“I used to take my short stories to girls’ homes and read them to them. Can you imagine the reaction reading a short story to a girl instead of pawing her?”
This quote perfectly explains me.
The first time I dated a girl who was a profound reader, something happened, and it was beautiful. I realized there were girls who finally understood me and I understood them.
As someone who reads an average of seventy books a year, it was crucial for me to find someone who loved books just as much. I came to the point in my life where if I didn’t have a girl who validated my reading habits, all my friends would think I’m crazy.
They couldn’t comprehend that I would skip parties to spend countless nights with a glass of wine and a great book. The good news: I eventually found and won girls over who loved to read just as much me. Moreover, my friends became jealous and began reading more.Advertising
If you’re thinking about dating a girl who reads, understand they’re not even close to the ordinary girls you flirt with.
So you know what you’re in for, these are 19 things only people dating a girl who reads would know:
1. She rather read than watch a movie
When you’re reading, you invent the story through imagination, creativity, and emotion. A book gives girls an exciting channel to slip into a realm of breathtaking thoughts that are not even comparable to watching a movie.
2. She’s probably a writer
She’s developed an appreciation for the way words form together to present a fantastic story. So, she’s decided to take this admiration a step further and start writing.
3. She’s a great editor
If you’re writing a paper or preparing a script for a presentation, she’ll look it over eagerly. Nothing gives her more pleasure than correcting her boyfriend’s grammar mistakes and making sure he uses her edited version.
4. She texts in lengthy paragraphs
She will send you lengthy, well-edited texts that make you feel like you’re reading a short book. She’ll also notice every single grammar mistake in your texts and won’t forget them easily.Advertising
5. She expects to live out her life like her favorite stories
If she reads adventurous stories, then she’ll likely love to travel and do spontaneous things. However, if she enjoys reading books like 50 Shades of Grey, then you’re in for a crazy experience – trust me.
6. She’s empathetic
Reading books has given her numerous perspectives on life. Correspondingly, she can relate to people of various backgrounds. And if you’re ever struggling, she’ll always know the right words to say.
7. She’s incredibly smart
Each book she reads gives her some facts she can count on to bring up when you’re conversing a relevant subject. Be careful not to belittle anything she says, she’ll make you pay by proving she knows exactly what she’s saying.
8. You can’t control her schedule
If she finds herself in the middle of an incredible chapter, don’t expect to expect her to stop reading to eat dinner with you. Moreover, don’t even expect her to answer your texts or phone calls.
9. She makes for an excellent travel partner
Traveling with someone who doesn’t know how to keep busy is a nightmare since there can be numerous periods of idleness from plane rides to extended hotel stays. A girl who reads will always open a book if she finds time on her hands.
10. She has high standards
She expects her life to be book worthy and to fall in love with someone of equal or greater intelligence. If you can’t provide both, you’re not going to last.Advertising
11. Knowing her Amazon WishList is the secret to her heart
In our world of easy shipping and E-Commerce, most book lovers rather make their purchases off Amazon than go to a bookstore. If you can sneak onto her Amazon WishList to see the books she’s interested in ordering, you can pay a little extra for shipping and surprise her the following day.
12. She’s extremely creative
A girl who lets her imagination run wild with an author’s guidance is someone who’s incredibly creative from design to suggesting adventures.
13. She doesn’t expect you to be perfect
No story has perfect characters. They all have flaws and have to overcome them to achieve their goals. Consequently, she doesn’t expect you to be perfect, but she does assume you’ll achieve your dreams, too.
14. She gets bored quickly
Whenever she’s working on a task, she’ll wonder whether it’s better than reading. If it’s not, she’ll be bored. Make sure your entertainment skills are well above par.
15. She wants to change the world
A common theme among stories is the hero must overcome an obstacle to change the world. If she reads enough of these stories, she’ll believe she can, and maybe she will. I suggest encouraging her ambitions because only people who think they can change the world actually do.
16. She’s highly independent
Countless stories revolve around an independent protagonist who achieves greatness or survives a situation against all odds. If she reads these stories, then she’s likely to live life with a paralleling independence.Advertising
17. She gets upset when people don’t know her favorite book
Some readers have one book they hold far and above others. They think everyone should have read it, and if you haven’t, then you’re considered to have not been enlightened. If you can read this book before your first date with her, you’re guaranteed a second.
18. She’s probably a wine drinker
Girls love drinking wine while reading. You won’t understand why until you become a high-level reader, too.
19. She wouldn’t be dating you if you didn’t read
However, for those who she is dating and don’t read, I would start now before it’s too late because her books are starting to put you second.
And remember, girls who read, make the greatest friends and the best girlfriends.
Last Updated on September 17, 2019
10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts
Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.
But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.
Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:
1. Spend Time with Positive People
If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.
Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.
2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior
When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.
Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.
3. Contribute to the Community
One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.
Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.
4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials
Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.
Some recommendations for you:
- 30 Of The Most Inspirational Quotes Of All Time
- You Are What You Listen To: 11 Podcasts To Inspire Yourself
- 10 Best Inspirational Books That Can Change Your Life
- 30 Inspirational Songs that Keep You Motivated for Life
5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts
You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.
If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”
There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.
6. Establish and Work Toward Goals
It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.
Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.
7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity
Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.
Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.
8. Offer Compliments to Others
Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.
9. Create a Daily Gratitude List
If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.
Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.
10. Practice Self-Care
Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.
Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.
Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.
More About Staying Positive
- How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up
- 10 Negative Thoughts We All Have And What We Should Think Instead
- 10 Scientifically Proven Ways To Stay Happy All The Time
Featured photo credit: DESIGNECOLOGIST via unsplash.com