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5 Ways To Thrive Tomorrow Thanks To Your Willingness To Fail Today

5 Ways To Thrive Tomorrow Thanks To Your Willingness To Fail Today

Sometimes we’re so afraid to make a fool of ourselves that we don’t even try. Or we make a halfhearted attempt – as if doing something half-hardheartedly with an ‘I-don’t-really-care-that-much’-attitude will make our failures less frequent and more bearable somehow.

Sometimes we’re so afraid to fail that we give up before we even start, because we fear we’ve got so much to lose. But the truth is – we’ve got so much to gain. It’s our willingness to fail that is a prerequisite for living life to the fullest. It’s our willingness to fail today that makes us thrive tomorrow. Here’s 5 ways to thrive tomorrow thanks to the mistakes you are willing to make today:

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1. Mistakes and failures are great sources of indispensable feedback.

They’re just things that went different than expected. They show us what didn’t work and invite us to come up with another strategy, idea or plan. They’re not a measure of our worth – even though that’s what we often make them out to be, feeling deflated, small and insecure. But the truth is – those mistakes and failures are not personal. They’re not the final truth about us. They’re just proof that we actually did something, that we took action, that we gave it a go. And we deserve a pat on the back for doing just that.

2. Mistakes and failures are opportunities to shine.

They’re an opportunity to show what we’re made of. They allow us to decide who we want to be – even when things are tough and we would rather curl up in a ball and hide from the world. They allow us to deliberately own our mistakes – instead of sweeping them under the carpet. They’re an opportunity to be an inspiring example of creativity and resourcefulness, of non-judgmental strength and open-mindedness. They’re an invitation to live with style, class and integrity.

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3. Mistakes and failures are the birthplace of fresh ideas.

They allow us to make our work better, our ideas stronger. They help us detect what part of our plan we need to work on; they help us figure out what support we need to ask for. They help us crystallize our intention and refine our ideas. Or they could be the spark for a new didn’t-see-this-coming change of plans altogether – one we could never have come up with when just brainstorming and thinking without the actual doing.

4. Mistakes and failures are invitations to reconnect with ourselves.

They’re an invitation to take a moment and take a look at what we set out to do and why we were doing it in the first place. They’re an invitation to distinguish our genuine wants and dreams from the shoulds and have tos. They’re an invitation to refocus on what we truly want to do and change direction when we find ourselves off track of who we truly are.

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5. Mistakes and failures are powerful confidence boosters.

They’re the living proof that we’ve got what it takes – after all, we’ve handled so many mistakes and failures in the past and we’re still here, despite the hurt, shame and discomfort that each mistake and failure brought along. They’re living proof that we’re so much more than we give ourselves credit for. We’ve handled our mistakes and failures before – and we can do so again. I love this quote from J.K. Rowling that sums it up so nicely:

It is impossible to live without failing at something,
unless you live so cautiously that you might has well not have lived at all,
in which case you have failed by default.

Actually, not being willing to fail or to make a mistake, that would be foolish, wouldn’t it?

Featured photo credit: thephotograpymuse via flickr.com

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Last Updated on March 31, 2020

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you wish you could procrastinate less? We all know how debilitating procrastination can make us feel, and it seems to be a challenge we all share. Procrastination is one of the biggest hindrances to moving forward and doing the things that we want to in life.

There are many reasons why you might be procrastinating, and sometimes, it is really difficult to pinpoint why. You might be procrastinating because of something related to the past, present, or future (they are all intertwined), or it could be as simple as biological factors. Whatever the reason, most of us follow a cycle when we procrastinate, from the moment we decide to do something to actually getting it done, or in this case, not getting it done.

The Vicious Procrastination Cycle

For some reason, it helps to understand that we all go through the same thing, even though we often feel like the only person in the world who struggles with this. Do you resonate with the cycle below?

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it!

2. Apprehension Starts to Come Up

The beginning stages of optimism are starting to fade. There is still time, but you haven’t done anything yet, and you start to feel uneasy. You realize that you actually have to do something to get it done, and that good intentions are not enough.

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3. Still No Action

More time has passed. You still haven’t taken any action and probably have a lot of excuses why. You start to panic a little and wish you had started sooner. Your panic starts to turn into frustration and perhaps even irritability.

4. Flicker of Hope Left

You can still make it; there is a little time left and you ponder how you are going to get it done. The rush you get from leaving your task until the last minute gives you a flicker of hope. There is still time; you can do this!

5. Fading Quickly

Your hope starts to quickly fade as you try desperately to understand why you just can’t do this. You may feel desperate and have thoughts like, “What is wrong with me?” and “Why do I ALWAYS do this?” You feel discouraged, or perhaps angry and resentful at yourself.

6. Vow to Yourself

Once the feeling of anger or disappointment disappears, you most likely swear to yourself that this will never happen again; that this was the last time and next time will be different.

Does this sound like you? Is the next time different? I understand the devastating effect that procrastination has on many lives, and for some, it is a really serious problem. You also have, on the other hand, those who procrastinate but it doesn’t affect them in any way. You know whether it is affecting you or not and whether it undermines your results.

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How to Break the Procrastination Cycle

Unless you break the cycle, you will keep reinforcing it!

To break the cycle, you need to change the sequence of events. Here is my suggestion on how you can effectively break the vicious cycle you are in!

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it! The first stage is always the same.

2. Plan

Thinking alone will not help; you need to plan your actions. I always put my deadlines one or two days in advance because you know Murphy’s Law! Take into consideration everything that you need to do, how long it will take you, and what you will need to get it done, then plan the individual steps.

3. Resistance

Just because you planned doesn’t mean that this time is guaranteed to be different. You will most likely still feel the resistance so expect this. This stage is key to identifying why you are procrastinating, so when you feel the resistance, try to identify it immediately.

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What is causing you to hesitate in this moment? What do you feel?  Write them down if it helps.

4. Confront Those Feelings

Once you have identified what could possibly be holding you back, for example, fear of failure, lack of motivation, etc. You need to work on lessening the resistance.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move forward? What would make it easier?” If you find that you fear something, overcoming that fear is not something that will happen overnight — keep this in mind.

5. Put Results Before Comfort

You need to keep moving forward and put results before comfort. Take action, even if it is only for 10 minutes. The key is to break the cycle and not reinforce it. You have more control that you think.

6. Repeat

Repeat steps 3-5 until you achieve what you first set out to do.

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Final Thoughts

Change doesn’t happen overnight, and if you have some deeper underlying reasons why you procrastinate, it may take longer to finally break the cycle.

If procrastination is holding you back in life, it is better to deal with it now than to deal with the negative consequences later on. It is not a question of comfort anymore; it is a question of results. What is more important to you?

Learn more about how to stop procrastinating here: What Is Procrastination and How to Stop It (The Complete Guide)

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