There is no clear formula for finding your passion. Some people seem to know it from the time they are born. Others seem to search for it until they die.
One thing is clear: we all would love to spend our days doing what we love. But if you don’t quite know what direction you should head, what do you do?
In many cases, the reason you haven’t found your true calling yet is because you’re focusing on the wrong things. With that in mind, here are 7 reasons that you haven’t found your passion yet — and what to do about it.
1. All you think about is finding your passion.
Once you start looking for what you were meant to do, it’s easy to get caught up in the search. Unfortunately, continually asking yourself “What am I passionate about?” usually has very little benefit.
You can’t find your passion by searching the depths of your mind. Passions come from actions and experiences — not idle contemplation.
2. You’re searching for feeling before experience.
Passions evolve out of experiences. If you’re looking to feel passionate about something before doing it, then you’re going to be looking for a long time.
Would you expect yourself to fall in love with an artist before ever hearing their music? Of course not. How can you be passionate about woodcarving if you’ve never done it? Or at the very least seen someone do it.
The feeling of passion will come after you’ve had an experience, not before.
3. You’re staying the course.
There is nothing wrong with pursuing a long-term goal or walking the same path for awhile. But don’t let your ultimate goal blind you from the opportunities that arise along the way. Some of the most compelling options might start out as side jobs, hobbies, or a random meeting.
Instead of becoming obsessively focused on one area, take advantage of the new opportunities that arise from time to time.
4. You’re looking for direction and clarity.
We often think that if we find our passion, then we will have clarity and know what to do with our lives.
If only it were that simple. Life is a series of confusing situations and you’ll never have all of the answers. Regardless of the situation, we have to make the best choice at the time and continue to move forward.
Finding your passion isn’t about know the right direction from the outset. It’s about choosing a direction, paying attention to what interests you along the way, and pursuing those interesting areas further.
5. You’re not creating something.
A common difference between those who are living their passion and those who are still searching for it, is that the former group has created something. Maybe that’s art for someone else. Maybe that’s a job for themselves. Maybe that a program for the community. Maybe that’s an opportunity for their career.
The act of creating is important because it allows us to discover things about ourselves.
It is only through the act of pushing ourselves and creating something new that we discover what is important to us, what we’re good at, and what we are willing to sacrifice for.
No, it’s not easy to create something, but it is important to do so.
6. You’re looking to live your life all at once instead of moment-by-moment.
Searching for our passion is part of a larger goal — we want to know what to do with our lives. We want to know how to spend our time on this planet.
The problem, of course, is that examining our lives from such a high level often prevents us from focusing on this moment.
Discovering your passion happens in a series of small steps. You first hear about it in a book or from a friend. Then you go to a class or an event. Then you try it out yourself. Then you try it again. Then it becomes a hobby. Then you’re telling your friends about it. And before you know it, you’ve found your calling in life.
But it didn’t happen overnight.
Instead of worrying about what you’re going to do with the rest of your life, spend some time thinking about what you should do with the rest of today. How can you do something enjoyable in this moment?
String enough enjoyable moments together and you’re bound to be passionate about one of them.
7. You haven’t dedicated yourself to a goal.
We all have interests, but we usually keep them as passing interests that we come back to from time to time. Rarely do we take an interest and decide to pursue a specific goal related to it.
Reaching for a goal is important because it starts a process that brings about opportunities that we cannot predict. If you endeavor to reach a meaningful goal, then there will undoubtedly be opportunities that arise along the way that you would never have imagined when you started.
Whether or not you reach your original goal isn’t nearly as important as the journey it takes you on and the opportunities that journey offers.
Pursue your interests with purpose and you’ll find that your passion has a funny way of showing up.
For more on how experiences can reveal your passion, read this article on finding your passion.







I like this. It’s as if instead of taking a step back to examine what our passion is, we should take a step forward into something that is already a passion. Good advice and I’m going to take it from here, right now! Today!
Exactly. Good luck and go get ‘em!
Add to the list: you have been stuck trying to do something that makes you feel trapped, but you need to start working because you are unemployed (and keep becoming unemployed), and all the skills you have are in the arena that makes you feel trapped.
