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10 Things Good Leaders Say Every Day

10 Things Good Leaders Say Every Day

When it comes to leadership, there are many qualities that can and should be emulated if your goal is to succeed in a leadership role. But genuine leadership requires a comfortable balance and knowledge of boundaries. There are certain things good leaders say that keep their team trusting in them and moving ahead.

Everyone would like to be a good leader, someone who is well liked and respected. Learning the distinction between being on friendly terms with your coworkers and being the type of boss that everyone enjoys working with is important. There are many ways to get your team to follow your lead without coming off as “bossy” or unapproachable. Your attitude will always dictate the working atmosphere, so it’s wise to learn how to maintain a good and positive attitude. Learning how to connect professionally with your team is always an important asset. So what are some things good leaders say to show that they are listening and thinking for the team? This simple list will point you in the right direction.

1. “What’s your take on this?”

In order to be an effective leader, knowing & appreciating what others think is important. Using this phrase will give you an idea of the other mindsets you have to work with.

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2. “I have trust in you”

If you make others confident that you trust them, they are more likely to want to ensure nothing shakes this confidence. As a result, they’ll try to do their very best for you.

3. “I am proud of you”

This statement obviously doesn’t apply when work is poorly done. But if your team has tried its best and you know it, then simply acknowledging that you are proud of their effort is a better point of focus than harping on the negatives.

4. “Thank you” and “Please”

Treating others with respect will usually go a long way in being an effective leader. It’s hard to hold a grudge or be unpleasant to a leader who practices the simple art of saying please and thank you. After all, it’s something we teach children from the very start.

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5. “That’s wonderful, let’s give it a go”

Encouragement followed by freedom to try an idea is another important leadership quality to extend. Failing to see the possibilities in ideas that come from others shows your team that you are not a team player or an encouraging leader.

6. “Where can I help?”

Even if you are not really needed in the actual execution of the project at a particular stage, extending the offer to help will warm the hearts of your team and they will respect you more for offering your support.

7. “I apologize”

There is nothing more humbling than a leader saying “I am sorry.” While some may look upon this admission as a sign of weakness, you would be wise to practice this acknowledgment if you want to win the respect of your team. If you are wrong, say so and move on.

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8. “I am here if you need me”

Keeping open communication is always a good idea. Don’t be the type of leader who is high and mighty. If your team feels you are unapproachable then they won’t come to you with problems, thus delaying the smooth flow of projects.

9. “I am not perfect and neither are you”

Be the first to acknowledge that no one is perfect, including yourself. Once your team feels comfortable they will strive harder to learn from their mistakes, instead of just trying to avoid making mistakes all along. Letting them know that you don’t expect them to be perfect will motivate them to explore their curiosity.

10. “I can’t do it without you”

Making everyone feel valued is definitely the best way to get everyone committed and dedicated to the project at hand. When you make it clear to your team that you value their contributions, that appreciation will act as a motivator.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2019

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

Habits are hard to kill, and rightly so. They are a part and parcel of your personality traits and mold your character.

However, habits are not always something over-the-top and quirky enough to get noticed. Think of subtle habits like tapping fingers when you are nervous and humming songs while you drive. These are nothing but ingrained habits that you may not realize easily.

Just take a few minutes and think of something specific that you do all the time. You will notice how it has become a habit for you without any explicit realization. Everything you do on a daily basis starting with your morning routine, lunch preferences to exercise routines are all habits.

Habits mostly form from life experiences and certain observed behaviors, not all of them are healthy. Habitual smoking can be dangerous to your health. Similarly, a habit could also make you lose out on enjoying something to its best – like how some people just cannot stop swaying their bodies when delivering a speech.

Thus, there could be a few habits that you would want to change about yourself. But changing habits is not as easy as it seems, why?

What Makes It Hard To Change A Habit?

To want to change a particular habit means to change something very fundamental about your behavior.[1] Hence, it’s necessary to understand how habits actually form and why they are so difficult to actually get out of.

The Biology

Habits form in a place what we call the subconscious mind in our brain.[2]

Our brains have two modes of operation. The first one is an automatic pilot kind of system that is fast and works on reflexes often. It is what we call the subconscious part. This is the part that is associated with everything that comes naturally to you.

