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20 Productivity Hacks That You Probably Thought Would Always Work

20 Productivity Hacks That You Probably Thought Would Always Work

From its first appearance in the early days of Web 1.0, people have defined the term “lifehack” in different ways.

For some, a lifehack is an unknown technique brought to the attention of the public through the Internet. They are often smart, save time, create organization and increase happiness. For others, a lifehack is an unethical way of cheating the system. Discussions on Reddit burn over the right and wrong aspects of getting free food in hotels or evading parking fines.

Either way, Oxford Dictionary Online added the word in June of 2011. Before that, HackCollege appeared in 2006 and Lifehack.org itself appeared in 2005. The Internet brims with all kinds of lifehacks, some of which are poorly understood. Others create the opposite of the intended effect. Yet others can be downright destructive.

Let’s examine the darkside of lifehacks and explore the alternatives. And if you think I’m being picky, just read this post in the voice of George Carlin and smile a little at the cantankerous parts.

1. It Takes 21 Days To Form A Lifelong Habit.

Sounds like a sweet deal, right? Put in 21 days of writing, jogging, eating well and you’re set for life.

Not so fast, Sweetie-Pie.

The 21-day habit change myth has its origin in a book by Maxwell Maltz called Psycho-Cybernetics. It’s a self-help classic from 1960, but that doesn’t mean it’s loaded with truth.

In fact, the “cybernetics” part comes from the idea that the same programming used in guided missiles can change human behavior. By making the right choices, you can “close the loops” of various processes and “set and forget” things that you do. Kind of like how you learn to drive a car and can then daydream your way from home to work without having an accident. But Maltz applied this idea to habits almost as an afterthought. He first came up with the idea in the context of self-image following plastic surgery. As a plastic surgeon himself, he noted that people needed approximately 21 days to adjust to the name face they saw in the mirror.

Since then, the 21 Day Habit Formation idea has been a meme repeated countless times around the globe.

Real research by scientists like Phillippa Lally has shown that it actually takes between 66 and 90 days to form a habit. Even then, this is no guarantee that good habit will stick to you harder than a crack addiction. A lot depends on your age, the nature of the habit and your overall health during the process. Plus, it seems that it doesn’t need to be every single day. 80% of the time tends to do just as well as daily application.

So as a good rule of thumb, plan to spend 12 weeks on any new behavior you want to use to “hack” or improve your life.

2. Spaced-Repetition Software Will Help You Learn.

In truth, spaced-repetition based around flashcards can help. However, this approach doesn’t work equally well for everyone.

Worse, the rote learning at the core of spaced-repetition software can be a harmful waste of time.

Above all, there’s no guarantee that you’ll actually learn anything. Repeating something from memory, after all, doesn’t mean you’ve synthesized the information. And more than synthesize what you’ve memorized, you want to be able to use it to create new knowledge. For reasons we’ll talk about shortly, you’re much better off creating your own index cards by hand. And you should do this alongside listening to and reviewing recorded lectures and reading books that put the information in context.

3. You Can Learn A Language In 3 Months

There’s no doubt about it. You can make amazing strides in learning a new language in a short period of time, but this short time span comes from Benny Lewis, author of Fluent in 3 Months.

Huge respect to the guy, but if you read the book, you’ll find out that the title comes from the immigration policies of most countries. After three months, you’ve either got to leave or go through the process of getting a visa. Thus, Lewis worked at getting as fluent in the language of the land as possible in that short period of time before moving on.

You should definitely read this book and make use of its techniques. Just make sure you have a good idea of what “fluent” actually means. And just as “lifehack” has many meanings, the definition of “fluency” is not universally agreed upon.  Language learning enthusiasts use the word “fluency” in many ways.

Spend some time thinking about what fluency means to you and work towards that goal before you get started.

4. 10,000 Hours Of Practice Will Make You A Master

Like the 30 days to form a habit myth, the belief that you need 10,000 hours of practice to become a master artist, musician or athlete is dangerous.

The truth is that you can hack practice in many fields. This means learning about “dedicated practice.” It means breaking down large actions into component parts and then getting really good at them before tackling the whole. On guitar, for example, instead of trying to learn an entire Metallica song in one go, you learn just one part. Then, when you’ve gotten it down, you add another.

