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35 Things They Should Have Done A Better Job At Teaching Us In School

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35 Things They Should Have Done A Better Job At Teaching Us In School

In school we learned, or at least we were taught the required curriculum. This was true for K-12 as well as college. But there are some things which everyone should know how to do that they didn’t focus on as much as they should. My list of 35 things they should have done a better job at teaching us in school consists of money, communication, attitude, philosophy, leadership, entrepreneurship, human relations, and every day things we all need to know.

1.  Never spend more than 70 percent of every dollar you make.

You have to have some kind of guide line/budget and 70 percent is a number that I have found works for people. Sure this number will change the older you get and the more money you make, but by sticking to this percent early in life will set you up for later in life.

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    2.  What to do with the other 30 percent.

    Take 10 percent and donate it. If you get in the habit of donating and giving back you will always do this and it gets you in the habit early in life. Then take the next 10 percent and save it. Take the last 10 percent and invest it. Invest it into something that generates a return.

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      3.  Stay out of debt.

      We all know this but we didn’t talk about it to the depth that we should while in school. Find a way every time to pay with cash, never borrow money.

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        4.  Become Genuinely Interested in other people.

        When you become genuinely interested in others it shows. The other person sees that you care about them and want to know more about them.

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          5.  Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

          Sure we all think that we do this. However, think about the last time you were in a disagreement with someone, maybe it was your spouse or a colleague at work. You were probably more focused on being right than trying to honestly see things from their point of view. When you try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view it shows that you care about them.

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            6.  Listen more than you talk.

            Think about the last conversation you had with someone, who talked a lot. When you let the other person talk more you develop a better relationship with them. Most people love to talk, let them do the talking and just listen, you never know what you will learn.

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              7.  Pay cash if you can.

              Rich people have enough to pay cash. If you can pay cash you can usually negotiate your terms and a better deal.

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                8.  Profits are better than wages.

                Being that I am motivated by money this would have made sense to me. Earning a wage, especially a high wage is great, but when you own something and you can earn a profit from it is better than wages. Whether it is your own company or you have equity in a company, profits are always better than wages.

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                  9.  Get into the habit of spending 30 minutes a day exercising.

                  Sure in school you have gym class. But as you get older you have to make this a priority in your life. Nothing can happen if you don’t have good health.

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                    10.  Find a mentor.

                    Talk to people that do what you would like to do and spend lots of time with them learning from them.

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                      11.  Read more books.

                      Never stop reading books. After you get out of school you can read the ones you want to read and not the one you have to read.

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                        12.  Soon, the people in your high school won’t matter.

                        They should tell you that the people you are in high school with will most likely not matter to you 5 years from the last day of high school. Lebron left Cleveland and won two championships.

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                          13.  Pick one area that you can become extraordinary in and never do anything else.

                          Decide early what you want to be great at. Then put all of your eggs in that basket to become the best in it.

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                            14.  Keep a journal.

                            Take notes of the lessons and the wins in your life in a journal and then look back on them for future guidance on how to have more wins and less lessons.

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                              15.  Do whatever you can to get exposed to sales at a young age.

                              The skills you learn as a sales person will prepare you for everything in life. All organizations need people who can sell, so you are always marketable and the skills you learn as a sales person will serve you well in almost any other position you attempt to work in as well.

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                                16.  Don’t ever try to impress others.

                                The only person that matters in life is you and your family. Be the best to yourself and to them. Don’t try to live up to what other people want you to be.

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                                  17.  Time is more valuable than money, you can earn more money, but you can’t earn more time.

                                  We all have 24 hours in a day, use your time wisely and be sure to invest your time into something worthwhile.

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                                    18.  Fail as quickly as you possibly can.

                                    Try as many things as possible early in your life, even if you fail. The more failures you have, the more opportunities you have to find out what you want to do and enjoy doing it.

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                                      19.  While making decisions think about the impact of that decision 1,2,3 or even 5 or 10 years into the future.