Like a hamster on its wheel.
Sadly, a lot of people know what their passion is, but they have a million reasons why they aren’t doing it. Too busy, too risky, fear of failure, fear of criticism, blah blah blah.
James makes some great points about finding your passion,and once you’ve found it, live it instead of making excuses why you can’t!
David Kaiser
Time Management Coach to Creative Leaders
http://www.DarkMatterConsulting.com
Yep. If something is important to you, you’ll find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.
Moment by moment… that’s awesome! Passions are developed as they stew within the soul. Thanks for that great reminder!
You’re welcome!
I think people often mislabel things. They mislabel love, get married then divorced. They mislabel Christianity then get stuck in a less than Christian rut. They mislabel their passionate desire and then don’t act on it as it it a passionate desire and wonder what’s wrong.
Great post.
Thanks Jonathan. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
Fortunately, I’ve found my passions long ago but at times, I actually didn’t know how I did it. Your #5 point about creating something certainly hits the spot as I can relate to this one a lot. The various things I did or create (and not for money), were real clues to what my passions were. They are the things I’m going to choose to do for enjoyment anyway regardless of age or how much money I have at the moment and other factors. Those are the real passions.
Great points, Clint. And obviously, I agree — creating is one of the best ways to find out what is important to us.
Totally agree! Over planning can really be a bad thing. Sometimes, it is a good idea to be more child-like, live in the moment, and do what we enjoy. That we, we are more open to opportunities when they show up!
True … and there are probably many areas where adults would benefit from being more child-like.
Hey James, great post!
I especially like the first two. The best way to find your passion is by doing as many things as you reasonably can. Cast your net far and wide in the experiential seas of life and there will be more in the net to choose from. No passion ever developed for a thing that was never tried.
When we were young parents, we knew we couldn’t afford to provide our daughter with all the newest and latest gadgets and fashion AND lots of great experiences. So we opted for the latter. She played all kinds of sports, took drama, dance, travelled to China and Europe and Australia with an expensive but wonderful program as student ambassadors, had horseback riding lessons, guitar, voice and piano lessons, etc. In the end, she found her passion with the piano. She has a performance scholarship to one of the leading universities in the U.S. This couldn’t have happened without the introduction to the instrument in the first place and the hours it took developing the talent. Her passion wasn’t found in the first few hours of the first few weeks of that introduction either. It took time to get good enough to start feeling the love she has for it now.
Thanks again for a solid post. Great stuff!
Hey James, great post!
I especially like the first two. The best way to find your passion is by doing as many things as you reasonably can. Cast your net far and wide in the experiential seas of life and there will be more in the net to choose from. No passion ever developed for a thing that was never tried.
When we were young parents, we knew we couldn’t afford to provide our daughter with all the newest and latest gadgets and fashion AND lots of great experiences. So we opted for the latter. She played all kinds of sports, took drama, dance, travelled to China and Europe and Australia with an expensive but wonderful program as student ambassadors, had horseback riding lessons, guitar, voice and piano lessons, etc. In the end, she found her passion with the piano. She has a performance scholarship to one of the leading universities in the U.S. This couldn’t have happened without the introduction to the instrument in the first place and the hours it took developing the talent. Her passion wasn’t found in the first few hours of the first few weeks of that introduction either. It took time to get good enough to start feeling the love she has for it now.
Thanks again for a solid post. Great stuff!
That’s awesome, Ken. Congratulations and it’s so nice to hear a great real world example like that.
this is so true. i’m happy to have read it. think i’ll make my decision now. thank you so much.
Thank you Tiz. I’m really glad you found it useful.
Fear is always at play. You have learn that it is ok (and sometimes even good) to fail, and then get back up again. Fear, whether overt or subconscious, is usually the root of a person’s emotional, intellectual and professional paralysis.
Great post!
I’ve been looking for my passion for a long time, recently I’ve found it. It’s like finding love in your life – never felt better :).
And which is your passion?
Could someone explain point 5. (You’re not creating something)?
What does that include? Is it just about creating art, inventing products, what?
Obviously some people aren’t interested in doing those two things… what else could it mean?
Thanks