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10 Things Successful People Hate Hearing The Most

10 Things Successful People Hate Hearing The Most

Being successful requires getting stuff done. When we are busy kicking butt and achieving goals, we don’t need to hear any of the haters. Here are ten things successful people never want to hear.

1. Why do I have to do this?

This classic shows that the individual is not committing 100% to their task. We can’t always get assigned our ideal task; sometimes you just have to suck it up and take whatever task needs to be completed. Don’t waste time whining about it, if you just get going you can always find the virtue in whatever the task may be. Here is an alternative, “I’m not sure this task is the first one I would pick, but I know the challenge will be good for me.”

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2. There is no way this can be done!

If you are working on a project and a difficult portion comes up, this sort of impossibility mindset is counterproductive. Sure it might take some work, but there are virtually no problems without any kind of solution. Successful people don’t need to waste time with this negative comment. The more positive the mindset, the easier reaching goals becomes. Try this instead, “These seems like quite a challenge to me. I am excited to see what solutions we can produce.”

3. I don’t want any feedback

Feedback is key to our growth. We need to have input from others in order to identify our strengths and weaknesses. Successful people thrive on giving and receiving feedback. Saying no to such an opportunity is foolish to the eyes of a successful individual. Instead of turning down feedback try seeing it as an opportunity, “I’d be glad to hear what areas you think I can improve in.”

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4. I have no idea what I did with my time today

Successful people know that time is an incredibly valuable asset. If a whole day slips away and you don’t even know what happened, you are clearly not prioritizing time. That’s just a waste. Get it together and find some tools to help here. Try phrasing your predicament in a more opportunistic way, “I felt like my time was not spent productively today. I am going to begin monitoring my time more carefully to evaluate the situation.”

5. I just did it because it was easy

Sometimes taking the path of least resistance is the best option; however, shortcuts can lead to inferior quality work. Doing the easy thing may be the best choice, but there should be some additional reasons behind your choice to take the easiest option. If you can give one or two reasons for taking the shortcut, you may be on the path to success. If the only reason you have is it was easiest, you may need to rethink things.

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6. Everything has to be perfect

Striving for perfection might be noble, but it can definitely inhibit progress. It’s unrealistic to expect people to execute everything to the highest level of perfection. Successful people prefer to prioritize trying your best rather than perfect performance every time. Go for the more positive, “It may not be perfect, but if it’s the best I can produce, it will be great.”

7. I tried it before and it didn’t work

Dwelling on previous mistakes doesn’t help. Its good to evaluate the past and learn what you can, but getting stuck on it simply doesn’t help. Instead try, “That last mistake taught me something and I am going to make sure I use it to better inform my future choices.”

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8. This is going to take way too long. We should give up

Negativity is draining. Successful people don’t have time to be around such energy. While a particular method may be too time consuming to be practical, constructive discussion is a lot better than overt negativity. Try this instead, “I think this solution might take more time to develop. Perhaps we can find a more time efficient solution.”

9. Yes, Yes, Yes. I will do all the things

Successful people realize they have a finite amount of time to accomplish their goals in any given day. No one can possibly do everything all at once. While saying yes to everything might seem agreeable, it is simply unrealistic. Spreading yourself too thin doesn’t help anyone. Try diplomatically turning down tasks which are too much given your time and priorities, “I would like to help with that, but I have several other high priorities projects right now. Can we find another solution?”

10. I don’t want to work with Suzy because she was sloppy last time

Successful people don’t have time for that kind of nonsense. People sometimes make mistakes, but the past is the past. Instead try spending some time prior to starting the project to identify potential problem areas for everyone, “For this project paying careful attention to detail is key for everyone.” This gives everyone a fair shot at doing their best and keeping problem areas in mind.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

You go to the gym to train your muscles. You run outside or go for hikes to train your endurance. Or, maybe you do neither of those, but still wish you exercised more.

Well, here is how to train one of the most important parts of your body: your brain.

When you train your brain, you will:

  • Avoid embarrassing situations. You remember his face, but what was his name?
  • Be a faster learner in all sorts of different skills. No problem for you to pick up a new language or new management skill.
  • Avoid diseases that hit as you get older. Alzheimer’s will not be affecting you.

So how to train your brain and improve your cognitive skills?

1. Work your memory

Twyla Tharp, a NYC-based renowned choreographer has come up with the following memory workout:

When she watches one of her performances, she tries to remember the first twelve to fourteen corrections she wants to discuss with her cast without writing them down.

If you think this is anything less than a feat, then think again. In her book The Creative Habit she says that most people cannot remember more than three.

