“I used to take my short stories to girls’ homes and read them to them. Can you imagine the reaction reading a short story to a girl instead of pawing her?”
This quote perfectly explains me.
The first time I dated a girl who was a profound reader, something happened, and it was beautiful. I realized there were girls who finally understood me and I understood them.
As someone who reads an average of seventy books a year, it was crucial for me to find someone who loved books just as much. I came to the point in my life where if I didn’t have a girl who validated my reading habits, all my friends would think I’m crazy.
They couldn’t comprehend that I would skip parties to spend countless nights with a glass of wine and a great book. The good news: I eventually found and won girls over who loved to read just as much me. Moreover, my friends became jealous and began reading more.Advertising
If you’re thinking about dating a girl who reads, understand they’re not even close to the ordinary girls you flirt with.
So you know what you’re in for, these are 19 things only people dating a girl who reads would know:
1. She rather read than watch a movie
When you’re reading, you invent the story through imagination, creativity, and emotion. A book gives girls an exciting channel to slip into a realm of breathtaking thoughts that are not even comparable to watching a movie.
2. She’s probably a writer
She’s developed an appreciation for the way words form together to present a fantastic story. So, she’s decided to take this admiration a step further and start writing.
3. She’s a great editor
If you’re writing a paper or preparing a script for a presentation, she’ll look it over eagerly. Nothing gives her more pleasure than correcting her boyfriend’s grammar mistakes and making sure he uses her edited version.
4. She texts in lengthy paragraphs
She will send you lengthy, well-edited texts that make you feel like you’re reading a short book. She’ll also notice every single grammar mistake in your texts and won’t forget them easily.Advertising
5. She expects to live out her life like her favorite stories
If she reads adventurous stories, then she’ll likely love to travel and do spontaneous things. However, if she enjoys reading books like 50 Shades of Grey, then you’re in for a crazy experience – trust me.
6. She’s empathetic
Reading books has given her numerous perspectives on life. Correspondingly, she can relate to people of various backgrounds. And if you’re ever struggling, she’ll always know the right words to say.
7. She’s incredibly smart
Each book she reads gives her some facts she can count on to bring up when you’re conversing a relevant subject. Be careful not to belittle anything she says, she’ll make you pay by proving she knows exactly what she’s saying.
8. You can’t control her schedule
If she finds herself in the middle of an incredible chapter, don’t expect to expect her to stop reading to eat dinner with you. Moreover, don’t even expect her to answer your texts or phone calls.
9. She makes for an excellent travel partner
Traveling with someone who doesn’t know how to keep busy is a nightmare since there can be numerous periods of idleness from plane rides to extended hotel stays. A girl who reads will always open a book if she finds time on her hands.
10. She has high standards
She expects her life to be book worthy and to fall in love with someone of equal or greater intelligence. If you can’t provide both, you’re not going to last.Advertising
11. Knowing her Amazon WishList is the secret to her heart
In our world of easy shipping and E-Commerce, most book lovers rather make their purchases off Amazon than go to a bookstore. If you can sneak onto her Amazon WishList to see the books she’s interested in ordering, you can pay a little extra for shipping and surprise her the following day.
12. She’s extremely creative
A girl who lets her imagination run wild with an author’s guidance is someone who’s incredibly creative from design to suggesting adventures.
13. She doesn’t expect you to be perfect
No story has perfect characters. They all have flaws and have to overcome them to achieve their goals. Consequently, she doesn’t expect you to be perfect, but she does assume you’ll achieve your dreams, too.
14. She gets bored quickly
Whenever she’s working on a task, she’ll wonder whether it’s better than reading. If it’s not, she’ll be bored. Make sure your entertainment skills are well above par.
15. She wants to change the world
A common theme among stories is the hero must overcome an obstacle to change the world. If she reads enough of these stories, she’ll believe she can, and maybe she will. I suggest encouraging her ambitions because only people who think they can change the world actually do.
16. She’s highly independent
Countless stories revolve around an independent protagonist who achieves greatness or survives a situation against all odds. If she reads these stories, then she’s likely to live life with a paralleling independence.Advertising
17. She gets upset when people don’t know her favorite book
Some readers have one book they hold far and above others. They think everyone should have read it, and if you haven’t, then you’re considered to have not been enlightened. If you can read this book before your first date with her, you’re guaranteed a second.
18. She’s probably a wine drinker
Girls love drinking wine while reading. You won’t understand why until you become a high-level reader, too.
19. She wouldn’t be dating you if you didn’t read
However, for those who she is dating and don’t read, I would start now before it’s too late because her books are starting to put you second.
And remember, girls who read, make the greatest friends and the best girlfriends.
Last Updated on November 15, 2018
Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset
What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.
As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.
The Success Mindset
Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.
The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”
The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset
The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.
How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.
How To Create a Success Mindset
People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.
1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset
How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.
A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”
There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.
2. Look For The Successes
It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.
3. Eliminate Negativity
You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’
When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.
4. Create a Vision
Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.
If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.
An Inspirational Story…
For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.
What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!