You also don’t practice a song by going back to the beginning and starting again every time you make a mistake. Rather, you stop and analyze that mistake and practice just that part until you smooth it out. Then you resume playing it in the context of the entire song. You can apply this principle to just about anything you’re trying to master, including language learning, and it won’t take 10,000 hours.

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That said, if you love what you’re doing, you’ll wind up spending at least that much time on the activity anyway. So dedicated practice is a cool way to get results quickly and find out if you really enjoy the effort (not the time) you’ll need to put into it.

5. Procrastination Is Bad

Feel good guru Eckhart Tolle says in the Power of Now that the worst thing about procrastination is that no one bothers to enjoy it.

Face it, people. Procrastination is going to happen. Plan and prepare for it.

Accept it. Make it your friend. The sooner you take that knife of guilt out of your heart, the better. Stop pushing procrastination away and you’ll find yourself making it less of a barrier in your life by default.

6. The Internet Is Addictive

As with many myths, there’s some truth to this one, but as with all the ways people give themselves a headache over procrastination, lifehacking your way out of spending so much time online may not be the solution.

For example, chimes that remind you to stand up can be ignored. Software that locks your computer for five minutes every hour can be disabled, and rest assured that you will ignore the chimes and will disable the software. It’s normal to cut phony fixes like these
out of your life.

Instead of these lifehacks, try making appointments that you can’t cancel. Pay for a course that would be a great loss if you didn’t go. Have a walking partner that you meet with every couple of days.

And as the famous saying goes, never eat alone.

7. Cramming Everything Into Evernote Is A Good Thing

Hey – there’s no doubt about it that Evernote is the king of its kind, but what are you losing?

It turns out, quite a lot.

Richard Wiseman presents research on the positive effects of handwriting in his book 59 Seconds: Think a Little, Change a Lot. You don’t need a whole whack of science to figure out why handwriting is such a good cognitive exercise. For one thing, it uses far more muscles. It also requires hand-eye coordination that typing for some of us doesn’t use in the same way.

It’s not just hand-eye coordination. It’s the wealth of fine motor control exercise needed to write legible letters. You also exercise memory to remember the sizes, slants characteristics of letters and punctuation. All this healthy body and brain fitness is lost on Evernote and similar technologies.

But does that mean you need to chuck your favorite apps into the trash?

No way, Jose.

It just means that you will benefit a great deal by incorporating handwriting into your daily life ,and it’s easy to do.

Send a postcard to a loved one or friend. Write in a journal. Dash out a poem.

You’ll be glad for it.

8. The Internet Is Shortening Your Attention Span

Have you notice how articles on the Internet are getting longer instead of shorter?

Guess why?

It’s because people actually read, that’s why. When they’re interested in a subject, they want information about it by the pound.

Sure, there is evidence to suggest that we don’t read the same on line as we do from books. That’s why so much online writing has involved to have 2-3 sentence paragraphs. Sometimes there’s just one sentence long. Like this one.

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Either way, online writing is evolving, and as it grows with the needs of readers in the 21st Century, keeping your attention on valuable content means length.

You just can’t learn enough to improve your life in a 500 word blog post, and if you do feel that your attention span is suffering, here’s what to do: Take active steps to increase your own attention span. The following exercise will extent your focus and improve your ability to learn.

It’s easy to do.

When I was in school, they called it U.S.S.R. Not, not that U.S.S.R. Uninterrupted Sustained Silent Reading.

Just open a book, either on paper or Kindle and read at least 10 pages every day.

If it’s a novel, really focus in on what characters look like and the settings. If it’s non-fiction, create questions in your mind as you read.If it’s a personal development book, think about how you’re going to apply the ideas in your own life.

You’ll amaze yourself by just how much you learn and how your focus and attention span improves in just 10 pages a day, and if that seems like a stretch to you, get started with just 5.

The point is to get started and keep going. Those two actions combined are perhaps one of the ultimate hacks you’ll ever use.

