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What To Do As You Get More Stressful When Chasing Your Dreams

What To Do As You Get More Stressful When Chasing Your Dreams

Chasing your dreams can be liberating, and so much fun — then there’s the downside. Things start to go wrong, and it’s not working out the way you planned. Heck, it’s not working out at all (or so it seems), and this is leading you to become more and more stressed out as the days and weeks pass. You might be asking yourself, “Will I ever get there?” Or, “Is it even worth it?” Fear not, because by reading the rest of this article, you’ll learn seven ways to cope with stress when chasing your dreams.

1. Coaching

Find a coach who can push you through these stressful times. You may not be able to see past any barriers, but your coach can and will challenge you to move forward when you’re stuck. Coaching makes you accountable for your actions; your coach will ask you question that matter, and that will make you see a different perspective. A coach be your guide to achieving those dreams.

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2. Reset yourself and get some sleep

Chasing your dreams often means burning the candle at both ends with late nights and early mornings, leading you to become stressed out and unproductive. It’s important that you take time to reset yourself with a good sleep routine, which will allow you to be successful while getting things done.

3. Talk about your feelings with those closest to you

If you have close friends or family members, meet with them and share your burdens. Make sure you talk to someone who is going to listen — you don’t want to feel worse after trying to share your feelings with someone who isn’t paying attention. Discussing your feelings with others can take a weight off your shoulders, and the other person may even give you some practical advice from a new perspective.

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4. Admit what you can’t handle

Are you doing too much and can’t handle it? Maybe you need to admit it. Try asking someone else to give you some help temporarily until you get back on track. I did this once — just delegated work to some of my family members. And they were happy to help! You may need to abandon some of what you are doing if you aren’t getting any positive results, and focus on what is working for you right now.

5. Step back and take a break to clear your head

Re-evaluate your values, passions, and goals. As we evolve and grow, everything changes. Take a detailed look at what has changed for you, and see if you need to take a new direction in chasing your dreams. To do this, why not take a holiday or just do nothing for a while to give yourself some head space? Go have some fun.

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6. Review current life circumstances

Have you recently relocated, and have to deal with that as well as focus on your work? Maybe you’re struggling with family issues or illness? Or have you lost the meaning of life all together? Heck, maybe all of ’em! These situations can most certainly get you worried and stressed out, but they are temporary. Deal with what you can by being in the moment, doing the most you can to make things better. Take things one step at a time.

The storm will pass.

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7. Remember WHY you started

What made you decide to chase your dreams in the first place? Was it money, fame, success or something more — something meaningful that matters to you and only you? What is your WHY? What will you do when you have the money or success? Your “why” will get you through this; your “why” has the power to keep you motivated. When you get stressed out chasing your dreams, always remember WHY you are on the journey, and that the journey comes with ups and downs. So when it all comes crashing down, remember why you started in the first place. Your dreams are worth it.

Now it’s your turn: Do you have any ideas to add that will help someone overcome stress and keep on track chasing their dreams? Share them in the comments below.

Featured photo credit: Allan Foster via flickr.com

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Do you like making mistakes?

I certainly don’t.

Making mistakes is inevitable. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could be at ease with them?

Perhaps there is a way to think of them differently and see their benefits.

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Why Mistakes Feel Dangerous

Mistakes often feel dangerous. Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons:

  • Our vulnerability. We have limited and fragile support systems. When those systems fail, people often lose their lives.
  • Real dangers. Nature can be dangerous, and making mistakes can put us at the mercy of nature and its animal residents seeking a meal.
  • Ignorance. Many cultures scapegoats someone whenever there is a failure of some kind. Scapegoating can be serious and deadly.
  • Order. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing orthodoxy and treat difference and non-conformity as a mistake. Even our brains flash an error message whenever we go against prevailing social norms.

We have a history of handling mistakes and failure in an unpleasant way. Since each of us carries our human history with us, it can be a challenge to overcome the fear of making mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.

