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12 Ways To Achieve The Results You’ve Been Wishing For

12 Ways To Achieve The Results You’ve Been Wishing For

Most of our wishes and dreams tend to be that way due to one key reason: belief.

But what if our dreams and wishes weren’t really dreams in the first place and that everything we could ever imagine could in fact come true?

Our lives can at times be quite confusing and at times, exciting, depending on how you choose to look at it. But one thing that’s certain is that we are in control of everything we choose to experience in our lives, baring worldly and natural disasters.

The hard part is actually believing it and convincing ourselves that we can change our lives for the better.

Here are 12 tips to help you make the shift.

1) Pretend that you’re already successful.

What do you really need to do to see yourself as a successful person? If you feel you have to achieve or be something in order to become it, then chances are, you will be waiting forever.

The truth is: success has no prerequisite and can only be given and assigned to the person who doesn’t think too much about it.

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Have a belief with full conviction that success is something you were naturally born with and that success in itself is a byproduct of everything you do. Which in reality, it is. All you have to do is think back at everything you’ve ever achieved in your life and you’ll begin to realize the truth.

Whether it’s succeeding at passing your exams or being lazy in front of the television with a tub of ice-cream, success is constantly around you.

2) Believing that you’re successful isn’t necessary.

Similar to #1, you don’t need to convince yourself that you’re successful in order to get started. If you look back on all the times where you failed at the things you were doing, you’ll realize that it didn’t really stop you from continuing to do it, simply because you had fun while doing it.

Focus more on the activity and its enjoyment and less on the success part, because your achievement will simply be a process of what you do and who you are. Don’t struggle or work for it, for it will come in time eventually.

3) Set goals that are larger than you ever thought possible.

While setting goals is important, they very rarely stay constant due to consistently growing and maturing over a period of time. What I hoped to achieve at 19 is hardly similar to what I want to achieve now that I’m 29. But what has become clear over the years is that I’ve gained clarity on why I’m on this planet. I have a purpose now that I’ve aligned myself to it, which is forcing me to take action.

What’s your purpose? Discover what it is and if you don’t have one, spend every waking moment searching deep inside yourself until you find it. Most of the time, it’s constantly staring at you in the face.

If what you do excites you, then it’s a hint that you’re on a right track.

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4) Become interested in and conscious of your personal development.

When I look back at myself over the years and watch videos of myself talking and communicating, I realize just how far I’ve developed and how much I’ve acquired over the years. And this was back when I had no clue about personal development or self-help.

In short, it excites me just to see where I’ll be in the next 10 years having now become conscious of it. You now have a choice as to which direction you want to go. This includes the choices you make, what type of personality you want to develop and the type of person you ultimately wish to become.

Nothing is left to chance and is all down to the decisions you make. It all starts now.

5) Focus on what needs to be done for that moment.

Whatever grand vision you have of yourself, realize that you can only achieve it by taking small baby steps towards it. No one ever got there by taking massive strides or within just a few days.

Have a realistic plan of action and focus on what needs to be done in that particular moment. It’s pretty intuitive once you get the hang of it. Think about what you’re doing and then ask yourself whether what you’re doing is going to lead you to your ultimate goal. If it doesn’t, then change your decision or if it does, continue.

6) Do things for the right reasons and not for the wrong reasons.

Always have a healthy reason as to why you want to be what it is you want to be.

Is being a movie star or a musician a way to finally gain the approval of people and women in order to finally see yourself as attractive? Or are you doing it because of your love for music and your passion and dedication to adding value to the craft?

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Understand that succeeding at something in order to cover up wounds from the past won’t clear them or make them better. The important thing is to firstly accept your past as a learning experience and to move on from it. Because the reality of it is, whether you succeed or fail, no one really cares. All that matters is how you value yourself, because no one else will see you in quite the same way as you will.

7) Track your mindsets and make notes on everything you do.

Always monitor your thoughts and feelings because they tend to get you off track if you’re not careful of it. It’s normal to feel down at times but if you let it go out of hand, it can affect your progress moving forward.