The practice of both remembering events or things and then discussing them with others has actually been supported by brain fitness studies.

Memory activities that engage all levels of brain operation—receiving, remembering and thinking—help to improve the function of the brain.

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Now, you may not have dancers to correct, but you may be required to give feedback on a presentation, or your friends may ask you what interesting things you saw at the museum. These are great opportunities to practically train your brain by flexing your memory muscles.

What is the simplest way to help yourself remember what you see? Repetition.

For example, say you just met someone new:

“Hi, my name is George”

Don’t just respond with, “Nice to meet you”. Instead, say, “Nice to meet you George.”

Got it? Good.

2. Do something different repeatedly

By actually doing something new over and over again, your brain wires new pathways that help you do this new thing better and faster.

Think back to when you were three years old. You surely were strong enough to hold a knife and a fork just fine. Yet, when you were eating all by yourself, you were creating a mess.

It was not a matter of strength, you see. It was a matter of cultivating more and better neural pathways that would help you eat by yourself just like an adult does.

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And guess what? With enough repetition you made that happen!

But how does this apply to your life right now?

Say you are a procrastinator. The more you don’t procrastinate, the more you teach your brain not to wait for the last minute to make things happen.

Now, you might be thinking “Duh, if only not procrastinating could be that easy!”

Well, it can be. By doing something really small, that you wouldn’t normally do, but is in the direction of getting that task done, you will start creating those new precious neural pathways.

So if you have been postponing organizing your desk, just take one paper and put in its right place. Or, you can go even smaller. Look at one piece of paper and decide where to put it: Trash? Right cabinet? Another room? Give it to someone?

You don’t actually need to clean up that paper; you only need to decide what you need to do with it.

That’s how small you can start. And yet, those neural pathways are still being built. Gradually, you will transform yourself from a procrastinator to an in-the-moment action taker.

3. Learn something new

It might sound obvious, but the more you use your brain, the better its going to perform for you.

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For example, learning a new instrument improves your skill of translating something you see (sheet music) to something you actually do (playing the instrument).

Learning a new language exposes your brain to a different way of thinking, a different way of expressing yourself.

You can even literally take it a step further, and learn how to dance. Studies indicate that learning to dance helps seniors avoid Alzheimer’s. Not bad, huh?

4. Follow a brain training program

The Internet world can help you improve your brain function while lazily sitting on your couch. A clinically proven program like BrainHQ can help you improve your memory, or think faster, by just following their brain training exercises.

5. Work your body

You knew this one was coming didn’t you? Yes indeed, exercise does not just work your body; it also improves the fitness of your brain.

Even briefly exercising for 20 minutes facilitates information processing and memory functions. But it’s not just that–exercise actually helps your brain create those new neural connections faster. You will learn faster, your alertness level will increase, and you get all that by moving your body.

Now, if you are not already a regular exerciser, and already feel guilty that you are not helping your brain by exercising more, try a brain training exercise program like Exercise Bliss.

Remember, just like we discussed in #2, by training your brain to do something new repeatedly, you are actually changing yourself permanently.

6. Spend time with your loved ones

If you want optimal cognitive abilities, then you’ve got to have meaningful relationships in your life.  Talking with others and engaging with your loved ones helps you think more clearly, and it can also lift your mood.

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If you are an extrovert, this holds even more weight for you. At a class at Stanford University, I learned that extroverts actually use talking to other people as a way to understand and process their own thoughts.

I remember that the teacher told us that after a personality test said she was an extrovert, she was surprised. She had always thought of herself as an introvert. But then, she realized how much talking to others helped her frame her own thoughts, so she accepted her new-found status as an extrovert.

7. Avoid crossword puzzles

Many of us, when we think of brain fitness, think of crossword puzzles. And it’s true–crossword puzzles do improve our fluency, yet studies show they are not enough by themselves.

Are they fun? Yes. Do they sharpen your brain? Not really.

Of course, if you are doing this for fun, then by all means go ahead. If you are doing it for brain fitness, then you might want to choose another activity

8. Eat right – and make sure dark chocolate is included

Foods like fish, fruits, and vegetables help your brain perform optimally. Yet, you might not know that dark chocolate gives your brain a good boost as well.

When you eat chocolate, your brain produces dopamine. And dopamine helps you learn faster and remember better. Not to mention, chocolate contains flavonols, antioxidants, which also improve your brain functions.

So next time you have something difficult to do, make sure you grab a bite or two of dark chocolate!

The bottom line

Now that you know how to train your brain, it’s actually time to start doing.

Don’t just consume this content and then go on with your life as if nothing has changed. Put this knowledge into action and become smarter than ever!

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