9. The Internet Is Free

At the core of so many life hacks lay the idea that the Internet is free. This is one of the most seductive myths on the planet, but the Internet isn’t free and neither are the devices you use to plug in.

So if you really want some hacks in the “Internet is free” department, get a job reviewing technology. Makes sure the publication supplies you with devices. These can range from smart phones to laptops. Also, if you work at home, you can usually deduct the costs of the hardware, software and online connections you can use.

Old school lifehacks, but lifehacks all the same.

10. The Big Brother Is Watching You Hack

You can find all kinds of hacks that will keep you out of the eyes of the NSA and other organziations that want to cramp your online lifestyle. Some of these are okay, others not so okay.

The reality is that the ulimate lifehack is not evading criminal behavior. Let’s look at this lifehack demystified. To hack it is simple. Just be doing things online that are worth the attention. You draw the public and private eye of the government because you’re creating helping people. Create more value than you’re taking and you won’t need to hide.

11. The Zig Ziglar Lifehack Demystified

On the matter of creating value for others, there is one word of caution.

Zig Ziglar famously said that if you help enough other people get what they want, you’ll get what you want.

But is this really true?

The reality is that you can bust your ass helping people who only want to take advantage of you, and if you’re doing it for free, they might not take the value you’re creating seriously.

Just as the Internet is not free, neither is the help you offer people without cost. No matter what you do, you will always spend either time, money or energy. Often all three.

The real lifehack in this area is to define how you can help people, but make sure that the value you give receives proper recognition. Also, take care of your health. You won’t be helping others for long if you’re burned out, broke and unhealthy.

12. Burning More Calories Than You Eat Will Help You Lose Weight

That would be awesome, wouldn’t it? Too bad it doesn’t work.

The real way to lose weight is to eat the right things at the right times and in the right amounts according to your body type and your fitness. In some cases, you may even want to eat more calories to increase the amount you can burn. When it comes to fitness and weightloss, there are some principles that are universal, but always need to be geared towards you.

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In other words, calibrating your diet, rather than generalizing it is the real lifehack you should use. Tim Ferriss’s The 4-Hour Body is a must-read book for more information about doing this.

13. Success comes in Sevens

We all know the titles of the books by heart. “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,” be Stephen Covey is just one of many to put a number to what works. However, the reality is that no one habit (or three, seven, nine or 2500) is going to get you real results unless you take action.

Action should not be a habit. It should be a devotion. The action you take should always involve things that give you energy. Because anything you do that takes energy away is worse than a bad habit.

Now that you know that the secret of success cannot isn’t contained by numbers, let’s move on to …

14. You Can Do Good Research Online

Have you ever heard the phrase, “according to research conducted online”? It should make you cringe. Why?

Because less than 15% of human knowledge exists online. Millions of books and journals never have and probably never will join the ranks of digitized reading and research material. This means that the only way to do effective research remains visiting a library and looking at books.

Not only will you find materials that cannot be found online to deepen your research and intelligence. You’ll also be able to practice the old school form of hyperlinking by looking at all the books surrounding the one you want. Instead of just pulling down one book, pull down ten. And as you skim through them, pay extra attention to the indexes at the back. Use these too find yet other books that probably aren’t online either.

In this way you’ll learn, grow and have a cutting edge over those who do their research only online.

15. Memorizing Shopping Lists Will Improve Your Memory

You’ve probably seen posts on the Internet about using Memory Palaces to memorize information.

Most of them tell you to practice using your shopping list. Like carrots and milk and stuff. Really?

The only meal you’re going to make out of that recipe is … boredom!

Here’s what to do instead:

Learn how to use a Memory Palace. Then think about something you could practice memorizing that will make a positive impact on your life. Even if it’s just the lyrics of a song that would make you happy to sing along with, work with that.

Once you’ve got it and understand the technique, you’ll see how this miraculous lifehack applies to memorizing anything. Then, and only then, will information never be dry, dull or boring again.

16. You Can Pick Up Chicks Wearing Funny Hats And Doing Card Tricks

Pick-up Artists and their lifehack culture is hilarious. You’ve probably come across one of their hyped-up sales pages selling programs that teach you how to get women.

Two of the major lessons you’ll learn from them involve learning card tricks and “peacocking.”

