”Ask and you will receive. Seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7
We ask ourselves questions everyday. Our questions control our focus, how we think, and how we feel. Asking the right questions is one of the best ways to tackle a problem.
In fact, asking questions is one of the most valuable resources used in professional coaching. And it’s because questions have the power to liberate stress, and find solutions to the issues at hand.
Of all the available questions one could ask themselves, this article will reveal 5 questions that can help you tackle any problem, and prepare you to look for solutions whenever an issue arises.
What is great about this problem?Advertising
When a problem arises, in some way, it may serve a positive. Asking what is great about the problem will allow you to look for areas in where this problem might serve you. For example, ”This problem is great, because it allows me to grow as a person”.
What is not perfect yet?
Sometimes our problems may not be as big as we think they are. Our emotions tend to blow things out of proportion. Instead, ask what is not perfect yet. You may just find your slightly off from solving it.
Example, ” My communication skills aren’t good enough yet, but they will be”.
What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?Advertising
When a problem arises, we have to willing to put in our best efforts to overcome it. What are you willing to do? This question grants an opportunity to list the things your willing to do to solve it.
Example, ”I am willing to put in the extra hours, study more books and dedicate my time to my project”.
What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it?
Sometimes our behaviors of the past have allowed problems to arise. This questions allows you to take some responsibility for what is happening, and then search for ways in which you can change.
Example, ”Im no longer willing to speak the way I have been to my partner, and will be more calm in conversation”.Advertising
How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
This questions will help you to look for ways in which tackling the issue can be enjoyable. If we can make resolving the issue pleasurable instead of painful, this will greater our chances of doing what is necessary.
Example, ”I will take the time explore new environments, and meet new people whilst I work hard to drop this excess weight”.
If you have trouble answering any of these questions, use the world could. Example, ”what could I be most happy about in my life right now?”Advertising
”Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” – Anthony Robbins
The Gift Of Great Questions
Once you know how to ask empowering questions, you can help others as well. In any situation, you can focus on what will make you feel better or what will make you feel worse. Most people are asking the wrong questions, and as a result, they get wrong answers. For example, asking yourself, “Why doesn’t anything work out for me?” is a negative way to face your issues. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of any problem and you will come to a solution much more easily.
In a matter of minutes, the power of asking questions will work their magic. They will reveal the resources that have been available all this time.
Anthony Robbins, (1996), Notes From A Friend, Published by Simon & Schuster Ltd
Last Updated on June 1, 2021
7 Signs That You’re Way Too Busy (And Need to Change That)
“Busy” used to be a fair description of the typical schedule. More and more, though, “busy” simply doesn’t cut it.
“Busy” has been replaced with “too busy”, “far too busy”, or “absolutely buried.” It’s true that being productive often means being busy…but it’s only true up to a point.
As you likely know from personal experience, you can become so busy that you reach a tipping point…a point where your life tips over and falls apart because you can no longer withstand the weight of your commitments.
Once you’ve reached that point, it becomes fairly obvious that you’ve over-committed yourself.
The trick, though, is to recognize the signs of “too busy” before you reach that tipping point. A little self-assessment and some proactive schedule-thinning can prevent you from having that meltdown.
To help you in that self-assessment, here are 7 signs that you’re way too busy:
1. You Can’t Remember the Last Time You Took a Day Off
Occasional periods of rest are not unproductive, they are essential to productivity. Extended periods of non-stop activity result in fatigue, and fatigue results in lower-quality output. As Sydney J. Harris once said,
“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”
2. Those Closest to You Have Stopped Asking for Your Time
Why? They simply know that you have no time to give them. Your loved ones will be persistent for a long time, but once you reach the point where they’ve stopped asking, you’ve reached a dangerous level of busy.
3. Activities like Eating Are Always Done in Tandem with Other Tasks
If you constantly find yourself using meal times, car rides, etc. as times to catch up on emails, phone calls, or calendar readjustments, it’s time to lighten the load.
It’s one thing to use your time efficiently. It’s a whole different ballgame, though, when you have so little time that you can’t even focus on feeding yourself.
4. You’re Consistently More Tired When You Get up in the Morning Than You Are When You Go to Bed
One of the surest signs of an overloaded schedule is morning fatigue. This is a good indication that you’ve not rested well during the night, which is a good sign that you’ve got way too much on your mind.
If you’ve got so much to do that you can’t even shut your mind down when you’re laying in bed, you’re too busy.
5. The Most Exercise You Get Is Sprinting from One Commitment to the Next
It’s proven that exercise promotes healthy lives. If you don’t care about that, that’s one thing. If you’d like to exercise, though, but you just don’t have time for it, you’re too busy.
If the closest thing you get to exercise is running from your office to your car because you’re late for your ninth appointment of the day, it’s time to slow down.
Try these 5 Ways to Find Time for Exercise.
6. You Dread Getting up in the Morning
If your days are so crammed full that you literally dread even starting them, you’re too busy. A new day should hold at least a small level of refreshment and excitement. Scale back until you find that place again.
7. “Survival Mode” Is Your Only Mode
If you can’t remember what it feels like to be ahead of schedule, or at least “caught up”, you’re too busy.
So, How To Get out of Busyness?
Take a look at this video:
And these articles to help you get unstuck:
- How To Avoid Being Busy All The Time Without Making Significant Progress
- 9 Practical Ways to Achieve Work Life Balance in a Busy World
- Take A Moment And Read This Because You Might Be Too Busy Doing Nothing In Your Life
- 11 Differences Between Busy People And Productive People
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