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15 Common Flaws Of People Which Make Them Unsuccessful

15 Common Flaws Of People Which Make Them Unsuccessful

In a world of unlimited opportunities we find fewer people taking advantage of what surrounds them to become successful. It is not as if there is a manuscript written for the “success role.” Rather there could be some limitations or common flaws that are hindering the unsuccessful from becoming what they can be.

1. They procrastinate

Unsuccessful people put off projects and tasks until they are ready or all factors seem perfect for them to act on a task. Importantly, to be successful means not waiting but taking charge of a task or a situation as quick as possible. Successful people don’t wait, they act immediately.

2. They are not resolute

Unsuccessful people give up when faced with challenges or obstacles. Fighting to the finish line seems so daunting and they rather settle for a secure or comfortable position. However to attain success you have to be willing to face obstacles and conquer them.

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3. They think and talk negatively

Have you heard the saying that the optimist sees the doughnut but the pessimist sees the hole? Unsuccessful people see problems in every opportunity. They rather make excuses than look for reasons to keep on marching towards a goal. It takes positivity to be successful.

4. They daydream a lot

How much the unsuccessful adore the successful. Yet they are not willing to put the work by taking action. They rather dream all day than create an actionable way to attain their dreams. To reach success one has to be willing to put in the work as well.

5. They don’t admit to their flaws

Unsuccessful people think they have it perfectly laid out. They don’t want to listen to other people’s opinion or learn from their mistakes.

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According to Zig Ziglar, “More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them”.

6. They have poor relationships with people

Unsuccessful people do not realize that to surge ahead requires developing and building on relationships. Being able to develop rapport with others is a skill the successful have developed and unsuccessful people should also do.

7. They do not take care of themselves

As much as your desire to be successful, there should be a time you give your body the rest and care it deserves. Unsuccessful people do not see their body as a tool that should be well managed and taken care of, and with this can occur either a physical or a mental breakdown.

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8. They spend time with the wrong people

To trigger success time has to be spent with the right people who are there to offer you the energy, support and direction to keep on going. But the unsuccessful people will rather sit and settle with people who are unsuccessful like them and do not have the ambition to ever be successful.

9. They don’t take risks

No one likes to be disappointed and meet failure. Yet failure is an important element in attaining success. Unsuccessful people have a wrong perspective of failure and are willing not to fail rather than commit themselves to a task or a possible opportunity.

10. They never appreciate others

Unsuccessful people are not willing to share any credit with anyone. They think it bad about them and do not believe in teamwork. It takes appreciation to be successful. You have to be willing to help others grow if you want to be successful.

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11. They are not passionate about work

Unsuccessful people think work results in getting paid or as a survival strategy. Rather success requires you to be passionate about work and willing to help others get what they want.

12. They do not value their time

Unsuccessful people never place a value on their time. To succeed, time has to be managed efficiently and spent on productive pursuits that will lead you to your goals.

13. They are not willing to delay gratification

We live in a “now” age when you want your desires met immediately. Unsuccessful people are not willing to delay gratification or wait for their actions to yield results. It takes patience, tolerance and resilience to pass through challenges and become successful.

14. They are not willing to improve

Unsuccessful people are only positioned for the status quo and not willing to change, adapt or improve. To be successful you have to be willing to constantly develop and improve yourself to match your goals and desires.

15. They don’t believe in themselves.

You have to be self-aware and know what you are capable of achieving. Unsuccessful people are not aware of how much they can achieve and thus doubt their potential or abilities.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

You go to the gym to train your muscles. You run outside or go for hikes to train your endurance. Or, maybe you do neither of those, but still wish you exercised more.

Well, here is how to train one of the most important parts of your body: your brain.

When you train your brain, you will:

  • Avoid embarrassing situations. You remember his face, but what was his name?
  • Be a faster learner in all sorts of different skills. No problem for you to pick up a new language or new management skill.
  • Avoid diseases that hit as you get older. Alzheimer’s will not be affecting you.

So how to train your brain and improve your cognitive skills?

1. Work your memory

Twyla Tharp, a NYC-based renowned choreographer has come up with the following memory workout:

When she watches one of her performances, she tries to remember the first twelve to fourteen corrections she wants to discuss with her cast without writing them down.

If you think this is anything less than a feat, then think again. In her book The Creative Habit she says that most people cannot remember more than three.

The practice of both remembering events or things and then discussing them with others has actually been supported by brain fitness studies.

Memory activities that engage all levels of brain operation—receiving, remembering and thinking—help to improve the function of the brain.

