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Why Focusing On Goals Is The Key to A Lasting Change

Why Focusing On Goals Is The Key to A Lasting Change

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible” Tony Robbins

I believe that life is given to us to challenge, to grow within, to step out of comfort zone and achieve the bravest dreams. To make your dream come true – make it as goal and act. Make a plan, clear steps for each day. And you will see how your life takes a new level, each day will count, you will take the best out of it and experience lasting changes.

Each goal is like a challenge, it is a chance to change within, to overcome the doubts, worries or other emotions, which don’t let you go closer to your goal. Which tells you – you can’t do it, it is impossible. It is a chance to learn something new in life and about yourself, it is an opportunity to grow.

1. Decision to pursue for the goal, helps to keep clear vision and thoughts.

If you really want to achieve something, there is no room for doubts, worries or other negative thoughts. You know what you want and go for it, with no looking right or left or back. Just straight ahead. Spending all your energy looking for solutions.

“I am always more interested in what I am about to do than what I have already done” Rachel Carson

2. To achieve your goals, you have to change your daily habits. It is a chance to discipline yourself.

You realize how many things you do in a day that take you back and away from your goal. You have to give up the things which take energy, time and opportunity to do something useful. No matter what it is — watching TV shows or go out for parties — you have a choice to do something which takes you closer to your goal or keep living as used to.

“The biggest distraction in life to one’s focus is often near locus standing people saying all hocus-pocus.”Anuj Somany

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3. The difference between dream and goal is action.

In action, you can learn something new about yourself. You open the world to you. You can receive new opportunities, experience and vision.

“A dream becomes a goal when action is taken toward its achievement.” Bo Bennett

4. By setting a goal, you take a responsibility.

You take your life in your hands and you know – everything depends on you. You stop looking at others with envy or other negative thoughts. You look only at your goal and yourself; there is no competition with others.

“If you take responsibility for yourself, you will develop a hunger to accomplish your dream.” Les Brown

5. By achieving your goals, you learn patience.

It takes time to achieve something, to see the results. No matter what it is – failure or victory. You can’t have it right away. You have to take off the pride, the rush and look at the situation realistic and do your best in it. At the end, journey itself gives you fulfillment and meaning, and the result is just a gift for your experience.

 “Don’t let fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”

Earl Nightingale

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6. When you turn your dream into a goal, you become more faithful.

When you have a dream, you wish and hope it will become true, when you have a goal, you have faith it is possible. It gives you strength. Even when you start doubting, the goal gives you strength to renew your faith and keep going. No matter how many failures you have experienced, you keep trying and believe that it is a part of the way to goal. You become humble, learn from the mistakes, take the lesson and go further with more understanding and faith.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” Martin Luther King. Jr.

7. Will power.

Focusing on your dream, you improve your will power. It gives strength not to give up. Learn from each failure, to stand up and keep going, not to look back, thinking what if…!

“To reach a port, we must sail – Sail, not tie at anchor – Sail, not drift.” Franklin Roosevelt

8. Become kind.

Not the result, but the journey counts. How you do it. You can reach your goals with aggression, in rush or you can take your time, live your life where you are, and step by step create what you want and change within. Often when you achieve something in a rush, you can lose it easily. Being kind to others and yourself makes the journey towards dream more meaningful. And it is nice to look back at your way to goal and realize, you have made this world a better place.

“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.” Albert Schweitzer

9. Gratitude.

When you have reached some of your goals on your own, you can learn to appreciate it. To be grateful for all the failures, mistakes, for all the people who have helped you to come where you want to be. You take your time, sit back and feel gratefulness.

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“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie

10. You receive and learn a joy of life.

By doing what you like, what you believe for. You share, you give and you create. Your true being blossoms and you feel alive.

“Things won are done, joy’s soul lies in the doing.” William Shakespear

11. You improve your creativity.

If you want to get out of obstacles. You have to learn to look at the situation from different perspective. When you are stuck in somewhere and you can’t get out of there, you do anything, become creative and see the unusual solutions.

“Creativity is not the finding of a thing, but the making something out of it after it is found.” James Russell Lowell

 

 I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan

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I would like to share with you the story about Lizzie Velasquez and Nick Vujicic. They have inspired me and made me think, what do I do with my life with everything what has given to me. They have achieved so much. The have touched other people lives by their story, believes, action and honest way of living. They have made the best out of what they have and the strong will and goal has lead them to the better live. Without looking around, taking personally other people judgment. The faith, will to live as they want with no doubt that there is something they can’t do, they have reached more than they have ever dreamed.

“If I fail, I try again, and again, and again. If YOU fail, are you going to try again? The human spirit can handle much worse than we realize. It matters HOW you are going to FINISH. Are you going to finish strong?”  Nick Vujicic

What is your goal for today, for next year? Where do you want to be in 10 years? Who you are and what you do with that each day?

Featured photo credit: A new dawn/Justin Kern via flickr.com

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Published on March 19, 2019

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success


Do you remember the last time you faced a major setback–when you felt so low, that nothing seemed to make you happy? No matter how hard you tried, you just felt like the world was against you. Perhaps it was a bad relationship, or the loss of a loved one… maybe something bad happened at work? Whatever it may be, could you recall how your attitude was towards that situation?

Often when we’re caught in an unhappy situation, we feel limited and sometimes trapped. We want to get out of it as quickly as we can, but it’s never quite that simple.

Unfortunately, some people can remain in that terrible situation for weeks, months or even years; while others may come out strong and ready to start over–or continue from where they left off–fairly quickly.

So what sets these two groups apart?

The answer is their attitude.

Attitude is everything when it comes to achieving a goal, and tackling a setback or problem. 

