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9 Lessons from Movies that Will Change your Life

9 Lessons from Movies that Will Change your Life

For many of us, modern cinema and life in general are quite heavily connected. Whilst it’s delusional to think that life works just like the movies, there are plenty of little lessons that you can take from the world of cinema into your own life. If you aren’t sure what we mean by this, we have compiled a list of events from movies that will effectively change your life once you see them and understand them. Here are just nine of the finest lessons from movies that will change your life, giving you a whole new grasp on the future;

1. Bruce Almighty

The first one our list is the popular Jim Carrey movie whereby he believes that God is punishing him with a raft of bad luck. He complains about God and, in typical movie style, ends up becoming God for the day to try and deal with all the problems. It’s a nice little lesson to remember from a movie, albeit a rather silly one.  How would you deal with things if you were God? And do you REALLY think that some entity in the sky is firing down bad luck rays at you? Life’s tough, but not personal.

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2. Me Again

This gets a shot on the list as it always shows you that the mantra of “you don’t know what you‘ve got ‘til it’s gone” comes into play. We always want something different to what we have, and this will give you an idea to see just how this can actually work out – you might just realize that life really isn’t all that bad for you at the moment.

3. Peaceful Warrior

Many of us believe that thinking with the heart over the head is a silly endeavor and will usually just lead to silly mistakes and regrets. This movie, though, totally changes that narrative into showing you what will happen when we just go for what we want and don’t look at the spreadsheet equivalent decision.

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4. The Family Man

Another good movie for learning a lesson from is The Family Man. It shows you a world whereby a rich investment banker gets to see the alternate reality, where he chose his girlfriend over the big career. It’s a nice way to show us just how different our lives can potentially be. Just take the time that you need to watch this film and understand the message – it might help you make the same decision one day.

5. Yes Man

Yes Man is hugely popular, too. This shows you what happens when you just decide to go the other way and say yes to everything. We usually deny anything we didn’t actively set out to get, so it’s nice to see what can happen if you change the rhetoric and see how life would treat you if you just simply followed the positive feeling of just saying yes!

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6. Rise of the Guardians

A film all about overcoming fear through faith, this can show us that being able to believe in your own decisions and the path you are on is more powerful than any other suggestion or realistic appraisal that you can turn to. If you’re losing faith in your own ability to change things up and make your life better, you need to watch this absolutely outstanding movie.

7. August Rush

Another hugely popular movie is August Rush because it reminds us that there are many things on this planet we can connect with that haven’t been invented in the last 20 years. It’s a great way to remind ourselves of the world that lies out there, just waiting for us to appear.

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8. The Ultimate Gift

This movie will give you a real appreciation for what it’s like to just have a dream, and have the ability to push those boundaries a little bit further back. It’s the perfect way to teach you about character and what it stands for.

9. Fireproof

Fireproof teaches us to be able to always keep learning and to never stop looking for new things in our lives that can empower us, make us better people. It’s a great way to realize that the person you are with, for example, is better than you think.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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