Why We Can’t Avoid Making Mistakes

Many people operate under the notion that making mistakes is an aberration, a mistake if you will. You can call it perfectionism but it is a more substantial problem. It is really a demand for order and continuity.

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When we think we can eliminate mistakes, we are often working from a perspective that sees the world as a fixed place. The world, however, is not so obliging. Like it or not, the world, and everything in it, is constantly changing.

Change is more constant and pervasive than we can see with our own eyes which is why we often miss it. Our bodies are constantly changing. The natural conditions of the earth change constantly as well. Everything, including economic and cultural systems have life cycles. Everything is in a constant state of flux.

We cannot see all of the changes going on around us since rates of change vary. Unfortunately, when we try to create a feeling of certainty and solidity in our lives or operate from the illusion of stability and order, we are fighting reality and our natural evolution which is built on adapting to change.

It is better to continually bend into this reality rather than fight every change we experience. Fighting it can cause us to make more mistakes. Finding the benefits in change can be useful and help us minimize unnecessary mistakes.

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Lessons Learned from Making Mistakes

Life has so many uncertainties and variables that mistakes are inevitable. Fortunately, there are many things you can learn from making mistakes.

Here is a list of ways to harness the mistakes you make for your benefit.

  1. Point us to something we did not know.
  2. Reveal a nuance we missed.
  3. Deepen our knowledge.
  4. Tell us something about our skill levels.
  5. Help us see what matters and what does not.
  6. Inform us more about our values.
  7. Teach us more about others.
  8. Let us recognize changing circumstances.
  9. Show us when someone else has changed.
  10. Keep us connected to what works and what doesn’t work.
  11. Remind us of our humanity.
  12. Spur us to want to better work which helps us all.
  13. Promote compassion for ourselves and others.
  14. Teach us to value forgiveness.
  15. Help us to pace ourselves better.
  16. Invite us to better choices.
  17. Can teach us how to experiment.
  18. Can reveal a new insight.
  19. Can suggest new options we had not considered.
  20. Can serve as a warning.
  21. Show us hidden fault lines in our lives which can lead us to more productive arrangements.
  22. Point out structural problems in our lives.
  23. Prompt us to learn more about ourselves.
  24. Remind us how we are like others.
  25. Make us more humble.
  26. Help us rectify injustices in our lives.
  27. Show us where to create more balance in our lives.
  28. Tell us when the time to move on has occurred.
  29. Reveal where our passion is and where it is not.
  30. Expose our true feelings.
  31. Bring out problems in a relationship.
  32. Can be a red flag for our misjudgments.
  33. Point us in a more creative direction.
  34. Show us when we are not listening.
  35. Wake us up to our authentic selves.
  36. Can create distance with someone else.
  37. Slow us down when we need to.
  38. Can hasten change.
  39. Reveal our blind spots.
  40. Are the invisible made visible.

Reframe Reality to Handle Mistakes More Easily

The secret to handling mistakes is to:

  • Expect them as part of the process of growth and development.
  • Have an experimental mindset.
  • Think in evolutional rather than fixed terms.

When we accept change as the natural structure of the world, our vulnerability and humanness lets us work with the ebb and flow of life.

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When we recognize the inevitability of mistakes as part of the ongoing experiment which life is, then we can relax more. In doing so we may make fewer of them.

It also helps to keep in mind that trial and error is an organic natural way of living. It is how we have evolved over time. It is better to be with our natural evolution than to fight it and make life harder.

When we adopt an evolutional mindset and see ourselves as part of the ongoing human experiment, we can appreciate that all that has been built up over time which includes the many mistakes our ancestors have made over thousands of years. Each one of us today is a part of that human tradition of learning and experimenting,

Mistakes are part of the trial and error, experimental nature of life. The more you adopt the experimental, evolutional frame, the easier it becomes to handle mistakes.

Handling mistakes well can help you relax and enjoy all aspects of life more.

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