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The second mode is the conscious mode where every action and decision is well thought out and follows a controlled way of thinking.

A fine example to distinguish both would be to consider yourself learning to drive or play an instrument. For the first time you try learning, you think before every movement you make. But once you have got the hang of it, you might drive without applying much thought into it.

Both systems work together in our brains at all times. When a habit is formed, it moves from the conscious part to the subconscious making it difficult to control.

So, the key idea in deconstructing a habit is to go from the subconscious to the conscious.

Another thing you have to understand about habits is that they can be conscious or hidden.

Conscious habits are those that require active input from your side. For instance, if you stop setting your alarm in the morning, you will stop waking up at the same time.

Hidden habits, on the other hand, are habits that we do without realizing. These make up the majority of our habits and we wouldn’t even know them until someone pointed them out. So the first difficulty in breaking these habits is to actually identify them. As they are internalized, they need a lot of attention to detail for self-identification. That’s not all.

Habits can be physical, social, and mental, energy-based and even be particular to productivity. Understanding them is necessary to know why they are difficult to break and what can be done about them.

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The Psychology

Habits get engraved into our memories depending on the way we think, feel and act over a particular period of time. The procedural part of memory deals with habit formation and studies have observed that various types of conditioning of behavior could affect your habit formations.

Classical conditioning or pavlovian conditioning is when you start associating a memory with reality.[3] A dog that associates ringing bell to food will start salivating. The same external stimuli such as the sound of church bells can make a person want to pray.

Operant conditioning is when experience and the feelings associated with it form a habit.[4] By encouraging or discouraging an act, individuals could either make it a habit or stop doing it.

Observational learning is another way habits could take form. A child may start walking the same way their parent does.

What Can You Do To Change a Habit?

Sure, habits are hard to control but it is not impossible. With a few tips and hard-driven dedication, you can surely get over your nasty habits.

Here are some ways that make use of psychological findings to help you:

1. Identify Your Habits

As mentioned earlier, habits can be quite subtle and hidden from your view. You have to bring your subconscious habits to an aware state of mind. You could do it by self-observation or by asking your friends or family to point out the habit for your sake.

2. Find out the Impact of Your Habit

Every habit produces an effect – either physical or mental. Find out what exactly it is doing to you. Does it help you relieve stress or does it give you some pain relief?

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It could be anything simple. Sometimes biting your nails could be calming your nerves. Understanding the effect of a habit is necessary to control it.

3. Apply Logic

You don’t need to be force-fed with wisdom and advice to know what an unhealthy habit could do to you.

Late-night binge-watching just before an important presentation is not going to help you. Take a moment and apply your own wisdom and logic to control your seemingly nastily habits.

4. Choose an Alternative

As I said, every habit induces some feeling. So, it could be quite difficult to get over it unless you find something else that can replace it. It can be a simple non-harming new habit that you can cultivate to get over a bad habit.

Say you have the habit of banging your head hard when you are angry. That’s going to be bad for you. Instead, the next time you are angry, just take a deep breath and count to 10. Or maybe start imagining yourself on a luxury yacht. Just think of something that will work for you.

5. Remove Triggers

Get rid of items and situations that can trigger your bad habit.

Stay away from smoke breaks if you are trying to quit it. Remove all those candy bars from the fridge if you want to control your sweet cravings.

6. Visualize Change

Our brains can be trained to forget a habit if we start visualizing the change. Serious visualization is retained and helps as a motivator in breaking the habit loop.

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For instance, to replace your habit of waking up late, visualize yourself waking up early and enjoying the early morning jog every day. By continuing this, you would naturally feel better to wake up early and do your new hobby.

7. Avoid Negative Talks and Thinking

Just as how our brain is trained to accept a change in habit, continuous negative talk and thinking could hamper your efforts put into breaking a habit.

Believe you can get out of it and assert yourself the same.

Final Thoughts

Changing habits isn’t easy, so do not expect an overnight change!

Habits took a long time to form. It could take a while to completely break out of it. You will have to accept that sometimes you may falter in your efforts. Don’t let negativity seep in when it seems hard. Keep going at it slowly and steadily.

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