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Have A Confident Mindset In A Way Most People Don’t Know

Have A Confident Mindset In A Way Most People Don’t Know

Being a confident person has a lot of benefits at work and at play. It can make you feel and be more successful. Showing you are confident starts with having and cultivating a mindset of confidence.

1. Be honest

Sometimes we wear a mask with others, or keep our guard up, which means people never get to know who we really are or what’s important to us. If you are a manager or leader,  that can make you seem distant or ambiguous, and can cause anxiety among your team. Being honest about yourself helps to open people up to you and your point of view. You appear to be what you are – a human being with flaws just like everyone else. Expressing your true thoughts can make people like you more, or at least know where you stand, because you have the confidence to show your authentic self. This doesn’t mean sharing your intimate secrets, or being overly personal. It means sharing what’s relevant in the context and being open to criticism and challenge from others on your views. To do that, and to accept it, you need to be confident.

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2. Express your ideas

Sharing your views on something isn’t about speaking louder or longer than others. It’s about providing thoughtful input to conversations. If you don’t know what you think, take time to figure it out. You don’t get points for speaking out, and sometimes saying things just to participate can hurt you, if you have to live with those ideas later. Don’t worry about what other people might say, or how they might react to your views. Share with others what you think the best approach is to solving problems or creating new programs or systems, and ask for feedback. Sometimes it takes one confident person to start the ball rolling. Why not you?

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3. Be Brave

Take on new challenges, even if they seem daunting, and do it with an open mind. Some things we try, even those we are passionate about, just don’t work out. But if we don’t explore new areas, or try new things, we can get in a rut that’s hard to get out of. By achieving new things, we build our confidence, and that comes through loud and clear when you convey ideas and approaches that make sense to others.

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4. Think Positive

If we have a negative mindset about things that worry or scare us, we can’t function confidently. We can get stuck on the negative possibilities, and that leads us to second guess our decisions, or not make recommendations at all. Being negative and talking about all the things that could go wrong will make others afraid and concerned about  the potential success of a new venture as well. Whether you are contributing to something as part of a team, or leading it, think about and write down all the positive outcomes that are possible and share those with others. It will make you feel more confident, and others will as well. That confidence can lead to brainstorming and greater chance of success. When people bring up potential negative outcomes or consequences, try to figure out how they could be avoided, or transformed into positive ones. Lead the discussion in that direction and watch others get on board.

5. Feel Good

Taking care of yourself is a major part of feeling confident. It’s not about having the latest gadget, or fashion item, it’s about feeling well and likely yourself. Some people enjoy exercising daily, others less often. Some people avoid sweets and others follow strict diets, all to be healthy. Whatever approach you take to eating, exercise, and dressing, if you look in the mirror and like yourself, you will convey that to others. Being confident is a state of mind which comes across to others in how you communicate, and that means how you present yourself to the world as well as what you say. Being kind to yourself is a powerful thing and can make you feel more confident to take on the challenges of everyday life, and hair raising times of stress.

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Last Updated on March 23, 2021

Manage Your Energy so You Can Manage Your Time

Manage Your Energy so You Can Manage Your Time

One of the greatest ironies of this age is that while various gadgets like smartphones and netbooks allow you to multitask, it seems that you never manage to get things done. You are caught in the busyness trap. There’s just too much work to do in one day that sometimes you end up exhausted with half-finished tasks.

The problem lies in how to keep our energy level high to ensure that you finish at least one of your most important tasks for the day. There’s just not enough hours in a day and it’s not possible to be productive the whole time.

You need more than time management. You need energy management

1. Dispel the idea that you need to be a “morning person” to be productive

How many times have you heard (or read) this advice – wake up early so that you can do all the tasks at hand. There’s nothing wrong with that advice. It’s actually reeks of good common sense – start early, finish early. The thing is that technique alone won’t work with everyone. Especially not with people who are not morning larks.

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I should know because I was once deluded with the idea that I will be more productive if I get out of bed by 6 a.m. Like most of you Lifehackers, I’m always on the lookout for productivity hacks because I have a lot of things in my plate. I’m working full time as an editor for a news agency, while at the same time tending to my side business as a content marketing strategist. I’m also a travel blogger and oh yeah, I forgot, I also have a life.

I read a lot of productivity books and blogs looking for ways to make the most of my 24 hours. Most stories on productivity stress waking up early. So I did – and I was a major failure in that department – both in waking up early and finishing early.

2. Determine your “peak hours”

Energy management begins with looking for your most productive hours in a day. Getting attuned to your body clock won’t happen instantly but there’s a way around it.

Monitor your working habits for one week and list down the time when you managed to do the most work. Take note also of what you feel during those hours – do you feel energized or lethargic? Monitor this and you will find a pattern later on.

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My experiment with being a morning lark proved that ignoring my body clock and just doing it by disciplining myself to wake up before 8 a.m. will push me to be more productive. I thought that by writing blog posts and other reports in the morning that I would be finished by noon and use my lunch break for a quick gym session. That never happened. I was sleepy, distracted and couldn’t write jack before 10 a.m.

In fact that was one experiment that I shouldn’t have tried because I should know better. After all, I’ve been writing for a living for the last 15 years, and I have observed time and again that I write more –and better – in the afternoon and in evenings after supper. I’m a night owl. I might as well, accept it and work around it.

Just recently, I was so fired up by a certain idea that – even if I’m back home tired from work – I took out my netbook, wrote and published a 600-word blog post by 11 p.m. This is a bit extreme and one of my rare outbursts of energy, but it works for me.

3. Block those high-energy hours

Once you have a sense of that high-energy time, you can then mold your schedule so that your other less important tasks will be scheduled either before or after this designated productive time.

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Block them out in your calendar and use the high-energy hours for your high priority tasks – especially those that require more of your mental energy and focus. You also need to use these hours to any task that will bring you closer to you life’s goal.

If you are a morning person, you might want to schedule most business meetings before lunch time as it’s important to keep your mind sharp and focused. But nothing is set in stone. Sometimes you have to sacrifice those productive hours to attend to other personal stuff – like if you or your family members are sick or if you have to attend your son’s graduation.

That said, just remember to keep those productive times on your calendar. You may allow for some exemptions but stick to that schedule as much as possible.

There’s no right or wrong way of using this energy management technique because everything depends on your own personal circumstances. What you need to remember is that you have to accept what works for you – and not what other productivity gurus say you should do.

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Understanding your own body clock is the key to time management. Without it, you end up exhausted chasing a never-ending cycle of tasks and frustrations.

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