportunities, tasks and projects are going to light your fire, what ones are going to extinguish it and what will prod and keep the coals steadily smoldering.

3. Be Clear on Your Personal Values, Ethics and Principles and Choose Relationships That Support You Honoring Them

Teamwork, collaboration, open communication and trust are commonplace for any flourishing work environment. However, whether or not your personal values can be honored in your work can make or break your job satisfaction.

How committed do you want to be to an organization that expects an average of 10 unpaid overtime hours every week under the guise of ‘reasonable overtime’? Are you willing to accept their construing this expectation as ‘strong commitment’ at the expense of your partner and children waiting at home for you? What are your boundaries concerning when you clock on to their time and when you clock off to yours?

Being very in tune with what your personal values, principles and ethics are will bid you well in the job satisfaction stakes. Spending time to reflect on experiences and working relationships you’ve had – the good, the bad and the ugly – will help you make well-informed searches and grounded decisions that will propel your career success.

Finding and nurturing relationships with associates and colleagues who share similar values doesn’t just make your day-to-day pursuits more enjoyable. You become fortunate to work with like-minded people who will support, understand and appreciate you like a second family.

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Being able to honor your personal values in your work means you will still be able to sleep at night when you have to tread where others fear to, and make extremely difficult decisions others would never ever dream of having to make as you forge success in your career.

4. Be Clear on Your Own Definition of What Having a Successful Career Means for You

It’s tempting to get caught up in the ideals and projections of success expressed by those we love, admire and respect. Underneath, we all want on some level to belong to a successful club of some sort.

With research reporting how much money we feel we need to be truly happy,[3] many of us try to subscribe to the notion that having the car of our dreams or taking a European holiday annually will not bring us happiness. The truth, however, for many of us is these tangible rewards are congratulatory reminders of our persistent efforts to chase our career pursuits.

If those are things you aspire to, don’t let anyone steal your desire and want to feel deserving of these things, that those are some parameters by which you define your career success.

Despite consistently being the top revenue earner for two years running, you may not wish to become the sales manager. You may not wish to step out into running your own business even though you consistently excel as an employee, delighting clients and repeatedly receiving glowing testimonials.

Your definition of career success might be enjoying the predictability of a regular workplace routine. You get to leave – without feeling guilty – at the same time each day, love the people you work with and get to spend a good, uninterrupted amount of work-stress free quality time with your family. That picture is also blissful job satisfaction and complete career success.

5. Identify the Sorts of Challenges and Problems You Want to Learn to Overcome

Standard advice you might receive from a career coach might be to look for opportunities where you get to capitalize on exercising your strengths and career-related activities you enjoy.

However, to become a success at anything involves improvement. To excel at anything often involves stepping outside boundaries and comfort zones where others wouldn’t. This means dedicating focus and attention to things you’re not so good at and things you don’t like.

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Here’s where working with a coach can be particularly helpful. Map out the experiences that were unsavory in your working history. Were there challenges you opted out of, projects you failed at or toxic relationships that blasted your sense of purpose and self-worth into oblivion? It’s within these experiences that you might just find the most valuable lessons and guiding lights for your trajectory to achieve greater job satisfaction.

If your natural leadership style is to be a collaborator, finding opportunities that require you to apply a more dictatorial style might be needed. Discussing a secondment or short-term project where you get to develop and test your skills can be a step further in earning contention to lead a larger project down the track.

With several of the company’s boldest personality types penciled to roll out the operation, you’ll not only develop skills that earn your right to throw your hat in the ring; those key players have an opportunity to see your competence. You can then work on building relationships with those stakeholders before you need to hit the ground running should you win the lead.

Greater job satisfaction comes with planning and choosing the lessons and opportunities you want to learn, not desperately flailing, floundering and hoping for the best.

6. Keep Reviewing Your Goal Posts and Be Amenable to Change

The word ‘career’ is indicative of a longer-term pathway of change, growth and development. The journey is dynamic.

You will accumulate new skills and let those you no longer need, become rusty. Your intrigue will be stimulated by new experiences, knowledge and people you meet. Your thinking will continue to expand, not shrink. As a result, your goalposts are likely to change.

A major part of enjoying a successful career is not just setting goals effectively, but regularly reviewing and readjusting them where necessary. However, moving the posts or the target still needs to take place by applying the same processes by which you originally created them. The strength of your emotional connection to those revised goals needs to be the same, if not stronger.

By asking yourself the following questions, you can assure your developmental and growth trajectory is still on course:

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  • Would working toward these goals still allow me to honor my personal values, principles and ethics at the same capacity if not greater?
  • Do the activities I need to undertake to meet these goals honor my highest priorities?
  • Does this feel right for me and those who are nearest and dearest to me?
  • Is this aligned with my passion?
  • Is chasing this goal a right step for me to take now or is this a detour or distraction which could delay my greater plan?

Each of your career goals should have different review periods. Whatever you do, stick to the review schedule you set. It will not only keep you focused but help you see your progress (or lack thereof) and allow you to timely re-chart your course before you get too far down the track. You don’t want to waste time haphazardly heading in the wrong direction.

7. Be Prepared to Let Go

It can be unfathomable to us as to why others risk leaping into the unknown when everything truly appears fine and dandy in the career realm. The company provided stability, recognition, financial success, interesting projects and the promise of a promotion…what was wrong? Why now jump sideways to run a café or train in another field altogether?

Nothing may have been wrong at all. It was all going right. It was just the end of a chapter. Perhaps the yearning for the next step is actually taking a different trajectory entirely. You may want to simply experience a different rhythm. Perhaps it’s time to pursue a different passion.

If you have leaped from employee-land to freelancing or have made the reverse-jump (or you know someone who has), you will have quickly grown a different appreciation for pros and cons each work lifestyle brings. Working for yourself can bring the greater realization of your creativity, whether or not it can be monetized to earn you a living.

When your customers are buying you or a product you designed and fashioned, there is a direct level of appreciation and gratitude that can elevate your confidence in the way you have never experienced as an employee, regardless of your rank.

Similarly, there are times where we need to recognize our business ventures were adventures, not long-term life-changing empires. There are times we need to recognize that time is what provides the clearest limitation of how long we persist for in such pursuits.

We have to recognize the absence of enough financial, mental, emotional and physical breadcrumbs that tells us we’re no longer meant to push in that direction. At least, not for the present time.

The Bottom Line

Above all, keep the momentum. As long as you remain committed to pursuing work opportunities that allow you to honor your highest priorities, the truth of who you are and what you stand for, achieving ultimate job satisfaction and a successful career will never be too far away.

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