Learn to write down your thoughts and feelings on a notepad. Or better yet, write it in a diary and use it to deposit whatever’s on your mind. It will help you find clarity with where ever you currently are and provide you with perspective, which will aid you with making progress.

8) Become conscious of your learning.

Similar to point #7, you have to always be willing to grow and improve on a daily basis. You can only really ever do this by keeping an open mind and reading up on whatever material you can get your hands on.

Sometimes, gaining access to mentors isn’t possible. But it’s never a bad idea to reach out to them via books, courses or audio products.

Make a decision on what you need to learn in order to get to where you want to go and seek to acquire them from in as many ways as possible.

9) Share your experiences with others.

There’s simply no way a person can ever be happy or satisfied without sharing their lives with others. We’re designed to be social creatures and as such, gain tremendous satisfaction with spending time with others who share the same values and interests as us.

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Whether it’s through friends or family, always share your thoughts, ideas and ambitions with people as it will help you feel less lonely.

10) Embrace your failures and frustrations along the way.

I firmly believe that life itself is a series of failures, which we need to experience in order to become better. There isn’t a single person I’ve ever met on this planet who never managed to make any mistakes before they became successful.

It simply doesn’t make sense for life to lack failures, else each person would have been born with everything they ever wanted to begin with. In truth, it’s the failure that’s the journey.

11) Learn to remain humble and down to earth.

Through failure, you’ll get to develop an appreciation for what you eventually have in your life due to the hardships you had to deal with in order to get there.

I don’t know a single person who appreciated what they had when it was given to them easily versus when they had to work hard for it. At the end of the day, you owe it to yourself to work hard for what you want out of your life.

Because it’s what will help you appreciate it and remain humble once you do.

12) Keep track of your progress.

While life is short, there are many things that we learn each and every day that helps us grow and reach the next level. But we never seem to notice it due to failing to track our progress.

Always keep a diary and write down everything you experience on a day to day basis; it will help you develop an even bigger appreciation of yourself moving forward, knowing that you managed to outgrow yourself, which is an achievement in itself.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2020

How Does Setting Goals Lead to Success?

How Does Setting Goals Lead to Success?

As well as being the founder of Lifehack, I also help people on a one-to-one basis through life coaching.

I’ve been doing this for more than 10 years now and have helped hundreds of clients reevaluate their lives and turn inertia into progress and failure into success.

A common theme I’ve noticed with many of my clients is that they don’t have any definite goals to aim towards.

This has always surprised me, as goal setting is frequently recommended by self-improvement gurus, performance coaches, and business leaders. It’s also something that I learned at university and have implemented successfully in my life ever since.

If you’re similar to the majority of my life coaching clients and you don’t have any definite goals to aim for, then you’re missing out on what is probably the most powerful personal success technique on the planet.

The good news is—you’ve come to the right place for help with this.

In this article, I’ll explain exactly what goal-setting is and how you can put it into action in your life. As you’ll discover, it’s a key that can open many doors for you.

An Introduction to Goal Setting

Goals can be big, small, short-term, long-term, essential, or desirable. But they all share one thing: They will give you something to aim for.

This is important. As just like a ship without a destination, if you have no goals, you’ll end drifting aimlessly.

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Goals give you purpose. They also give you drive and enthusiasm. In other words—they make you feel alive!

If you’ve never spent time setting goals before, then here’s what I recommend you to do:

  1. Take some time to evaluate all areas of your life (health, career, family, etc.).
  2. Determine which of these areas need a boost.
  3. Think of ways in which to achieve this (for example, if you want to boost your health, you could eat less and exercise more).
  4. Set some definite goals that you would like to achieve.
  5. Write down these goals, including the date you want to accomplish them by.

Now, before you get started on the above, I want to make one thing clear: Goals are not wishful thinking!

By this, I mean that while your goals should be ambitious, they shouldn’t be unrealistic or verging into fantasy land.

For example, wanting to be promoted at work would be a realistic goal while wanting to be President of the United States might not be. (Of course, feel free to prove me wrong!)

If you’re new to the world of goal setting, then I’d recommend you start with easy-to-achieve goals. These could be things such as eating a healthy breakfast, walking more, taking regular breaks from your screen, and sleeping early.

