”Ask and you will receive. Seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7
We ask ourselves questions everyday. Our questions control our focus, how we think, and how we feel. Asking the right questions is one of the best ways to tackle a problem.
In fact, asking questions is one of the most valuable resources used in professional coaching. And it’s because questions have the power to liberate stress, and find solutions to the issues at hand.
Of all the available questions one could ask themselves, this article will reveal 5 questions that can help you tackle any problem, and prepare you to look for solutions whenever an issue arises.
What is great about this problem?Advertising
When a problem arises, in some way, it may serve a positive. Asking what is great about the problem will allow you to look for areas in where this problem might serve you. For example, ”This problem is great, because it allows me to grow as a person”.
What is not perfect yet?
Sometimes our problems may not be as big as we think they are. Our emotions tend to blow things out of proportion. Instead, ask what is not perfect yet. You may just find your slightly off from solving it.
Example, ” My communication skills aren’t good enough yet, but they will be”.
What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?Advertising
When a problem arises, we have to willing to put in our best efforts to overcome it. What are you willing to do? This question grants an opportunity to list the things your willing to do to solve it.
Example, ”I am willing to put in the extra hours, study more books and dedicate my time to my project”.
What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it?
Sometimes our behaviors of the past have allowed problems to arise. This questions allows you to take some responsibility for what is happening, and then search for ways in which you can change.
Example, ”Im no longer willing to speak the way I have been to my partner, and will be more calm in conversation”.Advertising
How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
This questions will help you to look for ways in which tackling the issue can be enjoyable. If we can make resolving the issue pleasurable instead of painful, this will greater our chances of doing what is necessary.
Example, ”I will take the time explore new environments, and meet new people whilst I work hard to drop this excess weight”.
If you have trouble answering any of these questions, use the world could. Example, ”what could I be most happy about in my life right now?”Advertising
”Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” – Anthony Robbins
The Gift Of Great Questions
Once you know how to ask empowering questions, you can help others as well. In any situation, you can focus on what will make you feel better or what will make you feel worse. Most people are asking the wrong questions, and as a result, they get wrong answers. For example, asking yourself, “Why doesn’t anything work out for me?” is a negative way to face your issues. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of any problem and you will come to a solution much more easily.
In a matter of minutes, the power of asking questions will work their magic. They will reveal the resources that have been available all this time.
Anthony Robbins, (1996), Notes From A Friend, Published by Simon & Schuster Ltd
Last Updated on November 13, 2018
Do You Want to Know the Secret to Living a Fulfilling Life?
Don’t we all want to live a full, happy and satisfied life? For some of us, it need not be a long life as long as it’s been a fulfilling life of achievements, happiness and no regrets. But, how many of us actually go on to experience that entirely? It sometimes sounds more like a pipe dream–a fantasy rather than reality.
And then you’ll also get comments from some, saying that this ‘fulfilling life’ is only possible if you’re so rich that you don’t have to care about working, paying the bills or providing for your family. While there is some truth to that, I’m happy to say that financial freedom isn’t the only answer to living a fulfilling life.
Living a Fulfilling Life is Within Reach
Anyone can pursue a life of fullness, and it all starts with the willingness to learn. How many years has it been since you last attended a class in school? If you’re well into your adult years as a working professional, chances are it’s been a while. Do you remember the times where you had to wake up for early morning lectures? Or the times where you were rushing through a paper or project? And, of course there were the endless exams that you had to cram for.
As a young college student, I remember looking forward to the time when I would finally be done with school! No more homework, no more grades to worry about, no more stress! The learning was finally done and I could enter the working world.
Not so much!
Now that I’ve finally entered the working world, there are moments where I do wish to be a student again; it seemed less stressful then!
There is simply so much out there that I still need to learn and experience. Yet I find myself pressed for time. With family commitments, my business and my own social life to juggle, I’ve had to keep on finding for new ways to learn and absorb new information efficiently. Over the years, I’ve found that by learning new skills and knowledge, I was able to find answers and solutions to my problems, which allowed me to achieve a greater sense of fulfillment.