First of all, you’d better learn some damn good card tricks if you’re hoping to get a girl into bed. I mean, seriously. When was the last time you saw a girl turned on by finding a duplicate of the Queen of Hearts she picked in your pocket? You might as well recite your memorized shopping list to her.

“Peacocking” is the idea that if you wear a hat that stands out or some kind of crazy hairdo, you’ll stand out. It’s kind of like the idea that you can lifehack your way into mating season.

Here’s what to do instead:

Learn how to spot whether a girl is attracted to you in the first place. It’s not that hard to do.

There’s a bit of controversy around what I’m about to tell you, but decent science demonstrates that hidden sex signals exist. Like when a woman sweeps the floor with her eyes after looking at you. Or shows you the open palm of her hand after sweeping back her hair.

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If she doesn’t like you, she might look up and to the left or right. Or she may put her hand against her chin with the knuckles out to symbolically bar you.

You don’t have to take my word for it. Go out and watch the world and see for yourself. When you can interpret the signals right, you won’t have to do card tricks or wear a funny hat. “Hello” will do.

17. Positive Thinking Will Solve All Your Problems

Personally, I’m a huge fan of positive thinking. It has literally changed my life. However, like so many cures sold at the pharmacy, happy thoughts can also be poisonous.

The truth is that grief, sadness and critical thinking about the realities of life are all healthy. You can put yourself in real danger if you try to slather these over with the icing of positive affirmations and happy slogans. The real lifehack is to embrace unhappiness and sorrow when it arrives. Invite it in and hold it close to your heart.

Call it Emotional Martial Arts. In most versions that’s exactly how you weaken your enemy: by bringing him closer to you, not pushing him away. By the same token, you can work on not getting too involved. Kind of like how a mother comforts a crying child without entering the problem itself.

Don’t get your ego involved. As Bruce Lee once said, “No self, no enemy.” Above all, realize that one day, you’re going to die. Most problems are temporary and don’t really matter. Look them realistically in the eye, solve them and move on. That’s a lifehack that will rarely fail and you can smile to your heart’s content as you dance in victory.

18. You Can Be Original

Have you ever thought about what “original” means? Don’t worry. There isn’t a quiz at the end of this post.

But here’s a concept that can improve your life: Original means “of origin.”

That means that one of the most original things you can do is to go back to what already exists. Study it. See how you can improve it. Make it your own, and never, ever let “originality” get in your way.

It’s not that there’s nothing new under the sun. It’s that until you’ve seriously studied everything that does exist in your interest area, you have almost no chance of being unique.

19. Visualization Will Help You Achieve Your Goals

As always, there is some truth to this, but the fact of the matter is that most people get it wrong.

Like people who want to build muscle. They picture a version of themselves buff and ripped and already at the end of the journey. What’s the problem with this?

Easy. They’re setting the goal too high.

Here’s what you should visualize instead:

Getting down on the floor and doing one push-up. Just one. And then do it.

In fact, try to do just one pushup – I bet you’ll fail and wind up doing more than you expected. The next day, visualize yourself doing five. And try to do just five.

The point is that visualization can help you, but what you see in our mind has to be realistic. It should be a stepping stone toward what you want to achieve. Not a leap to the top of the Empire State Building.

20. Lifehacks Make Your Life Easier

This is the most pervasive lifehack of all. Why?

Because you don’t want life to be easier. You want it to be more interesting. More productive. Geared toward getting better results. But easier?

Never forget that “ease” makes up over half of the word “disease.” Instead, go for the lifehack of constant challenge. Look for hacks that make you work smarter instead of easier.

Choose lifehacks that take all your hard work and streamline them into superior outcomes. Then write this line from the playwright Howard Barker on to your soul: “Because it was hard, we were honored.”

And come back and re-read this post from time to time. It will keep you in good stead when the fluff gets too much and you need to have some of those many syrupy lifehacks demystified.

Featured photo credit: Factory workers on the job via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on December 2, 2019

How to Develop Mental Toughness And Stay Strong

How to Develop Mental Toughness And Stay Strong

Are you the kind of person who wants to achieve massive success in your life? Do you have the mental toughness to make that happen?