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Now, you may not have dancers to correct, but you may be required to give feedback on a presentation, or your friends may ask you what interesting things you saw at the museum. These are great opportunities to practically train your brain by flexing your memory muscles.

What is the simplest way to help yourself remember what you see? Repetition.

For example, say you just met someone new:

“Hi, my name is George”

Don’t just respond with, “Nice to meet you”. Instead, say, “Nice to meet you George.”

Got it? Good.

2. Do something different repeatedly

By actually doing something new over and over again, your brain wires new pathways that help you do this new thing better and faster.

Think back to when you were three years old. You surely were strong enough to hold a knife and a fork just fine. Yet, when you were eating all by yourself, you were creating a mess.

It was not a matter of strength, you see. It was a matter of cultivating more and better neural pathways that would help you eat by yourself just like an adult does.

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And guess what? With enough repetition you made that happen!

But how does this apply to your life right now?

Say you are a procrastinator. The more you don’t procrastinate, the more you teach your brain not to wait for the last minute to make things happen.

Now, you might be thinking “Duh, if only not procrastinating could be that easy!”

Well, it can be. By doing something really small, that you wouldn’t normally do, but is in the direction of getting that task done, you will start creating those new precious neural pathways.

So if you have been postponing organizing your desk, just take one paper and put in its right place. Or, you can go even smaller. Look at one piece of paper and decide where to put it: Trash? Right cabinet? Another room? Give it to someone?

You don’t actually need to clean up that paper; you only need to decide what you need to do with it.

That’s how small you can start. And yet, those neural pathways are still being built. Gradually, you will transform yourself from a procrastinator to an in-the-moment action taker.

3. Learn something new

It might sound obvious, but the more you use your brain, the better its going to perform for you.

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For example, learning a new instrument improves your skill of translating something you see (sheet music) to something you actually do (playing the instrument).

Learning a new language exposes your brain to a different way of thinking, a different way of expressing yourself.

You can even literally take it a step further, and learn how to dance. Studies indicate that learning to dance helps seniors avoid Alzheimer’s. Not bad, huh?

4. Follow a brain training program

The Internet world can help you improve your brain function while lazily sitting on your couch. A clinically proven program like BrainHQ can help you improve your memory, or think faster, by just following their brain training exercises.

5. Work your body

You knew this one was coming didn’t you? Yes indeed, exercise does not just work your body; it also improves the fitness of your brain.

Even briefly exercising for 20 minutes facilitates information processing and memory functions. But it’s not just that–exercise actually helps your brain create those new neural connections faster. You will learn faster, your alertness level will increase, and you get all that by moving your body.

Now, if you are not already a regular exerciser, and already feel guilty that you are not helping your brain by exercising more, try a brain training exercise program like Exercise Bliss.

Remember, just like we discussed in #2, by training your brain to do something new repeatedly, you are actually changing yourself permanently.

6. Spend time with your loved ones

If you want optimal cognitive abilities, then you’ve got to have meaningful relationships in your life.  Talking with others and engaging with your loved ones helps you think more clearly, and it can also lift your mood.

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If you are an extrovert, this holds even more weight for you. At a class at Stanford University, I learned that extroverts actually use talking to other people as a way to understand and process their own thoughts.

I remember that the teacher told us that after a personality test said she was an extrovert, she was surprised. She had always thought of herself as an introvert. But then, she realized how much talking to others helped her frame her own thoughts, so she accepted her new-found status as an extrovert.

7. Avoid crossword puzzles

Many of us, when we think of brain fitness, think of crossword puzzles. And it’s true–crossword puzzles do improve our fluency, yet studies show they are not enough by themselves.

Are they fun? Yes. Do they sharpen your brain? Not really.

Of course, if you are doing this for fun, then by all means go ahead. If you are doing it for brain fitness, then you might want to choose another activity

8. Eat right – and make sure dark chocolate is included

Foods like fish, fruits, and vegetables help your brain perform optimally. Yet, you might not know that dark chocolate gives your brain a good boost as well.

When you eat chocolate, your brain produces dopamine. And dopamine helps you learn faster and remember better. Not to mention, chocolate contains flavonols, antioxidants, which also improve your brain functions.

So next time you have something difficult to do, make sure you grab a bite or two of dark chocolate!

The bottom line

Now that you know how to train your brain, it’s actually time to start doing.

Don’t just consume this content and then go on with your life as if nothing has changed. Put this knowledge into action and become smarter than ever!

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