”Ask and you will receive. Seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7
We ask ourselves questions everyday. Our questions control our focus, how we think, and how we feel. Asking the right questions is one of the best ways to tackle a problem.
In fact, asking questions is one of the most valuable resources used in professional coaching. And it’s because questions have the power to liberate stress, and find solutions to the issues at hand.
Of all the available questions one could ask themselves, this article will reveal 5 questions that can help you tackle any problem, and prepare you to look for solutions whenever an issue arises.
What is great about this problem?
When a problem arises, in some way, it may serve a positive. Asking what is great about the problem will allow you to look for areas in where this problem might serve you. For example, ”This problem is great, because it allows me to grow as a person”.
What is not perfect yet?
Sometimes our problems may not be as big as we think they are. Our emotions tend to blow things out of proportion. Instead, ask what is not perfect yet. You may just find your slightly off from solving it.
Example, ” My communication skills aren’t good enough yet, but they will be”.
What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
When a problem arises, we have to willing to put in our best efforts to overcome it. What are you willing to do? This question grants an opportunity to list the things your willing to do to solve it.
Example, ”I am willing to put in the extra hours, study more books and dedicate my time to my project”.
What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it?
Sometimes our behaviors of the past have allowed problems to arise. This questions allows you to take some responsibility for what is happening, and then search for ways in which you can change.
Example, ”Im no longer willing to speak the way I have been to my partner, and will be more calm in conversation”.
How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
This questions will help you to look for ways in which tackling the issue can be enjoyable. If we can make resolving the issue pleasurable instead of painful, this will greater our chances of doing what is necessary.
Example, ”I will take the time explore new environments, and meet new people whilst I work hard to drop this excess weight”.
If you have trouble answering any of these questions, use the world could. Example, ”what could I be most happy about in my life right now?”
”Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” – Anthony Robbins
The Gift Of Great Questions
Once you know how to ask empowering questions, you can help others as well. In any situation, you can focus on what will make you feel better or what will make you feel worse. Most people are asking the wrong questions, and as a result, they get wrong answers. For example, asking yourself, “Why doesn’t anything work out for me?” is a negative way to face your issues. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of any problem and you will come to a solution much more easily.
In a matter of minutes, the power of asking questions will work their magic. They will reveal the resources that have been available all this time.
Anthony Robbins, (1996), Notes From A Friend, Published by Simon & Schuster Ltd