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5 Ways To Thrive Tomorrow Thanks To Your Willingness To Fail Today

5 Ways To Thrive Tomorrow Thanks To Your Willingness To Fail Today

Sometimes we’re so afraid to make a fool of ourselves that we don’t even try. Or we make a halfhearted attempt – as if doing something half-hardheartedly with an ‘I-don’t-really-care-that-much’-attitude will make our failures less frequent and more bearable somehow.

Sometimes we’re so afraid to fail that we give up before we even start, because we fear we’ve got so much to lose. But the truth is – we’ve got so much to gain. It’s our willingness to fail that is a prerequisite for living life to the fullest. It’s our willingness to fail today that makes us thrive tomorrow. Here’s 5 ways to thrive tomorrow thanks to the mistakes you are willing to make today:

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1. Mistakes and failures are great sources of indispensable feedback.

They’re just things that went different than expected. They show us what didn’t work and invite us to come up with another strategy, idea or plan. They’re not a measure of our worth – even though that’s what we often make them out to be, feeling deflated, small and insecure. But the truth is – those mistakes and failures are not personal. They’re not the final truth about us. They’re just proof that we actually did something, that we took action, that we gave it a go. And we deserve a pat on the back for doing just that.

2. Mistakes and failures are opportunities to shine.

They’re an opportunity to show what we’re made of. They allow us to decide who we want to be – even when things are tough and we would rather curl up in a ball and hide from the world. They allow us to deliberately own our mistakes – instead of sweeping them under the carpet. They’re an opportunity to be an inspiring example of creativity and resourcefulness, of non-judgmental strength and open-mindedness. They’re an invitation to live with style, class and integrity.

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3. Mistakes and failures are the birthplace of fresh ideas.

They allow us to make our work better, our ideas stronger. They help us detect what part of our plan we need to work on; they help us figure out what support we need to ask for. They help us crystallize our intention and refine our ideas. Or they could be the spark for a new didn’t-see-this-coming change of plans altogether – one we could never have come up with when just brainstorming and thinking without the actual doing.

4. Mistakes and failures are invitations to reconnect with ourselves.

They’re an invitation to take a moment and take a look at what we set out to do and why we were doing it in the first place. They’re an invitation to distinguish our genuine wants and dreams from the shoulds and have tos. They’re an invitation to refocus on what we truly want to do and change direction when we find ourselves off track of who we truly are.

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5. Mistakes and failures are powerful confidence boosters.

They’re the living proof that we’ve got what it takes – after all, we’ve handled so many mistakes and failures in the past and we’re still here, despite the hurt, shame and discomfort that each mistake and failure brought along. They’re living proof that we’re so much more than we give ourselves credit for. We’ve handled our mistakes and failures before – and we can do so again. I love this quote from J.K. Rowling that sums it up so nicely:

It is impossible to live without failing at something,
unless you live so cautiously that you might has well not have lived at all,
in which case you have failed by default.

Actually, not being willing to fail or to make a mistake, that would be foolish, wouldn’t it?

Featured photo credit: thephotograpymuse via flickr.com

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17 Ways Learn New Skills Faster and Enjoy the Process

17 Ways Learn New Skills Faster and Enjoy the Process

In the movie The Matrix, everyone was intrigued with the ability that Neo and his friends possessed to learn new skills in a matter of seconds. With the incredible rise in technology today, the rapid learning in the movie is becoming much more of a reality than you realize.

The current generation has access to more knowledge and information than any before it. Through the internet, we are able to access all sorts of knowledge to answer almost every conceivable question. To become smarter, it’s more about the ability to learn faster, rather than being a natural born genius.

Here are 17 ways to kickstart your Matrix-style learning experience in a short amount of time.

1. Deconstruct and Reverse Engineer

Break down the skill that you want to learn into little pieces and learn techniques to master an isolated portion. The small pieces will come together to make up the whole skill.

For example, when you’re learning to play the guitar, learn how to press down a chord pattern with your fingers first without even trying to strum the chord. Once you are able to change between a couple of chord patterns, then add the strumming.

2. Use the Pareto Principle

Use the Pareto Principle, which is also known as the 80 20 rule. Identify the 20% of the work that will give you 80% of the results. Find out more about the 80 20 rule here: What Is the 80 20 Rule (And How to Use It to Boost Productivity)

Take learning a new language for example. It does not take long to realize that some words pop up over and over again as you’re learning. You can do a quick search for “most commonly used French words,” for example, and begin to learn them first before adding on the rest.