                                      All decisions have consequences and costs associated with them. The more you can think about how the decision affects your future, the better decisions you will make in the present.

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                                        20.  Develop your personal brand.

                                        Decide early on who and what you want to be and then live your life accordingly.

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                                          21.  Your network is one of your most valuable possesions.

                                          Meet lots of people and maintain those relationships, you never know when you may need those relationships.  

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                                            22.  Check the oil in your car.

                                            Unless you were born with a silver spoon, you will need to know how to ensure your car has enough oil so you can keep it running.

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                                              23.  Learn how to cook on the grill.

                                              Eventually you will want to have people over for a grill out, and then you won’t want to kill anyone with undercooked food.

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                                                24.  Learn how to changing a flat tire.

                                                Never get stuck with a flat tire. To change a tire is easy to learn and everyone eventually has a flat tire.

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                                                  25.  Don’t be a complainer, ever.

                                                  I have never been around anyone who likes to be around someone who likes to complain. If you want to be a person people want to be around, don’t complain.

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                                                    26.  Always do more than you get paid for.

                                                    Never do just what is asked of you, but always do more. This will allow you to be different because most people don’t do this. You will see the benefits in your career and in your income.

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                                                      27.  Ask for what you want.

                                                      Some people just never ask, so they never get anything. Getting into the habit of asking even when you know you won’t get what you are asking for, allows you to create the habit of asking which is the skill that is important.

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                                                        28.  Never post pictures online when you have been drinking.

                                                        This didn’t apply when I was growing up, but it does now more than ever. Put your smart phone away if you have been drinking, nothing good ever happens with your phone while drinking, unless you are calling for a ride.

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                                                          29.  Seek excellence in everything you do.

                                                          Sure we all learned that we should always do the best we can do. But excellence is different, excellence makes you better than average. Don’t be average.

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                                                            30.  Find out what your strengths are.

                                                            I remember teachers saying that I needed to focus on developing some of the areas I was weak in. Identify your strengths and passions as soon as you can and focus on them.

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                                                              31. Give credit to others.

                                                              Nobody likes someone who takes all the credit. Even when you have done something to be recognized for find a way to give credit to someone else who helped you get there.

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                                                                32.  Get to your point across.

                                                                Considering most people have a 9 second attention span, getting your point across in any interaction is critical. Don’t take too much time to make a simple point.

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                                                                  33.  Use people’s names.

                                                                  Use a person’s name whenever you can. At the restaurant, the bank, and anywhere else. This requires you to ask for their name and remember it. Remember that a persons name is the sweetest sound in any language to that person.

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                                                                    34.  Tip correctly.

                                                                    Yes, there are percentages in any business that you should adhere to. My advice is always tip for the service you received. If it was great service, tip more than normal, if it was average service tip an average percentage, and if the service is bad, ask for a manager. You are doing the business a favor by telling them.

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                                                                      35.  Know that fear is just an emotion.

                                                                      “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.” – Steve Jobs

                                                                      I think this quote sums it up on how you should approach your fear.

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                                                                        Now that we know these things we have to put our knowledge into action. How are you going to start applying these 35 things they should have done a better job at teaching us in school?

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                                                                        Are You Addicted to Productivity?

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                                                                        Are You Addicted to Productivity?

                                                                        “It’s great to be productive. It really is. But sometimes, we chase productivity so much that it makes us, well, unproductive. It’s easy to read a lot about how to be more productive, but don’t forget that you have to make that time up.”

                                                                        Matt Cutts wrote that back in 2013,[1]

                                                                        “Today, search for ‘productivity’ and Google will come back with about 663,000,000 results. If you decide to go down this rabbit hole, you’ll be bombarded by a seemingly endless amount of content. I’m talking about books, blogs, videos, apps, podcasts, scientific studies, and subreddits all dedicated to productivity.”