I think we can all agree that no matter your ambitions, achieving success can be difficult; and over time, the daily grind can take a toll on your physical, mental, and emotional energy.

Achievers and high performers from all walks of life face ups and downs along the path to success—they face failure, burnout, discouragement, fatigue, self-limiting beliefs, stress, and so much more.

How do some people continually strive towards their personal goals year after year while others give up on them? How do those people stay strong and persevere when there is so much stacked against them?

Studies now show that mental strength is a critical key to success. If you haven’t read Angela Duckworth’s book Grit, you should. In it, she shows that “the secret to outstanding achievement is not talent but a special blend of passion and persistence she calls ‘grit.’” In other words, mental toughness plays a significant role when it comes to achieving goals.

Sometimes, our goals wear us down and leave us feeling exhausted. Other times, our goals get difficult, and success seems impossible, so we lose hope, become discouraged, and want to quit.

At its core, mental toughness is simply the ability to stick to something when the going gets tough. People with high levels of mental toughness can push beyond these obstacles and forge a path towards success while those with lower levels of mental toughness may abandon their dreams.

Want to know the good news?

No matter who you are, what you’ve been told, or what you currently believe, you can develop the mental toughness you need to be successful.

All you need to do is learn to develop a positive mindset, focus on your why, and utilize the people around you for support.

1. Develop a Positive Mindset

If you’re going to increase your mental toughness, the first thing you have to do is focus on building a strong, positive mindset.

According to the Cleveland Clinic, the average person has 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 95% of those thoughts repeat each day and, on average, 80% of repeated ideas are negative.[1]

That’s roughly 45,600 negative thoughts per day!

Carrying around these negative thoughts is like going on a hike in the mountains with a backpack full of rocks. The hike is hard enough on its own, but having extra junk weighing you down is a recipe for failure.

Sometimes, building mental toughness isn’t as much about building new strength as it is about saving your strength for the right tasks. Wouldn’t it be easier to dump the rocks out of the backpack instead of trying to get strong enough to carry the extra weight?

Absolutely!

But how can we learn to spot those 45,600 negative thoughts and get rid of them? How can we empty our metaphorical backpack?

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Well, it gets a whole lot easier if you know what you’re looking for. Some of the most prominent types of negative thoughts are self-limiting beliefs, all-or-nothing thinking, and dwelling.

Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs

It’s pretty hard to be mentally tough when you’re constantly beating yourself up. Self-limiting beliefs are any beliefs that hold you back in some way. Here are some examples:

“I’m not smart enough to…”

“I don’t have enough experience to…”

“I’ve tried that before, and it didn’t go well, so I must just be bad at…”

When we allow these self-limiting beliefs to flood our minds, negative self-talk runs rampant, and we crowd out our ability to think positively. We’re effectively working against ourselves.

If you want to keep your mind strong on your path to success, you have to overcome the self-limiting beliefs that are holding you back by realizing one key truth: self-limiting beliefs are thoughts, not facts.

When you recognize a self-limiting belief cropping up in your mind, quickly silence it by telling yourself that it’s not true and then back that up with some positive affirmations:

  • “I am smart enough; I may just need to do some more research first.”
  • “I may not have as much experience as someone else, but that’s not going to stop me from trying. I have enough experience to get started. I’ll figure the rest out on the way.”
  • “Just because I failed at this last time doesn’t mean I’m going to fail this time. My past does not dictate my future.”

Get Rid of the All-or-Nothing Thinking

Another form of negative thinking that could be preventing you from building mental toughness is all-or-nothing thinking.

All-or-nothing thinking is the concept of thinking in extremes. You are either a success or a failure. Your performance was totally good or totally awful. If you’re not perfect, then you’re a failure.

But this isn’t true!

If you’re trying to lose 30 pounds and only lost 28, isn’t that still better than not losing any weight at all? I’d say so!

If you allow all-or-nothing thinking to rule your mind, you’ll be on cloud nine when you succeed, but you’ll beat yourself up when you “fail.” Acknowledging the shades of gray in between will allow you to see success more often and it will help you celebrate your smaller wins.

