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15 Reasons Why You Are Still Nowhere Near Success

15 Reasons Why You Are Still Nowhere Near Success

There are a plethora of materials available that teach you how to be successful. They delve into depth on the ins-and-out and the “formula” of success. If you have never heard of the word, “success”, a quick search on the internet and a mere half-and-hour will enlighten you.

However, having a thorough understanding of what it takes to be successful does not lay a solid foundation for your ambitions. Knowing how to do something does not necessarily imply you know how to not do something. Understanding the light inevitably makes you understand the darkness. The darkness being why you lag behind success.

1. You believe you are entitled

Sadly, a plethora of people truly believe they deserve to have what they desire handed to them. Unfortunately, for many, this is not the case. Nothing in life is ever given, it is earned.  The most successful people, in whatever lens you want to view it, worked to have what they got.  The people who have inherent riches and companies must also learn the ropes of their role – quite often, they’re taught from a young age; hence, they still worked for what they had even though they’re an heir.  Letting go of this sense of “entitlement” is the first step to real success.

2. You put it all on social media

With the advent of social media, many believe it is the key to their visions. Social media does not equal riches, fame or a pleasurable lifestyle. Social media is neither free (but that’s beyond the scope of the article) because you need to spend many hours to make an impact in the highly saturated market and doesn’t guarantee income for your business. It is a tool to be utilized, not the key to your success.

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3. You are riddled with fear

Quite clearly, this is a major cause and one that is often denied by so many people.  The fear of failure and being unable to reach their goal is enough to stop them in their tracks. People tend to consider all things that could go wrong with their vision. While it is important to understand what could, and might, go wrong – never delve on it.  Instead, focus on the things that could go right and allow that to drive you.

4. You lack belief

How much do you believe? This is the killer question that determines you’re on the right path or not. Not a single soul is going to believe in your ambition if you do not believe yourself. Who would want to risk in your failure, mistakes and all the undesirables that will probably occur on your journey if you don’t care enough. Believe and others will also believe in you.

5. You think about death

Any one of us could die any day. You could die after reading this article, and hey, I could die before finishing it. Tomorrow could be your last or a decade from now – no one knows However, If you live with this carcinogenic thought, you will never get anywhere. Do not allow the fear of death to prevent you to strive for what you desire.  Death can come anytime – use it as a motivator to make everyday count towards achieving your goal.

6. You believe you will lose everything

Quite legitimately, you may have already succeed at another ambition in your life. You’re living quite comfortably but another idea has come in mind. What’s stopping you? Your previous success might be your hindrance.  This new ambition of yours seems like it could quite possibly destroy everything you’ve built – causing you to lag behind success. This is a legitimate fear. You truly need to decide if your new vision is worth risking everything you have – some things just aren’t worth losing.

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7. You think you have reached your limit

Many of us believe we have hit our limit. That we can’t progress any further in what we already have. But there isn’t a limit to what a human being can achieve, to what you can achieve. The stars are not the limit and you haven’t hit your limit because there is no limit.

8. You have lack of clarity

Looking into the future with a cloudy lens is a contributor to why you’re lagging behind success.  Though you have a vision, it can be difficult to realize if what you’re doing is “the right thing.”  Understand whether you are on the path that is most fulfilling is a difficult one to determine but you have to sit down with yourself and achieve clarity with your goals and what it is you’re trying to accomplish.

9. You think you are not educated

I often hear people to tell that are not educated enough to succeed in their ambition. They believe they lag behind because they do not know enough. The most ambitious people do not necessarily have university degrees under their belt nor a network of academics to lend them a hand. Education is self-taught, at its best, not spoon-fed or ordained.

10. You believe you are in “awful” health

How often have you blamed ill health for your lack of vision? Perhaps you think you have a learning, speaking, visual or audial deficiency. Maybe you contract too many colds to work in the environment you’d like to work in. Truly speaking, ill health is never a good reason to stop your ambition. That is, of-course, you’re on your death bed though heaven forbid. Health can definitely lag the process of success, yet it is not a reason to completely stop as your “reason” for not pursuing your vision. Use common sense when determining how serious your health illness is before concluding you cannot achieve your ambition.

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11. You are not the right age

Age is not a factor in determining what you can and cannot do. A person cannot be too old or too young to achieve what they desire. The factor that is stopping you is your thought process. Quite frankly, you can take advantage of your age to shock and gather the attention of others. For example, a young public speaker or an elderly body builder will promptly gather the attention of many with little effort. Age should not be a reason for your failure.