                                                                        Like so many other people, I’ve also fallen into this trap. For years I’ve been on the lookout for trends and hacks that will help me work faster and more efficiently — and also trends that help me help others to be faster. I’ve experimented with various strategies and tools . And, while some of these strategies and solutions have been extremely useful — without parsing out what you need quickly — it’s counterproductive.

                                                                        Sometimes you end up spending more time focusing on how to be productive instead of actually being productive.

                                                                        “The most productive people I know don’t read these books, they don’t watch these videos, they don’t try a new app every month,” James Bedell wrote in a Medium post.[2] “They are far too busy getting things done to read about Getting Things Done.”

                                                                        This is my mantra:

                                                                        I proudly say, “I am addicted to productivity — I want to be addicted to productivity — productivity is my life and my mission — and I also want to find the best way to lead others through productivity to their best selves.

                                                                        But most of the time productivity means putting your head down and working until the job’s done.” –John Rampton

                                                                        Addiction to Productivity is Real

                                                                        Dr. Sandra Chapman, director of the University of Texas at Dallas Center for BrainHealth points out that the brain can get addicted to productivity just as it can to more common sources of addiction, such as drugs, gambling, eating, and shopping.

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                                                                        “A person might crave the recognition their work gives them or the salary increases they get,” Chapman told the BBC.[3] “The problem is that just like all addictions, over time, a person needs more and more to be satisfied, and then it starts to work against you. Withdrawal symptoms include increased anxiety, depression, and fear.”

                                                                        Despite the harmful consequences, addiction is considered by some experts as a brain disease that affects the brain’s reward system and ends in compulsive behavior. Regardless, society tends to reward productivity — or at least to treat it positively. As a result, this makes the problem even worse.

                                                                        “It’s seen like a good thing: the more you work, the better,” adds Chapman. “Many people don’t realize the harm it causes until a divorce occurs and a family is broken apart, or the toll it takes on mental health.”

                                                                        Because of the occasional negative issues with productivity, it’s no surprise that it is considered a “mixed-blessing addiction.”

                                                                        “A workaholic might be earning a lot of money, just as an exercise addict is very fit,” explains Dr. Mark Griffiths, distinguished professor of behavioral addiction at Nottingham Trent University. “But the thing about any addiction is that in the long run, the detrimental effects outweigh any short-term benefits.”

                                                                        “There may be an initial period where the individual who is developing a work addiction is more productive than someone who isn’t addicted to work, but it will get to a point when they are no longer productive, and their health and relationships are affected,” Griffiths writes in Psychology Today.[4] “It could be after one year or more, but if the individual doesn’t do anything about it, they could end up having serious health consequences.”

                                                                        “For instance, I speculated that the consequences of work addiction may be reclassified as something else: If someone ends up dying of a work-related heart attack, it isn’t necessarily seen as having anything to do with an addiction per se – it might be attributed to something like burnout,” he adds.

                                                                        There Are Three “Distinct Extreme Productivity Types

                                                                        Cyril Peupion, a Sydney-based productivity expert, has observed extreme productivity among clients at both large and medium-sized companies. “Most people who come to me are high performers and very successful. But often, the word they use to describe their work style is ‘unsustainable,’ and they need help getting it back on track.”

                                                                        By changing their work habits, Peupion assists teams and individuals improve their performance and ensure that their efforts are aligned with the overarching strategy of the business, rather than focusing on work as a means to an end. He has distinguished three types of extreme productivity in his classification: efficiency obsessive, selfishly productive, and quantity-obsessed.

                                                                        Efficiency obsessive. “Their desks are super tidy and their pens are probably color-coded. They are the master of ‘inbox zero.’ But they have lost sight of the big picture, and don’t know the difference between efficiency and effectiveness.”

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                                                                        Selfishly productive. “They are so focused on their own world that if they are asked to do something outside of it, they aren’t interested. They do have the big picture in mind, but the picture is too much about them.”

