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The 5 Questions That Can Help You Tackle Any Problem

The 5 Questions That Can Help You Tackle Any Problem

”Ask and you will receive. Seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7

We ask ourselves questions everyday. Our questions control our focus, how we think, and how we feel. Asking the right questions is one of the best ways to tackle a problem.

In fact, asking questions is one of the most valuable resources used in professional coaching. And it’s because questions have the power to liberate stress, and find solutions to the issues at hand.

Of all the available questions one could ask themselves, this article will reveal 5 questions that can help you tackle any problem, and prepare you to look for solutions whenever an issue arises.

Question 1:

What is great about this problem? 

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When a problem arises, in some way, it may serve a positive. Asking what is great about the problem will allow you to look for areas in where this problem might serve you. For example, ”This problem is great, because it allows me to grow as a person”.

Question 2:

What is not perfect yet? 

Sometimes our problems may not be as big as we think they are. Our emotions tend to blow things out of proportion. Instead, ask what is not perfect yet. You may just find your slightly off from solving it.

Example, ” My communication skills aren’t good enough yet, but they will be”.  

Question 3:

What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it? 

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When a problem arises, we have to willing to put in our best efforts to overcome it. What are you willing to do? This question grants an opportunity to list the things your willing to do to solve it.

Example, ”I am willing to put in the extra hours, study more books and dedicate my time to my project”. 

Question 4:

What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it? 

Sometimes our behaviors of the past have allowed problems to arise. This questions allows you to take some responsibility for what is happening, and then search for ways in which you can change.

Example, ”Im no longer willing to speak the way I have been to my partner, and will be more calm in conversation”.

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Question 5:

How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it? 

This questions will help you to look for ways in which tackling the issue can be enjoyable. If we can make resolving the issue pleasurable instead of painful, this will greater our chances of doing what is necessary.

Example, ”I will take the time explore new environments, and meet new people whilst I  work hard to drop this excess weight”. 

Special Note: 

If you have trouble answering any of these questions, use the world could. Example, ”what could I be most happy about in my life right now?”

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”Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” – Anthony Robbins 

The Gift Of Great Questions

Once you know how to ask empowering questions, you can help others as well. In any situation, you can focus on what will make you feel better or what will make you feel worse. Most people are asking the wrong questions, and as a result, they get wrong answers. For example, asking yourself, “Why doesn’t anything work out for me?” is a negative way to face your issues. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of any problem and you will come to a solution much more easily.

In a matter of minutes, the power of asking questions will work their magic. They will reveal the resources that have been available all this time.

 

References 

Anthony Robbins, (1996), Notes From A Friend, Published by Simon & Schuster Ltd 

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Last Updated on July 23, 2019

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

In the journey of growth, there are times when we grow and excel. We are endlessly driven and hyped up, motivated to get our goals.

Then there are times when we stagnate. We feel uninspired and unmotivated. We keep procrastinating on our plans. More often than not, we get out of a rut, only to get back into another one.

How do you know if you are stagnating? Here are some tell-tale signs:

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  • If you have been experiencing chronic procrastination on your goals
  • If you don’t ever feel like doing anything
  • If you keep turning to sleep, eating, games, mindless activities and entertainment for comfort
  • If you know you should be doing something, but yet you keep avoiding it
  • If you have not achieved anything new or significant now relative to 1 month, 2 months or 3 months ago
  • If you have a deep sense of feeling that you are living under your potential

When we face stagnation in life, it’s a sign of deeper issues. Stagnation, just like procrastination, is a symptom of a problem. It’s easy to beat ourselves over it, but this approach is not going to help. Here, I will share 5 steps to help you move out of this stagnation. They won’t magically transform your life in 1 night (such changes are never permanent because the foundations are not built), but they will help you get the momentum going and help you get back on track.

1. Realize You’re Not Alone

Everyone stagnates at some point or another. You are not alone in this and more importantly, it’s normal. In fact, it’s amazing how many of my clients actually face the same predicament, even though all of them come from different walks of life, are of different ages, and have never crossed paths. Realizing you are not alone in this will make it much easier to deal with this period. By trying to “fight it”, you’re only fighting yourself. Accept this situation, acknowledge it, and tell yourself it’s okay. That way, you can then focus on the constructive steps that will really help you.

2. Find What Inspires You

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Stagnation comes because there isn’t anything that excites you enough to take action. If you don’t have a habit of setting goals, and instead just leave yourself to daily mundanes, it’s not surprising you are experiencing stagnation. What do you want to do if there are no limitations? If you can have whatever you want, what will it be? The answers to these questions will provide the fuel that will drive you forward.

On the other hand, even if you are an experienced goal setter, there are times when the goals you set in the past lose their appeal now. It’s normal and it happens to me too. Sometimes we lose touch with our goals, since we are in a different emotional state compared to when we first set them. Sometimes our priorities change and we no longer want to work on those goals anymore. However, we don’t consciously realize this, and what happens is we procrastinate on our goals until it compounds into a serious problem. If that’s the case for you, it’s time to relook into your goals. There’s no point in pursuing goals that no longer inspire you. Trash away your old goals (or just put them aside) and ask yourself what you really want now. Then go for them.

3. Give Yourself a Break

When’s the last time you took a real break for yourself? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year? Never? Perhaps it’s time to take a time-out. Prolonged working can cause someone to become disillusioned as they lose sight of who they are and what they want.

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Go take some extended leave from work. A few days at bare minimum; a few weeks or months will be great. Some of my ex-colleagues have quit their jobs and took months out to do some self-reflection. Of course, some of us might not have that luxury, so we can stick to a few weeks of leave. Go on a trip elsewhere and get away from your work and your life. Use this chance to get a renewed perspective of life. Think about your life purpose, what you want and what you want to create for your life in the future. These are big questions that require deep thinking over them. It’s not about finding the answers at one go, but about taking the first step to finding the answers.

4. Shake up Your Routines

Being in the same environment, doing the same things over and over again and meeting the same people can make us stagnant. This is especially if the people you spend the most time with are stagnant themselves.

Change things around. Start with simple things, like taking a different route to work and eating something different for breakfast. Have your lunch with different colleagues, colleagues you never talked much with. Work in a different cubicle if your work has free and easy seating. Do something different than your usual for weekday evenings and weekends. Cultivate different habits, like exercising every day, listening to a new series of podcasts every morning to work, reading a book, etc (here’s 6 Proven Ways To Make New Habits Stick). The different contexts will give you different stimulus, which will trigger off different thoughts and actions in you.

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When I’m in a state of stagnancy, I’ll get a sense of what’s making me stagnate. Sometimes it’s the environment I’m in, sometimes it’s the people I’ve been hanging out with, sometimes it’s my lifestyle. Most of the times it’s a combination of all these. Changing them up helps to stir myself out of the stagnant mode.

5. Start with a Small Step

Stagnation also comes from being frozen in fear. Maybe you do want this certain goal, but you aren’t taking action. Are you overwhelmed by the amount of work needed? Are you afraid you will make mistakes? Is the perfectionist in you taking over and paralyzing you?

Let go of the belief that it has to be perfect. Such a belief is a bane, not a boon. It’s precisely from being open to mistakes and errors that you move forward. Break down what’s before you into very very small steps, then take those small steps, a little step at a time. I had a client who had been stagnating for a long period because he was afraid of failing. He didn’t want to make another move where he would make a mistake. However, not wanting to make a mistake has led him to do absolutely nothing for 2-3 years. On the other hand, by doing just something, you would already be making progress, whether it’s a mistake or not. Even if you make a supposed “mistake”,  you get feedback to do things differently in the next step. That’s something you would never have known if you never made a move.

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