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8 Surprising Secrets To Developing A Killer Attitude

8 Surprising Secrets To Developing A Killer Attitude
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Having the right attitude at work is essential. Why? Because, we spend a large portion of our waking hours at work, and being happy at work is essential to a happy life overall. Develop a great attitude, and you’ll achieve your goals at work and enjoy true job satisfaction.

Here are 8 ways to change your attitude and to achieve just about anything you put your mind to.

1. Ask yourself each morning whether the way you plan to spend your day is how you would spend it if this was the last day of your life.

In his Stanford address, Steve Jobs shared some incredible insights with the Stanford graduates.

Steve explains how he looks in the mirror each morning, and ask himself this question:

“If this was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?”

And, if the answer is no for too many days in a row then he will seriously consider re-evaluating his goals.

By asking yourself this question, you too can bring your focus in line with goals that really matter to you. The rest of your daily routines will pale into insignificance. But the goals which make the center of you attention will be connected to your deepest values. Your attitude to these remaining goals will rival the attitudes of the great minds.

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2. Visit the Steve Jobs School of Attitude

In the same Stanford address, Steve jobs said:

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work.”

And great work he did! Not only did he bring his A-game to work every day, he inspired hundreds of people to achieve things with technology, that they never believed possible. Even after being fired as CEO, Jobs persisted, and eventually prevailed.

Rather than to spend much time brooding over the fact that he had been sacked as CEO of Apple, he used an incredibly positive attitude to build another company called NeXT. This eventually led to him resuming his role at the head of the Apple boardroom.

3. Get Rid of Your Attitude of Entitlement

Multimedia advertising has us brainwashed into believing that happiness comes from getting that latest smartphone, or that flashy car. Not only that, we can acquire these things with the click of a button! Things have never been so easily accessible, and this has created an attitude of entitlement.

Guess what? This attitude spills into the workplace. The end result? You stop growing. You stagnate. And evolution has taught us that a lack of growth equals death!

To really achieve true greatness you need to have pretty much the opposite attitude. You need to ask yourself what you can give to a situation, rather than look to see what you can get from it.

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Approach each situation looking to see what value you can add to it. You’ll be amazed with your success and blown away by the impact it has on your attitude.

4. Train Your Mind Not To Expect Immediate Gratification

The information age hasn’t come without strings attached. Want that latest album by Coldplay? Download it now! Want the latest book by Stephen King? Grab it on Kindle now! Want a new pair of Shoes? It’s just a few clicks away on eBay.

Technology has trained us to expect immediate gratification.

But here’s the rub: If you want to achieve anything of real significance, you need to be patient. It’s not something that happens overnight. You’ve got to work at it every day for a long period of time. That’s how you kick the big goals.

The key to greatness is being able to delay gratification. It’s about delaying immediate gratification, and putting in structured and sustained effort over time, which leads to achieving great things.

5. Don’t Give Yourself Too Much Time to Complete Tasks

That sounds counterintuitive, I know. But the truth is, the scope of a project often expands to accommodate the timeframe you allocate to it.

The reverse is also true. If you set yourself challenging timeframes you are more likely to approach the task with a sense of urgency. Once you’ve developed momentum you’ll be well on your way to astonishing success.

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And success can do wonders for your attitude. After all, success begets success.

You want to create a sense of urgency? Set yourself strict (but achievable) timeframes and do your best to meet them. You’ll work hard and play harder!

6. Get Really Clear On Your “Why”.

In this excellent TED Talk, Simon Sinek talks about the importance of understanding our why.

He uses Apple as an example of a company that really is in touch with its “why”. In his speech Simon explains how Apple (and any very successful person or organization) effectively communicates their “Why”. 

Apple challenges the status quo and thinks differently. This is Apple’s “Why”. The fact that Apple happens to achieve this by creating incredibly simple products that are easy to use is secondary.

People connect with Apple’s beliefs through their products. When people buy Apple products they’re not just buying those products, they are buying into Apple’s belief system.

Coming to terms with your “why” connects you with your core values. It puts you in touch with your deepest motivations. If you can make a clear connection between your deepest heartfelt values and the work you do every day, you will be unstoppable.

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7. Set S.M.A.R.T. Goals.

Smart is an acronym for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely. Having high-level goals is great. It sets the direction for the coming months and years of your life.

But that’s not enough. If you have goals that stretch into the distant future you’ll lack motivation to achieve them. Feedback needs to be far more frequent and far more immediate. Break your goals down to monthly, weekly, daily and hourly targets. You can do this in an Excel spreadsheet or a Word document.