                                                                        Quantity-obsessed. “They think; ‘The more emails I respond to, the more meetings I attend, the more tasks I do, the higher my performance.’ As a result, they face a real risk of burnout.”

                                                                        Peupion believes that “quantity obsessed” individuals are the most common type “because there is a pervasive belief that ‘more’ means ‘better’ at work.”

                                                                        The Warning Signs of Productivity Addiction

                                                                        Here are a few questions you should ask yourself if you think you may be succumbing to productivity addiction. After all, most of us aren’t aware of this until it’s too late.

                                                                        • Can you tell when you’re “wasting” time? If so, have you ever felt guilty about it?
                                                                        • Does technology play a big part in optimizing your time management?
                                                                        • Do you talk about how busy you are most of the time? In your opinion, is hustling better than doing less?
                                                                        • What is your relationship with your email inbox? Are you constantly checking it or experience phantom notifications?
                                                                        • When you only check one item off your list, do you feel guilty?
                                                                        • Does stress from work interfere with your sleep?
                                                                        • Have you been putting things off, like a vacation or side project, because you’re “too swamped?

                                                                        The first step toward turning around your productivity obsession is to recognize it. If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, then it’s time to make a plan to overcome your addiction to productivity.

                                                                        Overcoming Your Productivity Addiction

                                                                        Thankfully, there are ways to curb your productivity addiction. And, here are 9 such ways to achieve that goal.

                                                                        1. Set Limits

                                                                        Just because you’re hooked on productivity doesn’t mean you have to completely abstain from it. Instead, you need to establish boundaries.

                                                                        For example, there are a lot of amazing productivity podcasts out there. But, that doesn’t mean you have to listen to them all in the course of a day. Instead, you could listen to one or two podcasts, like The Productivity Podcast or Before Breakfast, during your commute. And, that would be your only time of the day to get your productivity fix.

                                                                        2. Create a Not-to-Do List

                                                                        Essentially, the idea of a not-to-do list is to eliminate the need to practice self-discipline. Getting rid of low-value tasks and bad habits will allow you to focus on what you really want to do as opposed to weighing the pros and cons or declining time requests. More importantly, this prevents you from feeling guilty about not crossing everything off an unrealistic to-do list.

                                                                        3. Be Vulnerable

                                                                        By this, I mean admitting where you could improve. For example, if you’re new to remote work and are struggling with thi s, you would only focus on topics in this area. Suggestions would be how to create a workspace at home, not getting distracted when the kids aren’t in school, or improving remote communication and collaboration with others.

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                                                                        4. Understand Why You Procrastinate

                                                                        Often, we procrastinate to minimize negative emotions like boredom or stress. Other times it could be because it’s a learned trait, underestimating how long it takes you to complete something or having a bias towards a task.

                                                                        Regardless of the exact reason, we end up doing busy work, scrolling social media, or just watching one more episode of our favorite TV series. And, even though we know that it’s not for the best, we do things that make us feel better than the work we should do to restore our mood.[5]

                                                                        There are a lot of ways to overcome procrastination. But, the first step is to be aware of it so that you can take action. For example, if you’re dreading a difficult task, don’t just watch Netflix. Instead, procrastinate more efficiently,y like returning a phone call or working on a client pitch.

                                                                        5. Don’t Be a Copycat

                                                                        Let’s keep this short and sweet. When you find a productivity app or technique that works for you, stick with it.

                                                                        That’s not to say that you can’t make adjustments along the way or try new tools or hacks. However, the main takeaway should be that just because someone swears by the Pomodoro Technique doesn’t mean it’s a good fit for you.

                                                                        6. Say Yes to Less

                                                                        Across the board, your philosophy should be less is more.

                                                                        That means only download the apps you actually use and want to keep (after you try them out) and uninstall the ones you don’t use. For example, are you currently reading a book on productivity? Don’t buy your next book until you’ve finished the one you’re currently reading (or permit yourself to toss a book that isn’t doing you any good). — and if you really want to finish a book more quickly, listen to the book on your way to work and back.