When you’re able to have a positive mindset, you’ll be able to break free of your limitations that are holding you back.

A positive attitude also goes a long way in ensuring you come out victorious from whatever limitations that were holding you back before. It transforms not just your mental state, but your physical and emotional well being. It is the key to lasting total transformation.

Positive Attitude Brings About Positive Health 

When you’re stuck in a rut, often the first thoughts that run through your head are negative, thus your outlook likely becomes pessimistic. But, if you can transform those thoughts into more positive ones, then you’re on your way to talking yourself out of that rut, which allows you to move forward.

Of course, positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring all the bad or unpleasant feelings altogether. It just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way–instead of taking everything as a victim to negative circumstances, you see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Be aware of self talk!

These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self talk comes from logic and reason, while other self talk may arise from misconceptions that you create. Others could come from external sources such as negative people around you, or messages from the media.

The key is to surround yourself with positive influences that can help turn those negative thoughts into positive, more productive actions.You’ll not only feel better about the situation, but in the long run, positive thinking can lower your levels of distress and depression and give you better coping skills during hardships.

Researchers studying the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health have also found that positive thinking may provide increased life span, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and even greater resistance to the common cold!

It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, but one theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

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Suffering is Inevitable, So It’s Best to Accept It 

Now, one thing that everyone goes through at some point, is suffering. It’s a harsh reality, yet you can’t actually avoid it. We experience suffering as the result of unhappiness, fear, anger, loss or frustration. In fact, it would be hard to even imagine the feeling of happiness if we never experienced suffering! How would we ever compare it?

So instead of wallowing in sorrow about the suffering you have endured, take the suffering as an opportunity for change. Did you get laid off from your job? Perhaps this would be a good time to re-assess your career goals.

Rather than feeling negative and stuck, use your time and energy to find opportunities which will put you ahead. With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

This may sound crazy, but suffering is the secret to being successful! 

Here’s what I mean. It’s impossible to think of new ideas or understand new experiences without stepping outside of your comfort zone. Anyone who has met great successes has also faced many failures, as nobody wins on every try.

To propel you toward success, find a way to track your progress and to set and celebrate small benchmarks. It may be helpful to conduct a weekly review to assess where you are and acknowledge all of the small wins of the week. Every accomplishment, no matter how small, is an achievement; so, be sure to take note of them.

Tracking your progress is also a great way to find and mitigate triggers and hindrances that impede your progress. The point is, you’re making progress; even if it feels like suffering, you can see that it’s leading you to joy.

Remember, don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Each step you make towards progress is making you a better version of you.

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Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Shaping Attitude 

Now, this may seem difficult to do when you’re already feeling down, but having gratitude is a very useful when you’re trying to navigate your way out of a setback. Being grateful for existing accomplishments and the supports in your life will help you see them more clearly, build your own confidence, and give you a better overall outlook on what your limitations really are and what you have to do to overcome them.

With a grateful attitude, you limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Being grateful, even during the toughest of times, steers your attitude towards a more positive one, allowing you to get back on your feet much more quickly. Many studies done on gratitude have shown positive results for people who practice regularly, such as improvement in relationships and in mental health. There’s even studies that show higher motivation in work settings due to a simple ‘thank you’ from managers to their subordinates.

Believe in Yourself and Your Truth

This is often easier said than done, but is also the most empowering truth to overcoming your setbacks and limitations in life.

Many people find it hard to keep a positive attitude during tough times because they lack inner confidence. They doubt their abilities because of the ‘failure’ that they’re experiencing, and don’t think that they can rise above again.

But, confidence doesn’t just come from talent, luck or easy opportunity. Confidence comes from overcoming difficulties and facing your fears head on. 

Confidence is a result of getting out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the more confident you’ll be, and the more positive your attitude will be. Confidence will help you see your goals more clearly, find your strengths within, reach your goals and overcome your limitations much more quickly.

Here’s a quick story about my own struggles helping me get ahead:

When I first started Lifehack, it took a long time to gain a solid readership. Just getting 100 visitors was a challenge and took a good bit of time. I had great ambitions for this site, yet it seemed like I was doomed to fail. I received plenty of criticism, too. Some people thought that the world didn’t need yet another self help site, others offered the opinion that there was something wrong with the idea itself and I was making a mistake.

It was hard for me not to listen to them and, at some times, agree. But, persistence is key, and in the end I chose to believe in my truth.

I worked tirelessly changing the site layout, restructuring articles, and making the site more user friendly. Slowly, I expanded to a team with the hiring of some extremely dynamic and talented people. With each determined effort, the site grew in popularity, and a few years later, we had influenced millions–and continue to do so.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone and facing every challenge head on were the greatest contributing factors to increasing my confidence. So welcome the challenges that come; don’t avoid them, as they’re all opportunities in disguise to feed your growth.

Your Attitude Sets the Tone for Success 

Do you see the importance of having a positive attitude? It is so much more than a mindset or state of mind. Your attitude sets the tone for every action and behavior that follows after, and that will determine how long it takes for you to break free from your current circumstance.

So if you’re currently in an unhappy situation, why not give it a try and look at things from a more positive outlook? As mentioned, not only does having a positive attitude bring about favorable outcomes, it also brings about positive health in the long run.

Embracing hardship as it is, and using it as a learning experience to grow, will also make you stronger. And, whether you’re going through good or bad times, practicing gratitude will no doubt help to limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Lastly, in any circumstance, you are your greatest barrier to success, which is why it’s important to always believe in yourself!

You will always have the power to be in control of your situation because your attitude is determined by you. So start harnessing all that positive thinking to turn those limitations into strengths!

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