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40 Small Things Couples Find Great Happiness In

40 Small Things Couples Find Great Happiness In

What makes you happy in a relationship? While large gestures can be sweet and romantic, many couples find true happiness in the little, day-to-day things that their partner does. Happiness is simple, and it is easy to make your partner feel happy and loved.

These little gestures can cheer you up and make you feel loved and appreciated, and can even change a bad day into a great day.

Often these gestures are free and take only a few minutes – check out 40 small things that couples often find great joy in.

1. Dancing around the house together when you’re both in a great mood.

2. Your partner covering you in a blanket if you fall asleep on the sofa because they don’t want you to get cold.

3. Having someone who will sing loudly around the house with you when you’re in a good mood.

4. Waking up during the night and rolling over to hug your partner.

5. Watching your favorite TV shows with each other and sharing some snacks.

6. Enjoying a goodbye kiss before you leave for work.

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7. Leaving notes with each other’s lunch, saying how much you love each other.

8. Cooking your favorite meals together, and playing around in the kitchen together.

9. Bringing your partner a hot drink when they are too busy to make one themselves.

10. Receiving an unexpected hug from your partner.

11. Holding each other’s hands whenever you go out together.

12. Falling asleep in each other’s arms on the sofa during a film after a long day.

13. Taking silly pictures with each other, which you will later cherish.

14. Having someone to carry you to bed if you accidentally fall asleep.

15. Surprising your partner by cooking their favorite meal for them.

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16. Hanging out together in a relaxed, comfortable silence.

17. Buying each other little treats, like ice cream, chips or sweets.

18. Taking long naps together during time off from work.

19. Their smile making you feel genuinely happy.

20. Having someone to hold you close when you are feeling down.

21. Going to the store late at night together to buy tasty snacks for late night cravings.

22. Long, meaningful hugs when one of you is feeling down.

23. Surprising each other by treating each other to occasional breakfast in bed.

24. Staying up laughing all night when you should really be sleeping.

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25. Doing the weekly food shop together, while joking your way around the supermarket.

26. Unexpected kisses that take your breath away and put a smile on your face.

27. Receiving a phone call or text from them when you are not together, saying they are thinking of you.

28. Waking your partner up to give them a hug before you leave for work.

29. Visiting beautiful places together, like local parks and museums.

30. Doing jobs together to make them easier, like moving in or putting up Christmas decorations.

31. Listening to your favorite bands together and introducing each other to new music.

32. Sneaking a glance at your partner and admiring them.

33. Hanging out together doing separate things, but enjoying each other’s company.

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34. Enjoying a beautiful sunset together.

35. Giving your partner your coat or scarf when they look a little chilly.

36. Play fighting with each other in bed. You don’t care about winning – just playing with each other puts big smiles on your faces.

37. Doing silly things together that you would do with no one else, like building a pillow fort or drawing on each other’s faces.

38. Doing the jobs your partner hates for them, like loading the dishwasher or tidying the bedroom.

39. Running your partner a bath after they have had a long, hard day.

40. Waking you up in the mornings with a hot drink and a smile on their face.

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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