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13 Childhood Struggles Only Those In Their 20s Or 30s Would Understand

13 Childhood Struggles Only Those In Their 20s Or 30s Would Understand

It was never easy growing up. Kids these days have it so easy. They can have 10,000 songs in a singular device and do some Netflix bingeing. We didn’t have all that during our days. We had to work so hard for everything we wanted. And here are some of those things we really sweated for

1. You had to have that extra change well kept

Those extra coins mattered. It was hard to throw them away. Because most times when you took that long walk to the payphone you needed some of it to make that call. Or when you got on the bus, you needed some of it too.

2. You had to wait for weeks to get those pictures developed

We had to practically wait for almost anything. Nothing was fast enough and getting your film developed into a picture could take ages that is if 99% wasn’t already blurred.

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3. You had to sit and wait for your favorite TV shows

You remember Fresh Prince of Bel Air, if you were not before the TV when the show started, you simply were going to miss out, and go out in search of someone with a great narrative skill.

4. You had to wait ages to download one song

It was always a test of faith and patience to get the song you loved into your computer. You could wait so long for it you slept dreaming about the tunes of the song in the process.

5. You spent hours in the library getting your assignments done

Going through the shelves and looking through so many books was really a bore. But well that was the only way to get your research paper done. If we couldn’t tolerate the library’s smell, we simply would rent the library’s encyclopedia to get our homework done.

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6. You needed a road map or an atlas to travel

Getting lost wasn’t so much of a big deal since we were practically explorers and always had a physical road map to keep us busy almost throughout our travels.

7. You had someone else to take your photos the perfect way

No selfies. You needed a stranger to get you that perfect shot and make you look so good, when you could have simply edited all that stress in the first place.

8. You had to work hard not to have your cassette tapes twisted

It was a painstaking exercise. When we were rewinding and forwarding was a pain also. It needed careful attention to make sure our tapes were safe.

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9. You had to wait for days to rent the movies you loved

When we went to rent our favorite movies, there were never enough copies in the store. And we had to either pick some other movies or just be more patient.

10. You had phone boxes though

At least there was a decent place where we could capture great head-shots and fascinate about the experience of doing such.

11. You had to wait by the radio to tape our favorite song

Well this was no big deal. If you loved a song so much, just wait or call the radio station to play it for you. Recording your favorite song came with a huge feeling of accomplishment that is if the DJ didn’t spoil it for you with his/her signature sound.

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12. You had to schedule everything before we went out

Whether you were going out or waiting, you simply had to stick with the schedule. There were no mobile phones so it was so impossible to make do with a plan B.

13. Loving someone meant writing it out

We sent a lot of love letters back in the days. That was the best way to make a woman feel good about you. That was why I had to make sure my handwriting was pretty sexy.

Still miss those days and the struggle. Duuuuuhhhhh!!!!

Featured photo credit: http://www.flickr.com via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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