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10 Things Truly Confident People Don’t Do

10 Things Truly Confident People Don’t Do

Confidence is one of the biggest factors that differentiate successful people who get what they want and unsuccessful people who don’t. Confidence is a common quality among the most successful people in the world. It’s only the confidence that enables people to pursue their dreams regardless of the looming possibility of failure. Confident people aren’t afraid to take a stand and change the world; they stretch across almost every field and walk of life and can be a father or a millionaire CEO (or both!).

To walk with pride and confidence, pay attention to these 10 things highly confident people don’t do.

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1. They don’t worry about being wrong

Confident people are not afraid or worried about being wrong. If they are wrong, they are courteous enough to admit and accept it. They always look for the right thing than being right. They find it as a chance to learn and improve. A truly confident person can admit to anyone that they don’t have all the answers. They take ownership of their thoughts and actions.

2. They don’t speak unless they listen

Confident people are familiar with a lot of things in the world. However, they always prefer to listen more than they speak. They are more interested in knowing other people opinions and thoughts to learn more. When it’s their turn, they express their opinion more comfortably and boldly. Because they’re not driven by deep nervousness, they can let others shine – or be wrong – without jumping in.

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3. They don’t live in comfort zone

Truly confident people push themselves out of their comfort zone, because they know this is a place where dreams die. Whenever they don’t get immediate positive results, they force themselves to pursue a feeling of discomfort, until they become comfortable at the new higher level.

4. They don’t hesitate to ask for help

People that are highly confident in their abilities are comfortable admitting their weaknesses, because that shows their strength to use all the available resources. By asking for help, they can add to their skillset and learn from other people who are experts in that respective field. When they seek help, people respect them more and pay the person a huge compliment.

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5.  They don’t make comparisons

People with a lot of confidence do not compare themselves with any other individual. They know that they are not competing with no other person except the individual they were in the past. They know that every person is unique and following his own dream; making comparisons would be an illogical and unsophisticated application in futility.

6. They don’t have fear of looking silly

Highly confident people are not worried about being proven wrong or showing unfamiliarity. Rather, they would confess, and own, their failure and errors, and they don’t have a fear of looking silly.  Thus, they will be willing to take more risk, able to recover when faced with difficulty and consequently they will grow personally and professionally to face life’s obstacles.

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7. They don’t quit because of minor obstacles

Truly confident people may fall several times, but each time they will rise again. They acknowledge failure as a mandatory part of the growth development. They are like a detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work. After modifying their plan, they try again (but better this time). –

8. They don’t point the finger of blame

Highly confident people set themselves accountable for their own actions. They know that they have to be responsible and answerable for their own life actions, as self-accountability is the base of empowerment.

9. They don’t need constant assurance from others

Successful and confident people recognize the value of self-belief to achieve success and they possess enduring self-belief. They feel well-meaning of success, pleasure and prosperity.

10. They don’t require permission to act

Truly confident people take actions without any reluctance. Each day, they remind themselves, “If not me, then who?” As they trust themselves, they feel comfortable being in charge of what they think, do and give. They do ask for assistance and guidance, but at the end they trust their insight as they know it will never let them down.

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Tayyab Babar

Tayyab is a PR/Marketing consultant. He writes about work, productivity and tech tips at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on March 31, 2020

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you wish you could procrastinate less? We all know how debilitating procrastination can make us feel, and it seems to be a challenge we all share. Procrastination is one of the biggest hindrances to moving forward and doing the things that we want to in life.

There are many reasons why you might be procrastinating, and sometimes, it is really difficult to pinpoint why. You might be procrastinating because of something related to the past, present, or future (they are all intertwined), or it could be as simple as biological factors. Whatever the reason, most of us follow a cycle when we procrastinate, from the moment we decide to do something to actually getting it done, or in this case, not getting it done.

The Vicious Procrastination Cycle

For some reason, it helps to understand that we all go through the same thing, even though we often feel like the only person in the world who struggles with this. Do you resonate with the cycle below?

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it!

2. Apprehension Starts to Come Up

The beginning stages of optimism are starting to fade. There is still time, but you haven’t done anything yet, and you start to feel uneasy. You realize that you actually have to do something to get it done, and that good intentions are not enough.

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3. Still No Action

More time has passed. You still haven’t taken any action and probably have a lot of excuses why. You start to panic a little and wish you had started sooner. Your panic starts to turn into frustration and perhaps even irritability.

4. Flicker of Hope Left

You can still make it; there is a little time left and you ponder how you are going to get it done. The rush you get from leaving your task until the last minute gives you a flicker of hope. There is still time; you can do this!

5. Fading Quickly

Your hope starts to quickly fade as you try desperately to understand why you just can’t do this. You may feel desperate and have thoughts like, “What is wrong with me?” and “Why do I ALWAYS do this?” You feel discouraged, or perhaps angry and resentful at yourself.

6. Vow to Yourself

Once the feeling of anger or disappointment disappears, you most likely swear to yourself that this will never happen again; that this was the last time and next time will be different.

Does this sound like you? Is the next time different? I understand the devastating effect that procrastination has on many lives, and for some, it is a really serious problem. You also have, on the other hand, those who procrastinate but it doesn’t affect them in any way. You know whether it is affecting you or not and whether it undermines your results.

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How to Break the Procrastination Cycle

Unless you break the cycle, you will keep reinforcing it!

To break the cycle, you need to change the sequence of events. Here is my suggestion on how you can effectively break the vicious cycle you are in!

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it! The first stage is always the same.

2. Plan

Thinking alone will not help; you need to plan your actions. I always put my deadlines one or two days in advance because you know Murphy’s Law! Take into consideration everything that you need to do, how long it will take you, and what you will need to get it done, then plan the individual steps.

3. Resistance

Just because you planned doesn’t mean that this time is guaranteed to be different. You will most likely still feel the resistance so expect this. This stage is key to identifying why you are procrastinating, so when you feel the resistance, try to identify it immediately.

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What is causing you to hesitate in this moment? What do you feel?  Write them down if it helps.

4. Confront Those Feelings

Once you have identified what could possibly be holding you back, for example, fear of failure, lack of motivation, etc. You need to work on lessening the resistance.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move forward? What would make it easier?” If you find that you fear something, overcoming that fear is not something that will happen overnight — keep this in mind.

5. Put Results Before Comfort

You need to keep moving forward and put results before comfort. Take action, even if it is only for 10 minutes. The key is to break the cycle and not reinforce it. You have more control that you think.

6. Repeat

Repeat steps 3-5 until you achieve what you first set out to do.

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Final Thoughts

Change doesn’t happen overnight, and if you have some deeper underlying reasons why you procrastinate, it may take longer to finally break the cycle.

If procrastination is holding you back in life, it is better to deal with it now than to deal with the negative consequences later on. It is not a question of comfort anymore; it is a question of results. What is more important to you?

Learn more about how to stop procrastinating here: What Is Procrastination and How to Stop It (The Complete Guide)

Featured photo credit: Luke Chesser via unsplash.com

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