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Homesick? 9 Simple Ways to Feel At Home Wherever You Are

Homesick? 9 Simple Ways to Feel At Home Wherever You Are

Whether you are moving abroad for work, are a student choosing to study overseas, or you have decided to make that sea change, the idea of finding a new home can be very daunting.

Anyone with the travel bug will agree that having ‘homes’ in so many different places can paradoxically cause you to feel like having no home at all. It is very true that home is where the heart is, but that can be difficult when the emotional and spiritual hearts also move from place to place. Here are 9 simple ways to truly feel at home regardless of where you are:

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1. Create that Safe Place.

Wherever you find yourself, set up your room in a similar fashion. Humans find comfort in what is familiar, so something as simple as the position of your bed, the direction you face when you sleep, or where you typically put your desk are all very effective in allowing you to feel at home.

2. Get a Little Sentimental.

Everyone has a sentimental piece that they cherish. It may be your grandmother’s ring, your father’s watch, or that  encouraging letter from a friend. Take that one piece with you wherever you travel. You will find it to be incredibly helpful in times where you are feeling a little down. They are not just objects—they carry a message of love.

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3. Become Aware of Your Surroundings.

Combat professionals, such as the S.W.A.T, are always in new surroundings. Their cardinal rule after entering into any new place to to become familiar with the elements—to take inventory of everything that is around them. This is not only effective in combat, but also in life. Take a stroll around your new location, become familiar with your environment. Allow yourself to acclimatize.

4. Learn the Language

If you really want to be embraced by the local people, be sure to grab a phrasebook and begin to learn a few phrases. If you are in another English-speaking country, learn some colloquialisms or put on your best impersonation of their accent—that always draws a laugh! In no time you will have people inviting you over for some paella with mussels, farfalle pasta, or korma curry.

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5. Get Connected.

Your hobbies and your passions are things that never leave you. Look for groups and social gatherings centered around what you enjoy doing. Connect with like-minded individuals. Many seasoned travelers will agree that as beautiful as a place may be, it is the people who make it even more beautiful. Great relationships are universal and give you that sense of home.

6. Commit to Experimenting.

A great way to become less anxious in new settings is to always be stretching yourself beyond your own comfort zones. Always be looking to try something new. As drinkers will build up a greater tolerance against alcohol, build up your tolerance against anxiety and the unfamiliar through challenging yourself daily. Start off with only one area of your life, let’s say, food—make a habit of trying something new once a week. Take on a new hobby, go to a concert, or to an art museum. Make the unfamiliar become the familiar.

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7. Love that Accent!

Nothing beats hearing your native accent pop out from among the buzz of the new country that you are in. Everyone can recall that time they stopped sipping their coffee and perked up as they looked to see where that beautiful sound came from. Whether you go down to your local pub or to a backpacker bar, it is always great to run into one of your own ‘locals’ on the other side of the world.

8. Who’s Your Team?

Whether it’s football, basketball, hockey, or baseball, cheering for your home team is a sure way to fire up that warm feeling of home. You can be certain about making a new friend as you find you are not the only person cheering after that magnificent goal. Find out when the next big match is and where the game will be shown.

9. Look for Your Favorite Treat

You can find Reese’s Pieces almost everywhere—and if you can’t, you will no doubt find them online. Sure it may cost a little more, but the feeling of biting into your favorite treat…priceless! It’s a little taste of home no matter where you are. In addition, there will certainly be your favorite home cuisine served up at a restaurant somewhere—jump online and have a search. If that fails, go out to the store and buy some ingredients, invite a few friends over, and introduce them to some spectacular home cooking!

In a world that is becoming more connected and in which traveling has become much more available, loneliness and anxiety can follow you wherever you go. Go out and try some of these simple steps to make wherever you are feel like home sweet home.

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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