Learning Never Ends
The truth is, learning never ends. Generally speaking, it is true that a formal education and the resulting qualifications are important in securing good jobs; jobs that allow you to excel, earn more and perhaps become more successful in our chosen career. But going to school is only one type of learning. All throughout your life, you’re learning in many ways. All these experiences shape and grow you into the person that you are today.
There are many opportunities to further your knowledge and develop the skills you need throughout life. Knowledge can be acquired and skill-sets can be developed anywhere. However, lifelong learning is about creating and maintaining a positive attitude to learning both for personal and professional development.
Many people overlook the fact that learning can take place anywhere and in many forms. Most would tend to think of learning as the years spent in a learning institute, which occurs mostly in their younger days. And once you go out into the working world, your ‘learning’ ends.
This is not how it has to be–in fact, lifelong learning is a gift that keeps on giving.
The Importance of Lifelong Learning
Why is it important to become a lifelong learner?
A lifelong learner is motivated to learn and develop because they want to; it is a deliberate and voluntary act. Lifelong learning can enhance our understanding of the world around us, provide us with more and better opportunities, and improve our quality of life.
You’ll Remain Relevant in the Workplace
With advancements in society today, the human life expectancy continues to increase, which means more people are also retiring at a later age. So no matter what stage of life you’re in, being a lifelong learner brings its own rewards. It means we can get more personal satisfaction from our lives and jobs as we understand more about who we are and what we do.
This can lead to better results and a more rewarding working day in turn. Whether it’s for advancing your career, a personal interest or wanting to pursue new dreams, learning automatically pushes you forward towards progress and enhances your wellbeing.
You’ll Increase Your Earning Potential
From a financial point of view, a more highly skilled and knowledgeable worker is an asset to any company. This also leads to faster promotion with associated salary increases.
Someone who can offer more expertise will be of more value not just to employers but also to customers. Expertise is also, often, a key quality of an effective leader.
And since you’ll constantly be accumulating knowledge, you’ll have an edge on those who don’t value lifelong learning and can’t bring as much to the table. Your extra knowledge will translate into transferable skills, which means you’ll always be primed to blow the competition out of the water.
Learning Gives You Options
Of course, one of the most rewarding reasons for continuous learning, is that it gives you options! Successfully changing career path in mid-life and spending time informally developing expertise is more common than ever, especially during rapidly changing market conditions.
Whatever your age, it’s never too late to start fresh in life. When you start educating yourself and exposing yourself to new knowledge and information, you widen your opportunities. This will allow you to do more than what you may currently be doing, or give you a way out if you’re not happy or fulfilled with where you’re at now.
Our economy is shifting increasingly towards short-term and part-time contracts with more flexible work-patterns. We have to adapt to changes going on in the work-world, make more of ourselves by stepping out of our comfort zones, and break the false ideas about our potential and how we believe life is going.
Gain More with Cornerstone Skills
You may be well into your career, but feel like somehow, something is still missing. Or maybe you’re not entirely happy with where you’re at in your career path and feel it’s time to reflect and perhaps do something new. Or you might be thinking of retiring soon, and thinking about next steps after retirement.
The learning never needs to stop!
This can be your chance to go after a dream or interest that you’ve always had (but never had the opportunity, or time, to pursue). This could finally be the time for you to create the change that you know you should have made ages ago.
Why not take the first step to learn about 7 important Cornerstone Skills, which will help take your life to the next stage?
Whatever situation you’re in, having these 7 Cornerstone Skills will no doubt equip you to tackle the challenges of life much more efficiently. Don’t let age, your limitations or a comfort zone stop you from seeking greater rewards and self-improvement.
Transformation and change is in your hands–you have the power to make big things happen, and we can help teach you the skills. Don’t let life pass you by! It’s time to pursue a fulfilling and happy life.
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