3. Make Stakes

Establish some sort of punishment for not learning the skill that you are seeking. There are sites available that allow you to make a donation toward a charity you absolutely hate if you do not meet your goals. Or you can place a bet with a friend to light that fire under you.

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However, keep in mind that several studies have shown that rewards tend to be more motivating than punishment[1].

4. Record Yourself

Seeing yourself on video is a great way to learn from your mistakes and identify areas that you need to improve. This is very effective for any musicians, actors, speakers, performers, and dancers.

5. Join a Group

There are huge benefits to learning in a group. Not only are you able to learn from others but you’ll be encouraged to make progress together. Whether it’s a chess club, a mastermind group, or an online meet-up group, get connected with other like-minded individuals.

6. Time Travel

Visit the library. Although everything is moving more and more online, there are still such things called libraries.

Whether it’s a municipal library or your university library, you will be amazed at some of the books available there that are not accessible online. Specifically, look for the hidden treasures and wisdom contained in the really old books.

7. Be a Chameleon

When you want to learn new skills, imitate your biggest idol. Watch a video and learn from seeing someone else do it. Participate in mimicry and copy what you see.

Studies have shown that, apart from learning,[2]

“Mimicry is an effective tool not only to create ties and social relationships, but also for maintaining them.”

Visual learning is a great way to speed up the learning process. YouTube has thousands of videos on almost every topic available.

8. Focus

Follow one course until success! It’s easy to get distracted, to throw in the towel, or to become interested in the next great thing and ditch what you initially set out to do.

Ditch the whole idea of multitasking, as it has been shown to be detrimental and unproductive Simply focus on the one new skill at hand until you get it done.

9. Visualize

The mind has great difficulty distinguishing between what is real and what is imagined. That is why athletes practice mentally seeing their success before attempting the real thing[3].

Visualize yourself achieving your new skill and each step that you need to make to see results. This is an important skill to help when you’re learning the basics or breaking a bad habit.

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10. Find a Mentor

Success leaves clues. The best short cut to become an expert is to find an expert and not have to make the mistakes that they have made.

Finding out what NOT to do from the expert will fast-track your learning when you want to learn new skills. It is a huge win to have them personally walk you through what needs to be done. Reach out and send an email to them.

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If you need help learning how to find a mentor, check out this article.

11. Sleep on It

Practice your new skill within four hours of going to sleep.

Josh Kaufman, author of The Personal MBA, is a noted rapid learning expert. He says that any practice done within this time frame causes your brain to embed the learning more rapidly into its neural pathways. Your memory and motor-mechanics are ingrained at a quicker level.

12. Use the 20-Hour Rule

Along with that tip, Kaufman also suggests 20 as the magic number of hours to dedicate to learning the new skill.

His reasoning is that everyone will hit a wall early on in the rapid learning stage and that “pre-committing” to 20 hours is a sure-fire way to push through that wall and acquire your new skill.[4]

Check out his video to find out more:

13. Learn by Doing

It’s easy to get caught up in reading and gathering information on how to learn new skills and never actually get around to doing those skills. The best way to learn is to do.

Regardless of how unprepared you feel, make sure you are physically engaged continuously. Keep alternating between research and practice.

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14. Complete Short Sprints

Rather than to force yourself into enduring hours upon hours of dedication, work in short sprints of about 20-30 minutes, then get up and stretch or take a short walk. Your brain’s attention span works best with short breaks, so be sure to give it the little rest it needs.

One study found that, between two groups of students, the students who took two short breaks when studying actually performed better than those who didn’t take breaks[5].

15. Ditch the Distractions

Make sure the environment you are in is perfect for your rapid-learning progress. That means ditching any social media, and the temptation to check any email. As the saying goes, “Out of sight, out of mind.”

Before you sit down to learn new skills, make sure that potential distractions are far from sight.

16. Use Nootropics

Otherwise known as brain enhancers, these cognitive boosters are available in natural herbal forms and in supplements.

Many students will swear by the increased focus that nootropics will provide[6], particularly as they get set for some serious cramming. Natural herbal nootropics have been used for thousands of years in Ayurvedic traditions to improve the mind and learning.

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17. Celebrate

For every single small win that you experience during the learning process, be sure to celebrate. Your brain will release endorphins and serotonin as you raise your hands in victory and pump your fits. Have a piece of chocolate and give yourself a pat on the back. This positive reinforcement will help you keep pushing forward as you learn new skills.

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The Bottom Line

Learning a new skill should be exciting and fun. Whether you use online courses, real world experience, YouTube videos, or free online resources, take time to learn in the long term. Keep picturing the joy of reaching the end goal and being a better version of yourself as continual motivation.

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