When you recognize an all-or-nothing thought, remember to look for the positive in the situation. What did you gain by trying? What would you have missed out on had you not tried? Could you do better if you were to try again?

Ditch the Dwelling

Self-Limiting Beliefs and All-or-Nothing Thinking can lead to a bad case of dwelling on the negative. If you want to build some mental toughness and keep your mind strong, you have to ditch the dwelling.

Every day, bad things happen to each of us, and while there’s nothing we can do to prevent that, we can control how we react to these situations.

When we dwell on our misfortunes, we waste massive amounts of energy that we could be using to achieve our goals. When this happens, we’re more likely to quit altogether.

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But that doesn’t mean you’re not mentally tough; it just means you’re misusing your energy.

The next time something bad happens, it’s important to allow yourself to feel the disappointment and frustration, but work on reducing the amount of time you dwell on the situation.

Easier said than done, right? Try these:

  1. Call a friend or mentor and talk it through with them. Get some outside perspective on your situation.
  2. Time block your dwelling by allowing yourself to dwell for no more than one hour.
  3. Then, tell yourself to move on, that you’re human, and you’re allowed to make mistakes or experience setbacks.
  4. If all else fails, find a good way to distract yourself until you can calm down and reexamine things with a clear mind.

The faster you can focus on the positives and move past the problem, the quicker you can get back to achieving success in your life.

Be Patient about the Process

No matter which negative thoughts tend to run around your mind, working to replace them with positive thoughts can take time.

Learning to spot self-limiting beliefs, all-or-nothing thinking, or dwelling is one thing, but learning to quiet those thoughts is another thing entirely.

If at first you don’t succeed, don’t fret. Instead, take a deep breath and try again. As you work towards improving your mindfulness and your mental toughness, remember that you’re going to get better with time.

To make things a little easier, it helps to connect with your purpose.

2. Connect with Your Purpose

One of the most critical elements to building mental toughness and keeping a strong and focused mind is having a strong ‘why’ for everything you want to do.

If you set out to achieve a huge goal that you don’t have a ‘why’ for, you’re going to find yourself distracted, discouraged, or disengaged as soon as you experience your first setback.

Think about the last time you were working on a goal or resolution and things weren’t going well, maybe you even wanted to quit. Perhaps you thought you didn’t have enough willpower. Maybe you told yourself that you didn’t have enough discipline.

Here’s the truth: you just didn’t have a strong enough why.

Simon Sinek has been spreading his message “Start with Why” across the globe.[2] In short, he says that:

“Your ‘why’ is the purpose, cause or belief that inspires you.”

One of the biggest drains on your mental energy is pursuing a goal or a task that you don’t have a ‘why’ for. This is when we tend to look for external motivation or question our willpower, but those aren’t the issues.

Often, we set goals because we like the idea of the goal, not the reality of the goal. Without connecting to our why, we can’t intrinsically motivate ourselves to achieve our most challenging goals.

Find Intrinsic Motivation

Intrinsic motivation is our innate desire to do something and it comes when we work towards something that satisfies ourselves above all else—not our parents or our bosses or our teachers.

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Let’s say you think you want to quit smoking because you know it’s bad for you, but you really enjoy smoking. If you don’t truly want to quit smoking, it’s going to be nearly impossible, regardless of your willpower or mental toughness.

But if you want to quit smoking because you just had a baby, and you don’t want your baby growing up around smoke, then that ‘why’ is going to give you intrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation is far more powerful than sheer stubborn willpower, and it’s far easier to maintain over the long haul.

If you’re trying to develop mental toughness, connecting a why to everything you want to achieve will reduce the effort and energy it will take to achieve those things. Once you’ve found a strong why for all of your goals, you’ll find that you’ll have significantly more energy to pursue your more difficult challenges.

3. Find Strength in Unity

The final aspect of developing mental toughness is embracing the idea that you’re not in this alone. It’s a fact, anyone who’s ever achieved success in anything didn’t do so alone.

Bill Gates didn’t build Microsoft alone. Oprah didn’t build her network by herself. Steve Jobs didn’t invent the iPhone without a team. Michelle Obama didn’t implement the “Let’s Move” campaign on her own.