8. Ask Yourself : Are There Any Underlying Assumptions Preventing Me From Having The Right Attitude?

Often we have underlying assumptions or notions that prevent us from giving it 100%.

For instance you might hold the idea that rich people are necessarily corrupt or unethical.  If success in your part usually means greater amounts of wealth, this might prevent you from being successful.

In these situations it is very useful to examine your notions and the underlying assumptions. Write down your assumptions. And then spend some time examining them. Question those assumptions that are stopping you from giving your work 100%.

Ultimately, it’s important to realize that Steve Jobs was still a human being. He achieved great things, but that had a lot to do with his incredible attitude.

If you want to achieve true greatness, apply these eight secrets. You’ll be amazed by the results.

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Published on July 27, 2021

15 Smart Video Conferencing Etiquette Tips to Follow

15 Smart Video Conferencing Etiquette Tips to Follow
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During the pandemic, video conferencing replaced in-person meetings and has now become the standard option for business meetings. Over the past 17 months, most workers have gotten past the video conferencing learning curve with Zoom or Microsoft Teams (or their platform of choice).

But just as with in-person meetings, attention can wax and wane. Some say we’re just not used to staring at ourselves so much on the screen. Instead of fixating on that, try employing smart video conferencing etiquette, or you may risk indiscretions that will flag you as a slacker.

Put the Pro in Professional

After more than a year of fine-tuning, here are the new rules of video conferencing etiquette.

1. Mute Your Mobile and Other Devices

The first video conference etiquette you need to know is muting your other devices. Just as in the pre-COVID days, someone’s obnoxious ring tone blaring Taylor Swift’s newest single in the middle of a meeting is also an annoyance if it happens during a Zoom meeting and so is the inevitable fumbling to turn off the sound. Even the apologies to the group get tiresome.

Also, when notifications are activated on the computer that you’re using for the meeting, the incoming message takes over the audio and you’ll miss out on snippets of the conversation. Be sure to eliminate this possible faux pas.

2. Dress the Part

While working from home, you may have fallen into the habit of slipping on your comfiest T-shirt each day. Hey, no judgments! But before you log on to your video conference, try to make an effort with your appearance.

Depending on your company culture and the importance of your meeting, consider dressing the part of the professional whom you wish to project. It will help you feel more self-assured, and others will likely take you more seriously.

For women, wear light make-up, put on earrings, and make sure your blouse is crisply pressed. For men, show up freshly shaved. Wearing a crisp collared shirt in a solid color will usually suffice.

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Pro Tip: Stay away from wearing white or black, unless those colors look great on you. Consider wearing light blue or brown instead.

3. Stage Your Workspace

Have you noticed the backdrops of experts interviewed on news shows? Bookshelves and photographs are carefully curated, and no busy-patterned furniture or artwork is in sight.

Take note of what appears behind you when you choose the location of your video conferences. Piles of junk mail on the table or stacks of folded laundry on the couch will convey more about your personal life than you care to share. Make sure you remove clutter from the camera’s eye, and present a tidy, orderly workspace to your colleagues, coworkers, and bosses.

4. Put Some Thought Into Lighting and Perspective

Be aware that in a video conference, your computer camera can actually make you look up to ten pounds heavier depending on where you sit. But you can easily drop those added pounds by moving back from the screen to diminish the wide-angle distortion.

Frame your head on the screen by tilting the screen up or down. Also, it’s best to not place yourself in front of a window or bright light, which makes you appear in shadow. Instead, face the light source, moving it (or yourself) until you have a flattering amount of illumination. You can also purchase some small spotlights that allow you to add light as needed.

Pro Tip: If your lights add too much redness to your skin, consider counter-balancing with a green filter.

Remember That Half of Life Is Showing Up

5. Arrive on Time

In the old days of in-person meetings, it was nearly impossible to slip in late into a meeting unnoticed. In today’s video conferences, logging in late still shows poor form. Instead, strive to arrive five minutes early and get yourself settled.

Once the meeting is underway, the host may be less attentive about late arrivals waiting to be let in. Diverting the host’s attention away from the meeting with a tardy entry request is the ultimate giveaway that you didn’t honor the schedule. If you don’t want a black mark against you, log in on time.

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6. Turn on Your Video

Few people like to see their face on the screen, but buck up and turn on your camera in video conferences. In most cases, it’s better to be a face on a screen than a name in a blank square. Your statements will be more memorable when other meeting attendees can see you.

If you need to turn off the video, either because of a poor connection, some commotion in the room, or a need for a quick break, give a short explanation via the chat feature. Then, go back on video as soon as you’re able.

