7 Ways to Make Life Changing Decisions

Most people don’t know the profound effects of making decisions. Often times, we go through life oblivious to what thoughts we are thinking and what actions we are taking. Every single decision we make in our days shapes our current reality. It shapes who we are as a person because we habitually follow through with the decisions we make without even realizing it.

If you’re unhappy with the results in your life right now, making the effort to changing your decisions starting today will be the key to creating the person you want to be and the life you want to have in the future. Let’s talk about a few ways you can go about making life changing decisions.

1. Realize the power of decision making.

Before you start making a decision, you have to understand what a decision does. Any decision that you make causes a chain of events to happen. When you decide to pick up a cigarette to smoke it, that decision might result in you picking up another one later on to get that same high feeling. After a day, you may have gone through a pack without knowing it. But if you decide not to smoke that first cigarette and make a decision every five minutes to focus your attention somewhere else when you get that craving, after doing this for a week, your cravings will eventually subside and you will become smoke-free. But it comes down to making that very first decision of deciding whether or not to pick up that cigarette.

2. Go with your gut.

Often times, we take too much time to make a decision because we’re afraid of what’s going to happen. As a result of this, we go through things like careful planning, deep analysis, and pros and cons before deciding. This is a very time consuming process. Instead, learn to trust your gut instinct. For the most part, your first instinct is usually the one that is correct or the one that you truly wanted to go with. Even if you end up making a mistake, going with your gut still makes you a more confident decision maker compared to someone who takes all day to decide.

3. Carry your decision out.

When you make a decision, act on it. Commit to making a real decision. What’s a real decision? It’s when you decide on something, and that decision is carried out through action. It’s pointless to make a decision and have it played out in your head, but not doing anything about it. That’s the same as not making a decision at all. If you want to make real changes in life, you have to make it a habit to apply action with your decision until it’s completed. By going through this so many times, you will feel more confident with accomplishing the next decision that you have in mind.

4. Tell others about your decisions.

There’s something about telling other people what we’re going to do that makes us follow through. For example, for the longest time I’ve been trying to become an early riser and whenever I tried to use my own will power, waking up early without falling back asleep felt impossible. So what I did was I went to a forum and made the decision to tell people that I would wake up at 6 AM and stay up. Within two days, I was able to accomplish doing this because I felt a moral obligation to follow through with my words even though I failed the first time. Did people care? Probably not, but just the fact that there might be someone else out there seeing if you’re telling the truth will give you enough motivation to following through with your decision.

5. Learn from your past decisions.

Even after I failed to follow through my decision the first time when I told people I was going to wake up early and stay up, I didn’t give up. I basically asked myself, “What can I do this time to make it work tomorrow? The truth is you are going to mess up at times when it comes to making decisions and instead of beating yourself up over it, learn something from it. Ask yourself, what was good about the decision I made? What was bad about it? What can I learn from it so I can make a better decision next time? Remember, don’t put so much emphasis focusing on short term effects; instead focus on the long term effects.

6. Maintain a flexible approach.

I know this might sound counter-intuitive, but making a decision doesn’t mean that you can’t be open to other options. For example, let’s say you made the decision to lose ten pounds by next month through cardio. If something comes up, you don’t have to just do cardio. You can be open to losing weight through different methods of dieting as long as it helps you reach your goal in the end. Don’t be stubborn to seek out only one way of making a decision. Embrace any new knowledge that brings you closer to accomplishing your initial decision.

7. Have fun making decisions.

Finally, enjoy the process. I know decision-making might not be the most fun thing world to do, but when you do it often, it becomes a game of opportunity. You’ll learn a lot about yourself on the way, you’ll feel and become a lot more confident when you’re with yourself and around others, and making decisions will just become a lot easier after you do it so often that you won’t even think about it.

Anything you decide to do from this point on can have a profound effect later on. Opportunities are always waiting for you. Examine the decisions that you currently have in the day. Are there any that can be changed to improve your life in some way? Are there any decisions that you can make today that can create a better tomorrow?

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  • http://www.igniteyouressence.com Justin Popovic

    Great to see Hulbert here as a guest blogger. I really enjoy his blog and was really happy to be a guest recently for an interview.

    These are 7 solid tips that all work when applied correctly. To add to the conversation, I will say that along with decision comes the "art of allowing". What I mean is that once a decision is made, you take whatever action necessary to carry out the decision but you are best served by letting go and allow whatever might happen…to happen.

    Personally, I have been very guilty of making a decision and then worrying about the outcome the entire time. The time to worry is BEFORE making the decision. Once the decision is made, enjoy the ride and let it be! In the end, progress is always made and there is always great learning experience.