Behind all of these successful people were countless other people who were there offering support, mentorship, guidance, and encouragement.

If you want to develop unmatched mental toughness, you need to understand that you don’t have to go it alone. Even the toughest Navy Seals have a team backing them up.

If you want to stay strong in your endeavors, you need to build a team of supporters who will step in and back you up when it counts.

Find a Mentor or Committee of Mentors

The benefits of having a great mentor are far too many to list, but to boil it down to the basics, a mentor is someone who will help show you the path to success.

A good mentor will help you discover your greatest strengths, spot and overcome your blind spots, and work through your weaknesses.

If you’re struggling to deal with your internal negativity or with finding your purpose, talk it through with a mentor. Sometimes we lose the forest for the trees, and a mentor can help us take a step back and see the bigger picture.

Here’s how to find the right mentor for yourself: How to Find a Mentor That Will Help You Succeed

Recruit Some Cheerleaders

If you want to stay strong, it never hurts to have a group of personal cheerleaders. Unlike mentors who are going to jump in and help you address your problems, a group of cheerleaders will help keep your spirits up.

Even if you have a strong ‘why’ and a positive mindset, it’s nearly impossible to maintain a positive attitude 100% of the time. It doesn’t make you weak to need some help from time to time. Having a group of people cheering you on will make all the difference in the world.

As you work towards your goals, tell a few close friends about what you’re doing, and when things get tough, tell them about it. And when they give you the pep talk you need, don’t resist their positivity or counter it with your self-limiting beliefs or your all-or-nothing attitude.

Allow their optimism to refill your energy and use that energy to press on.

Form an Accountability Group

Cheerleaders are great, but sometimes we need someone to give us the kick we need to keep going. You might have a strong ‘why’ for running a marathon or losing 30 pounds, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy; and trying to force yourself to follow through is a sure way to tax your mental energy.

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Why not save some of your mental energy by forming an accountability group?

Find a person or a few people who have similar goals, or at the very least, the need for an accountability partner. Then, form an agreement within the group to push each other every day.

Even if your goals aren’t the same, accountability partners are great for giving us the push we need when we need it most.

Regardless of which relationships you choose, sometimes we have to be able to work through things on our own. Mentors, cheerleaders, and accountability partners are a great way for us to combat our naturally negative mindsets, but occasionally we have to be able to pick ourselves back up.

4. Learn to Pick Yourself Back Up After Setbacks

Building a strong mindset and developing mental toughness isn’t easy! Anyone who’s ever achieved massive success knows that obstacles, setbacks, and failure are inevitable, and you’re no different.

As you work on your goals, you’re going to face many ups and downs, but this doesn’t mean that you don’t have mental toughness, willpower, or discipline.

We all struggle. We all fail. It’s what we decide to do after we fail that truly counts.

When you find yourself in a low spot, ask yourself these questions:

  • “Am I being too hard on myself?”
  • “Are negative thoughts such as Self-Limiting Beliefs or All-or-Nothing Thinking distorting my view?”
  • “What’s the positive side of this setback/obstacle/failure?”
  • “Why was this goal important to me? What was my purpose?”
  • “Is this goal still important to me? Do I still have a ‘why’?”
  • “Who can I ask for help? Who can mentor me or cheer me on? Who can help hold me accountable?”

Asking yourself these questions is a great way to check in on your mindset. When we get lost in negative thinking or lose connection to our purpose, it’s far too easy to become discouraged. When we feel discouraged, we start feeling weak, maybe even a little hopeless.

Also, this article provides some useful tips to help you get back on track: How to Deal with Failure and Pick Yourself Back Up

Tying it All Together

Are you still with me? I know I’ve thrown a lot at you, from developing a positive mindset and combatting your internal voice to connecting with purpose and building a committee of mentors. It’s a lot to take it!

But here’s the bottom line:

A crucial part of developing mental toughness is learning to recognize these tendencies and taking action to correct them early on. Developing mental toughness is not about eliminating weakness, but learning how to deal with it and overcome it.

No one is perfect, but when we focus on the right things, we can develop a mental toughness worthy of life’s biggest challenges.

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