These simple goals might take you a month or so to achieve, including making the daily practices a habit.

Once you’ve successfully accomplished these goals, you’ll find your self-confidence grows, and you’ll be ready to set yourself some bigger goals.

Here are a few examples that you might want to choose or adapt to your personal circumstances:

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  • Run a marathon
  • Buy a new car
  • Learn a new language
  • Travel around the world
  • Change career
  • Retire early
  • Write a book

I’m sure you can think of many more things that you would like to achieve. As the famous Shakespeare line neatly states: “The world is your oyster!”

Now, the trick with big goals (as I’ll show in an example shortly) is to break them down into small, bite-sized chunks. This means you’ll have a big end goal, with smaller goals (sometimes referred to as objectives) helping you to gradually achieve your main aim.

When you do this, you’ll make big goals more achievable. Plus, you’ll have an easy way to track how far along the road to your goal you are at any given point in time.

Let’s see this in action…

Going from an Idea to a Global Success

Everything starts with an idea.

And there appears to be no shortage of good ideas in the world. But there is a shortage of people willing to put these ideas into action!

This is the essential step that will move you from being a dreamer to an achiever.

Back in 2005, when I first had the idea for Lifehack, I really only considered it to be a platform to record some of my productivity and self-improvement techniques. I’d developed these during my time at university and as a Software Engineer at Redhat.

However, based on the number of views and positive feedback I received on the first few articles, I quickly realized that Lifehack had the potential to be a popular and successful website—a site that could help transform the lives of people from all across the world.

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It was at that point that I decided to set some goals in place for Lifehack.

The way I did this was to set specific targets for different areas of the business:

  1. Number of articles published
  2. Amount of time spent writing and promoting the articles
  3. Number of new readers
  4. Number of new email subscribers
  5. Revenue generated from ads

For each of the above, I set weekly, monthly, and yearly targets. These targets were realistic but were also ambitious. In addition, I wrote down the necessary steps to take to achieve each target within the specified time frame.

This goal setting had a powerful impact on my motivation and energy levels. Because I could clearly see what needed to be done to achieve each goal, I found a purpose to my tasks that made them exciting to complete. Each small target achieved took me closer to accomplishing the bigger goals.

For example, my initial goals for writing articles were for just five a week, which equated to 20 per month and just over 100 per year. However, as I dedicated more and more time to Lifehack, I found I was able to exceed my initial goals.

This led me to increase the numbers. Of course, there’s a limit to how many articles one person can write. So when the readership began to exponentially increase, I started to hire other writers to help me out with the site’s content.

From my initial goal of just over 100 articles per year, I’ve used goal setting to help Lifehack publish more than 35,000 articles to date. This is now the largest collection of original self-development articles in the world.

And in terms of readership—this has skyrocketed from a few dozen in 2005 to several million in 2020.

And of course, I have many new goals for Lifehack, including expanding our range of online courses.

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My original goal has always remained the same though: To change people’s lives for the better.

Goal Setting Can Transform Your Life

If you haven’t yet experienced the incredible power of goal setting, then now’s the time to get started.

Build a definite picture of what you want to accomplish, break it down into small, achievable steps, and then start taking action!

You’ll be able to change all areas of your life using this method, including boosting your health, improving your relationships, and transforming your career. You may also want to use goal setting to start a new hobby or plot a path to a prosperous and peaceful retirement.

So please don’t wait for success to drop in your lap (which it is highly unlikely to do). Instead, decide on exactly what you want, then make a plan to get it. This is the secret to lifelong success.

Legendary motivational speaker and author Paul J. Meyer said it well:

“Goal setting is the most important aspect of all improvement and personal development plans. It is the key to all fulfillment and achievement.”

Final Thoughts

Now, let me leave you with five questions that will help you think about your future:

  1. What would you like to be doing in 3, 5, and 7 years?
  2. What things make you happiest?
  3. How can you share your knowledge and experience?
  4. Who can help you achieve your goals?
  5. What would you like to be your legacy?

Take plenty of time to think about these questions. When the answers come, you’ll be able to start building a picture of how you’d like your life to be—and what goals you need to set to make this picture a reality.

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