Pro Tip: Keep your explanation for your departure pithy. “Sorry! Doorbell rang. Back in five” says it all. Be sure to honor what you say in chat and really do return in five minutes.

7. Plan Ahead Before Sharing Your Screen

Don’t be one of those people who makes everyone else wait as you click through folders in search of a document. That’s just poor video conferencing etiquette. If you know you’ll need to share a document or video on your screen, prepare by pulling it out of its folder and onto your desktop. Also, clean up the files and folders on your desktop to reduce clutter and facilitate easy access. Close other programs like chat, calendar notifications, and email. Disable pop-up notifications to ensure there’ll be no unforeseen distractions.

Be sure to remind the host before the meeting that you’ll need them to activate the screen-sharing function. Show courtesy once you’re finished by hitting “stop share” to return to the screen with participants.

Attend to the Pesky Details

8. Make Sure That Meetings Remain Right-Sized

With the easy accessibility of video conferencing, it can be tempting to extend the meeting invitation beyond the core group and include everyone peripherally involved in a project. But just as with in-person meetings, the more people involved, the more unwieldy the meeting becomes.

Use good judgment when asking others to sit through a video conference so that you don’t needlessly take up others’ time and so that participants can be fully engaged.

9. Remember to “Unmute” Before You Speak

Most of us are likely able to count on one hand the number of video conferences when someone didn’t have to be reminded, “You’re on mute!” Forgetting to unmute before speaking has become one of the most common missteps in video conferencing.[1]

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Show everyone your impeccable video-conferencing poise by managing your mute feature with flawless control.

10. Stay on Point to Keep the Meeting Length in Check

As with in-person meetings, an agenda with assigned time limits for discussions remains necessary to keep a meeting focused. Data shows, however, that video conferencing can actually reduce meeting time.[2] Reasons include the elimination of commuting time and the ability to screen share and annotate to keep everyone on task.

Additionally, side conversations are virtually impossible with video conferencing now that you can no longer have back-and-forth exchanges with the person beside you.

Pro Tip: If you’re running the meeting, let attendees know in advance the protocol for the chat feature. Is it okay for them to “chat among themselves” or not? (See point 11, as well.)

Talking Has a Time and a Place

11. Chat Appropriately

Just like side conversations or texting in an in-person meeting, the use of the chat feature during a video conference can be disrespectful unless it’s directed to all participants. Hence, it’s good video conferencing etiquette to mind your use of the chat.

At the start of the meeting, you may want to ask the host if it’s alright for participants to use the chat feature. This allows them to disable it if they choose. Used appropriately, it can be a helpful tool to clarify or amplify an earlier point once the conversation has moved on or to let the group know that you need to sign off early (and why).

12. Use the “Raise Hand” Feature to Avoid Interruptions

The slight lag in many video conferences can result in speaking over another person if you attempt to jump into a conversation. To avoid this awkward interruption, indicate when you have something to add to the discussion with the raise-your-hand feature that signals the host you would like to speak. This effective meeting management device makes video conferencing run more smoothly, especially with a large group, but it must be activated and monitored by the host.

Pro Tip: For meetings of six to ten people, sometimes the old-fashioned raising of your physical hand may be the best option. But it’s up to the meeting host. Ask them what they would prefer, and follow that.

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13. Don’t Record the Session or Take Photos Without Prior Permission

In this case, not sharing is caring. The “sharing culture” made popular through social media has little place in video conferencing. Before recording a meeting or capturing a screenshot of the participants, always ask for consent in advance from the full roster of attendees. Knowing that a video conference will be photographed or recorded could have a bearing on what others are willing to discuss.

Manage Yourself

14. Minimize Distractions

While de-activating audio and video features can keep distractions from affecting the other participants, you will need to manage noise and disruptions on your end to give your full attention to the meeting.

Move out of high-traffic zones in your home, keep your door closed, and ask family members to be considerate.

15. Save Snacking for Later

Save snacking for later—or earlier. Eating while on video conference is a no-no. Munching in front of the group while close to the camera—as you are when video conferencing—subjects the participants to an up-close and (too) personal view of your food consumption process.

However, it’s perfectly fine to sip quietly from a glass of water or cup of coffee or tea. If the meeting threatens to last for more than two hours, you may want to ask the host in advance to schedule a five-minute break at the halfway point.

Final Thoughts

Even though bosses are now beginning to ask workers to spend some of their workdays on-site, up to 80 percent will permit employees to work remotely at least part of the time, which means more video conferencing in your future.[3] Mastering these video conferencing etiquette tips will help you dial in—as well as dial back—your participation and demonstrate your unwavering level of engagement to the team.

Featured photo credit: Chris Montgomery via unsplash.com

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