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Lower Your Stress In 6 Easy Steps

Lower Your Stress In 6 Easy Steps

The best way to lower stress is by changing the way you see the things. Stress is an unnatural inner state that occurs when you lose your inner balance. Stress can be positive, like being so excited you’re ready to jump out of your pants; it can also be negative, and come in the form of worries or sadness. It doesn’t work in the long-term to live in extremes of black and white. And it is essential to learn to keep your inner balance no matter what is happening around or inside you.

It doesn’t mean you don’t care or you don’t pay attention or don’t enjoy things, but you choose to live each moment with delight and acceptance and refuse to let the outer world determine your inner feelings. If you worry here and now, you create more worries in future. Learning to be in balance is one step closer to harmony.

Stress creates chaos in your thoughts and feelings; it can cause you to lose your goal, faith and the present moment.

1. You can’t control time, others or the way the things happen.

There are things you can and you should control—your mind and your reactions to situations. And there are things you can’t control—time, other people, etc. When you mix those things, you think you know how things should be, and you get stressed.

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Time is the main reason why people get stressed: to be on time, to meet the deadline, to manage to do all things which are planned. But you can’t do more by chasing time. The more you are in a hurry, the faster time goes. When you are in a rush because you are late, at every intersection, there is a red light, and you get angry.

But when you look at it from another perspective, you accept that there is a reason why everything happens the way it does. Maybe you are being saved from something what could happen if you arrive there 5 minutes earlier. Or maybe you can use the time to prepare yourself and have a more successful meeting. Trust time; trust the Universe. Try not to push time, but rather, smoothly flow through it.

2. Success and failure are just chances to learn.

Success and failure do not determine how you feel and who you are. Who you are is more than that. The mind focuses on the visible results so much that you totally forget that anything that happens in this world is an opportunity for you to learn a lesson and grow. When you stop wasting your energy by judging what you have done or haven’t done and whether it is good or bad, you see that there is no need to stress about it. At the end of the day, take a look back, stop the rush and see how much you have received from everything that has happened with you that day.

3. Don’t ask too much from yourself and others.

When you have a goal, most of the time, you want to achieve it as soon as possible, creating tension. It is not about how fast you will do it, but how you will achieve it.

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4. Learn to cooperate.

Everybody lives in their own imagination and has a vision of how things should be done. You want to make everything happen as you have imagined; the same goes for the other person—he or she wants to do things his or her own way. It is good when both ways match, but if not, you can make a lot of stress for each other. Try not to control the outer world; instead, cooperate with it. Talk, listen and look for solutions together.

5. How does it look in reality?

The mind can set up anything, and make you stress about what it has created. So from time to time, you have to step out of any situation and take a look at it with a fresh mind, without any desires or needs. Look from a different angle and perhaps you can notice that your mind has created your “problems.”

6. Relax and exercise.

When you are tired physically, you have no energy to inwardly battle stress. Any exercise helps to clear your mind and release the tension. Relaxation helps you to recharge yourself. There are so many ways to be physically active and relax; just give yourself a time, choose one and do it.

 

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I do believe that anybody can learn to have inner balance, no matter what happens in the outer world. Regardless of how much you have to do or what important meetings or presentations are coming up, you can always choose to stay calm within and to become more aware of everything that you experience.

It is all about how you see the things and how you react to them. Your mind creates your own reality; if you see the stress, it is there. But there is always a tranquility and light. Try harder and make it be your daily habit to feel the light touch of Subtle World and be faithful. Each day, learn to change your consciousness and see things differently.

 

“And in the end I think I’ve learned the final lesson from my travels in time; and I’ve even gone one step further than my father did: The truth is I now don’t travel back at all, not even for the day, I just try to live every day as if I’ve deliberately come back to this one day, to enjoy it, as if it was the full final day of my extraordinary, ordinary life.”

Tim from About Time

What is your special secret which helps you to cope with stress?

Featured photo credit: Finding Balance/woodleywonderworks via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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