12. You are too cautious

It’s important to be careful and not flamboyant, yet that can become obsessive. Being too careful is just as dangerous as being careless. There is no need to be highly calculating and analytic when, quite often, a little risk is all that’s needed. Nothing in life is ever too certain. Spending all your time being cautious will hinder your growth – and your success.

13. You don’t have a good support group

Having the wrong people around you can hinder you from realizing your vision. They can give up, stop trying, become distracted, put you down and more. Negative friends and supportive family members can destroy everything you’ve worked for and believed in from the very beginning. Surrounding yourself with supportive and positive people, including the people you choose to work with, will boost your confidence and in turn, boost your success.

14. You have an enormous ego

Being filled within yourself is detrimental to growth. By believing and thinking you are the end-all and be-all of everything will kill any possibility of your vision coming through.  You are not as good as you think you are, especially if people do not believe in you. It is important to be proud of what you do, but do not allow that pride to consume your very being and what those around you think of you.

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15. You haven’t done your research

Many people begin their journey for success by guesswork. This may seem hard to believe, but think about how many times you’ve done serious research into your sector whether its starting a business or learning an instrument.  Without having an idea of what you’re getting into and where you’re going to spend your money on, it’s far less likely you know what’s to come. A hunch is not going to cut the bar in knowing what is required in your sector. Research prevails when achieving your ambition.

The 15 reasons, by far, are not the only reasons why many people lag behind success. I’ve selected reasons from many different facets of the journey to success, not just necessarily focusing on the typical wealth, fame & power mantra many have. Success varies on your lens. Take these 15 reasons on board in your everyday life. Print it out, copy it down, do what you need to do to keep this handy when you wonder why things may not be going well. I wish the very best in your vision.

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There Is More to Life Than  ____________

There Is More to Life Than  ____________

I decided to leave the title of this article open ended, because I’d like you to fill in what words best fit that blank. We’re all unique individuals from different walks of life, and in different stages of life; so, that sentence will have a different meaning for each of us.

If you’re a busy working professional, why are you working in the job that you have now?

Is it because it’s something you’re passionate about and brings you a lot of satisfaction? Or, is it because you studied that in college and just found a job that hired you for those skills? Perhaps it’s because of the money that you’re earning, or know you can earn down the line?

What if you’re about to retire? You’ve got, say, 2 to 3 more years before you hit your ‘deadline’ for retiring. Have you done all that you’ve wanted to do in the past 30-40 years? Any unfulfilled goals or dreams? Are you happy with the outcome of your life to date, all the decisions and/or risks that you’ve made thus far?

I’m sure many of us started working after college in hopes of earning a good living–to be financially stable and able to afford the ability to experience and do things that we love. We start establishing a career, and with time, tick off boxes on our bucket or ambition list. As you look back on the last couple of years, just how much of your time has been spent doing things that you enjoy and love–the things that give you a great sense of fulfillment and meaning?

Have you become a slave to the economy, a slave to your work, or a slave to your kids? Or have you found a balance between work and pleasure?

When is Enough Ever Enough?

Sadly, many of us live to work.

Realists would argue that if you truly want to work to live, you still need the finances to back that up. No money no talk. That is how the world runs today. So if you don’t earn or make enough dough, it’s hard to truly enjoy life; it’s hard to be happy without money.

So, in this quest to provide just that, many of us end up spending our whole lives pursuing wealth and a life of status and material wants. But, is it ever enough? Is there such a thing as having too much money? And, at what expense?

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Many wealthy entrepreneurs, millionaires and even billionaires have come to agree that money doesn’t bring you all the happiness in the world. It’s good to have, but it doesn’t truly satisfy all desires. There comes a point where you would have ‘had it all’ and still feel a sense of emptiness: an empty void that needs to be filled, not with money or material possessions.

So the question is then, what more is there to life if not for financial stability, status or material possessions?

How do we make work a part of life instead of having it consume our life entirely? Perhaps we need to go back to look at the word life itself.

What is Your Purpose in Life?

What is the nature of life? What does life mean to you? Is there a purpose?

If we seek jobs, all we will find are jobs. But if we have a sense of purpose in how we are productive; if we seek a calling, then we will find more than a job. We will find our contribution to humanity and we will find more to life. Would you agree?

Research has shown that having purpose and meaning in life increases overall well-being and life satisfaction, improves mental and physical health, enhances resiliency, enhances self-esteem, and decreases the chances of depression. So it should be noted that to be happy in life isn’t always enough, because happiness is a surge of emotions that does not last. Instead, it’s more important to find and have meaning in life.