  • http://www.thehappyseeker.com Christopher Foster

    Hmm. Making decisions. Not the most pleasant of tasks sometimes. But your thoughts and tips can only be helpful Hulbert, so thanks.
    You mention the importance of going with your gut primarily and I think this is key. But it is a skill that can take a bit of cultivating. Some trial and error is to be expected. One important tip here I find is looking at the situation as objectively as I can but then letting go, giving the matter over to a still place in myself and asking for an answer. I find an answer is always there. I think it comes from a larger context of wisdom.

  • http://www.examiner.com/x-36081-Ann-Arbor-Health-News-Examiner Tina

    Great advice! I see so many miserable people doing the blame game, "if I'm unhappy it must be someone else's fault." Sometimes I think we get trapped not in a particular location but in our own mind.

  • http://www.infoployment.com Diane Skullr

    Thank you, this was easy to understand and a fun read. I agree on having to be flexible. Parameters change and you have to me able to change with them. Focus on the result/goal.

  • http://www.FreedomOnlineTraining.com Katie Brandt

    I love the tip about telling others about your decision – It makes it more likely you will carry though with it. Accountabilty is either external (promises made to others) or internal (promises made to yourself). When you get external accountability it is easier to have internal accountabilty.

    Great post Hulbert – thanks! Katie

  • http://frombottomup.com/ Hulbert Lee

    @Justin Popovic Hey Justin, it's great to see you here too. I like your tip on the art of allowing. Sometimes we can't always meet our expectations of a decision in the way that we want to so I appreciated your advice here on making progress.

    @Tina Thank you. When a person feels miserable, they have the decision to focus on what they think, what they feel, and what they want to do, so blaming someone else is not really an excuse for their misery.

    @Diane Thanks Diane. Having a flexible approach is an important aspect of following through with our decisions. :)

  • http://enlightr.com Craig Thomas

    Nice post – being flexible and enjoying the process is a must in my opinion.

  • http://frombottomup.com/ Hulbert Lee

    Hey guys, sorry for the late response. My comment got deleted here about a week ago so I'll try again.

    @Justin Yes, I just interviewed you, again, today! I like what you say about the art of allowing. When we force a decision to happen, the result may never happen. When we take a step back and allow, sometimes things just come together for us. We should learn to enjoy the progress rather than over worry about the end result. Thank you.

    @Tina That's true Tina. Even when someone makes us unhappy in any way, we always have the decision to turn the situation around become happy. It's all in our mind like you say.

    @Haha, what you said is kind of contradictory to Justin, but I do think we do need to be flexible when it comes to making decisions. The more we are open to different possibilities, the more knowledge we can obtain to carry or decision out.

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    Completely agree that when you pick up a cigarette to smoke it, that decision might result in you picking up another one later on to get that same high feeling

  • Dnslopes_4

    So today is already tomorrow, and yesterdays decisions and actions is who iam today. WOW Simple but so true! Thnxs

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  • http://www.decision-making-solutions.com/ Keith TenBrook

    I guess I have a bit of a problem with number 2. Going with your gut is really relying on intuitive decision making. Useful intuition is based on experience. It seems that if you don’t have the relevant experience, going with your “gut” is like going with smoke.

    Making thoughtful decisions where you can learn helps build the experience that can make intuition effective. Sometimes you need to spend the time and do the work to get the experience.

  • Thoughtpaper

    “The thing is - it is very odd how we change our opinion on past decisions/events over a period of time… what seemed correct a few years back, changes to ‘obviously’ wrong as time passes by…..” Do read about it more in this link: http://bit.ly/nfvPlQ

  • Dokesh

    Amazing article and so true ! When I look back at my life, most key decisions I have made were after announcing to everyone, needless to say, they did not care, some even discouraged…but it worked for me..it’s so funny..whether people are negative or positive about your decision, it works always positively for you..

  • Mizb06

    HELP!!!!!!!   I think i should leave my husband. I feel stuck. Dnt have no place  2go, still love him, i think,, im jus hurting and dnt no wat 2do. He have done and said everything imaginable  and yet im still here. scared of change,  ummmm mayb, but i dnt wana b afraid nomore.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/GNZZYPYSQJSEM3IKYAQE2FAHP4 danny

    I am faced with choosing two career changing decisions . At first I was focused on the first option,but now after talking to friends who are provided same choices, I got really confused. I am the only one taking the first option! Making the first decision may be taking the easy route and I don’t want to do that. But I am not even sure which option is the easy route, their’s or mine??! I wish i never talked to friends but I also don’t want to regret my decision later especially without exploring the second option.