                                                                        Already have plans this weekend? Don’t commit to a birthday party. And, if you’re day is booked, decline that last-minute meeting request.

                                                                        7. Stop Focusing on What’s Next

                                                                        “In the age when purchasing a thing from overseas is just one click and talking to another person is one swipe right, acquiring new objects or experiences can be addictive like anything else,” writes Patrick Banks for Lifehack .

                                                                        “That doesn’t need to be you,” he adds. “You can stop your addition to ‘the next thing’ starting today.” After all, “there will always be this next thing if you don’t make a conscious decision to get your life back together and be the one in charge.”

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                                                                        • Think about your current lifestyle and the person you’re at this stage to help you identify what you aren’t satisfied with.
                                                                        • By setting clear goals for yourself in the future, you will be able to overcome your addiction.
                                                                        • Establish realistic goals.
                                                                        • To combat addiction, you must be aware of what is going on around you, as well as inside your head, at any given time.
                                                                        • Don’t spend time with people who have unhealthy behaviors.
                                                                        • Hold yourself accountable.
                                                                        • Keep a journal and write out what you want to overcome.
                                                                        • Appreciate no longer being addicted to what’s next.

                                                                        8. Simplify

                                                                        Each day, pick one priority task. That’s it. As long as you concentrate on one task at a time, you will be less likely to get distracted or overwhelmed by an endless list of tasks. A simple mantra to live by is: work smarter, not harder.

                                                                        The same is also accurate with productivity hacks and tools. Bullet journaling is a great example. Unfortunately, for many, a bullet journal is way more time-consuming and overwhelming than a traditional planner.

                                                                        9. Learn How to Relax

                                                                        “Sure, we need to produce sometimes, especially if we have to pay the bills, but, banning obsession with productivity is unhealthy,” writes Leo Babauta. “When you can’t get yourself to be productive, relax.” Don’t worry about being hyper-efficient. And, don’t beat yourself up about having fun.

                                                                        “But what if you can’t motivate yourself … ever?” he asks. “Sure, that can be a problem. But if you relax and enjoy yourself, you’ll be happier.”

                                                                        “And if you work when you get excited, on things you’re excited about, and create amazing things, that’s motivation,” Leo states. “Not forcing yourself to work when you don’t want to, on things you don’t want to work on — motivation is doing things you love when you get excited.”

                                                                        But, how exactly can you relax? Here are some tips from Leo;

                                                                        • Spend 5 minutes walking outside and breathe in the fresh air.
                                                                        • Give yourself more time to accomplish things. Less rushing means less stress.
                                                                        • If you can, get outside after work to enjoy nature.
                                                                        • Play like a child. Even better? Play with your kids. And, have fun at work — maybe give gamification a try .
                                                                        • Take the day off, rest, and do something non-work-related.
                                                                        • Allow yourself an hour of time off. Try not to be productive during that time. Just relax.
                                                                        • You should work with someone who is exciting. Make your project exciting.
                                                                        • Don’t work in the evenings. Seriously.
                                                                        • Visit a massage therapist.
                                                                        • Just breathe.

                                                                        “Step by step, learn to relax,” he suggests. “Learn that productivity isn’t everything.” For that statement, sorry Leo, I say productivity isn’t everything — it’s the only thing.” However, if you can’t cut loose, relax, do fun things, and do the living part of your life — you’ll crack in a big way — you really will.

                                                                        It’s great to create and push forward — just remember it doesn’t mean that every minute must be spent working or obsessing over productivity issues. Instead, invest your time in meaningful, high-impact work, get into it, focus, put in big time and then relax.

                                                                        Are You Addicted to Productivity? was originally published on Calendar by John Rampton.

                                                                        Featured photo credit: Christina @ wocintechchat.com via unsplash.com

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