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7 Reasons Why You Fail All the Time

7 Reasons Why You Fail All the Time

Frustrated with failure? Ever feel like you fail all the time? Here are 7 reasons why you fail all the time. Learn to recognize them so you can avoid them in the future.

1. You’re Lazy

Honestly, you’re not trying.

You like the idea of success, but you’re lacking effort.

You like to act like you’re trying, but you’re really spending more time thinking about how you’re going to explain your work to other people than actually doing any work.

Stop being lazy.

How to fix this: stop being lazy and start developing a work ethic. Do something — anything.

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2. You Make Too Many Excuses

See the above excuse. In addition to being lazy, you probably make excuses all the time about how something wasn’t your fault and why you’re not actually lazy, but it’s really because the stars didn’t align and someone else was somehow responsible.

No.

Stop being lazy. Stop making excuses. Get to work.

How to fix this: take responsibility for everything — including stuff that isn’t your fault.

3. You Dream Too Much

Dreaming is great — nothing has ever happened without someone first imagining that it could exist.

That said, there’s a point where dreaming is overdone. Sometimes you just need to get down and take some action. Get out of your head and start piecing together the puzzle. Stop overanalyzing everything and dreaming about what could be and get started on actually bringing it into existence.

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How to fix this: Find one actionable way to bring your dream one step closer to reality.

4. You’re Scared of Failure

This is actually a hilarious sort of reason in an ironic sense. You fail because you’re so scared of failure that you either

  1. Never start, or
  2. Are so scared of failing that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Failure isn’t a bad thing — in fact, it can be one of your greatest teachers. But you’ll never find out if you’re too scared to even try. Stop acting out of fear and start taking action.

How to fix this: Find the thing that scares you most — then jump in and do it. 

5. You’re Unfocused with Your Actions

You’re all over the place.

Sure you can blame this on ADD (see reason #2), but the real reason is that you don’t have a plan of action so you lash out at any shiny object that sounds like it will fix your problem.

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But, that’s not going to help.

What will help is a solid plan with intentional action that gets you closer and closer to your goals. Laser-focus your attention on the 20% of things that will get you results.

How to fix this: Create a schedule, a routine and a plan to accomplish your goals — then stick to it.

6. You Don’t Know How To Quit

The one thing worse than a failed project is trying to convince yourself that there’s still hope.

If the project didn’t achieve its goals, know when to cut bait, learn your lesson and get started on the next one. There’s no need to throw good money after bad on a project that wasn’t worth it in the first place.

How to fix this: Have clear goals with each project and endeavor. Abandon the ones that don’t achieve their stated purpose.

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7. You Forget The Basics

You get so caught up in the flashy aspects of the dream lifestyle that you forget the basics. You get lazy with fundamentals and spend too much time in lala-land.

Strip away the flash. Stop trying to be so hollywood and go back to the start. Get the basics right.

How to fix this: Take away the flash and get back to the basics. Get those right first.

Featured photo credit: Sybren A. Stüvel via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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