Meaning is not only about transcending the self, but also about transcending the present moment. While happiness is an emotion felt in the here and now, it ultimately fades away, just as all emotions do; positive affect and feelings of pleasure are fleeting. The amount of time people report feeling good or bad correlates with happiness, but not at all with meaning.

Have You Been Going on a Wild Goose Chase?

Ironically, the single-minded pursuit of happiness is leaving people less happy. “It is the very pursuit of happiness, that thwarts happiness”, according to Viktor Frankl, a famous Austrian Neurologist and Holocaust survivor. Going back to the common example of pursuing riches in order to be happy is exactly what makes many so unhappy.

So again, look at the statement “There is more to life than ______.”

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Have you answered it meaningfully? If you’ve read on this far, and are now wondering how to take that first step to figuring out what your true purpose is in life, fret not; I’m here to help you reframe your mind and actions, so that you can embark on a journey of finding true meaning to your life.

Everything that you can do and accomplish in life are bounded by 7 Cornerstone Skills. These are the true essentials needed to achieve excellence. They’ll put you on a path that gives great meaning and satisfaction in life. And, the best thing of all? They already exist in each of us. We just don’t always make the most of it, or sometimes we aren’t even aware of the power that each of these skills have to help us in life.

On it’s own, each skill is unique and can help you through different stages of life, or problems. But as a whole set, these 7 Cornerstone Skills will give you full transformation over any situation. No matter what phase of life you’re in, what you’re striving to achieve, or what feel you’re lacking, your pursuit of meaning in life will be much faster when you’re able to make use of not one, not two, but all 7 Cornerstone Skills.

The 7 Cornerstone Skills

So let me give you a glimpse into what these 7 Cornerstone skills are.

Creativity

Creativity empowers you to find unique solutions to problems, and see things in ways that you least expect.

It goes beyond the artistic impressions and aesthetics, and is a crucial building block of change.

Learning

Without Learning, you will not be able to advance and progress in life. Yet, there are many of us who always fall behind not because they don’t have the intellectual ability, but because they don’t know how to learn effectively.

Memory

And then we have Memory, one of the most vital components, because without that you have nothing to fall back on, nothing to gain from all the learning or experiences that you’re exposed to on this earth.

And with an ever increasing amount of information available, how can you store up as much knowledge as you can without overloading?

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Focus

And with any and everything that you do, a certain amount of Focus is always given.

Whether it’s the career ladder that you’ve been climbing, or the responsibility of being a parent, Focus is a flow that allows you to push towards the progress that you’re striving for.

Without focus, we find ourselves lost, demotivated and stuck in a rut.

Motivation

Many of us aren’t happy in life or with our jobs and responsibilities because we lack Motivation, and an overarching purpose as I already mentioned earlier. Motivation helps drive you forward, and gives you the focus achieve your purpose.

Habits

If you realize, every new day that comes is filled with routines. Whether it’s getting ready for work in the morning, putting your kids to bed in the evening, or setting aside time during the weekends for family time and activities, it all happens as a result of habits that you’ve built over time.

Therefore Habits dictate a big part of your life. Pursuing happiness, money or meaning all have a dependency on your habits. If you find yourself being controlled by bad or negative habits, it’s more likely to hinder you from being productive and reaching those goals.

Time

This also ends up leading to bad use of Time, or poor time management.

You might feel like you haven’t built a stable career yet because you lack proper time management. You find yourself spending a lot of time being busy, yet producing little outcomes.

Or certain habits might be consuming time that you can be using for other more productive tasks.

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Perhaps you’re on your way to retirement, and feel like it’s too late to find new meaning to your life. There’s not much time left to embark on a new journey again.

Are You Ready to Live Your Best Life?

The simple fact is, that if you can sharpen these 7 Cornerstone skills, you will realize that finding meaning in life, or reaching the goals and ambitions that you’ve set out for yourself, no matter what stage of life you’re in, is very attainable.

There is no magical method to having life figured out. The skills have always been there since day 1, you just need to know how to use it to the best of your advantage.

And I’m here to show you just how you can do that. Lifehack is all about equipping you with the best and most effective ways to increase your productivity, motivation and focus to achieve true Purpose in life, in as little time as possible.

Embark on a transformational journey with us as we show you how to learn and improve your 7 Cornerstone Skills so that you’ll come out a new person, ready to either pursue your existing goals at a much quicker rate, or to find new goals to pursue without being limited by time, age or responsibilities.

If you’ve been wanting a change, or been stuck in a rut for a while now, here is your chance to get started on pushing towards progress again.

Anyone can transform, anyone can change. Are you ready to live your best life? Click here to start your journey!

 

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